Don’t Make This Punishment Mistake
December 29, 2008
When you’re actively looking to train a slave as a part of your
life, you need to be wary of ‘experts’ that speak of punishment as
the ultimate way to control a slave and to have them do what you
ask of them. Punishment has many other uses in your slave training
life that you will want to consider.
The problem with punishment and slave training is that it has been
glamorized too often in the media and in porn sites. It seems like
all you need to do is whip someone a little bit and they become
complacent and obedient. Of course, this would be a nice thing for
a Dominant and it would certainly make their lives easier, but this
is not always the case.
In fact, in many situations, the use of punishment backfires in
terms of how it is supposed to help a slave training situation.
While it is meant to create obedience, it often inspires
disobedience and the idea of ‘topping from the bottom.’ Though this
is more often the case with beginning Dominants and experienced
Subs; that does not mean that punishment doesn’t need to be
something to think about when beginning a new BDSM relationship.
The fact of the matter is that many Subs like punishment. A lot.
They want to be whipped, flogged, and degraded because it turns
them on and makes them feel pleasure. While there’s nothing
inherently wrong with this reaction, the idea of a slave and Master
relationship is one in which the Master determines how the slave is
feeling at any given time. When the slave does something wrong,
they should be upset that they have failed their Master, not happy
to be receiving punishment.
Some subs will go so far as to disobey on purpose in order to
receive punishments. This is not going to help the slave training
process and can become frustrating for a Dominant that is new to
their position or who simply doesn’t have the experience to come up
with other ways of controlling their slave.
What you might want to do as a Dominant is to make sure you are
talking to your slave before going into a more formal relationship.
Talk to them about what turns them on and what makes them feel more
subservient. Most Subs are quite clear about these reactions in
themselves. Subs know when they are masochistic and when verbal
degradation can reduce them to being subservient. Talking ahead of
time is the best way to start figuring out what is going to work
for your relationship.
But the real ‘cure’ for punishments that go awry is to stop
whatever is not working immediately. Trying something over and over
and expecting different results is the definition of insanity – and
not a good way to have a successful slave training situation.
What you need to realize is the not all punishments you give as a
Master are going to be construed as punishments. Many slaves will
often enjoy the attention that punishment is giving them and will
willfully disobey in order to receive that attention again and again.
To stop this from happening, you need to find out what is going to
work as a punishment for the slave – humiliation, degradation,
verbal humiliation, etc. Each slave is different, but there will be
one thing that the slave in question will not want to do, so it
will be seen as an actual punishment to them – and something that
they will try to avoid in the future with the appropriate behavior
you have provided for them.
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Naughty Or Nice
December 17, 2008
Christmas is upon us and Santa Claus is checking his list to see who has been naughty and nice.
Nothing rings in the holidays better then decking the dungeon with whips and clamps. There is no finer gift then receiving the obedient servitude of a loyal submissive. Nicely wrapped up with only a collar around their neck as they kneel patiently under the Christmas tree waiting to be played with. To hear the carols of moaning and screaming submissives.
Well if you can’t tell, I’m planning on being very naughty this Christmas.
Here is your chance to let everybody know how naughty or nice you are going to be this Christmas. Just leave a message below.
If you’re looking for a kinky gift that will light up any festive play and keep your partner happily under wraps check out these sexy bondage cuffs
I hope you enjoy the holidays
Master Bishop
What BDSM Is Not
December 12, 2008
Just as with any different lifestyle you encounter, there are probably a lot of things that you have heard about BDSM – things that aren’t necessarily true.
Myth #1 – You can lock a person in a basement and torment them and call it BDSM.
The truth is that if the other person is not willfully consenting to this sort of interaction, it’s still against the law to hold someone against his or her will.
Myth #2 – You can beat someone senseless and call it BDSM
Again, unless the person asked for such a severe beating (and few people would), this too is against many laws and is not a recommended way to ‘play’ in a BDSM setting.
Myth #3 – BDSM is nothing more than abuse
Once again, this is a misinterpretation of the true motivations behind BDSM exchanges. While it’s true that many practitioners of BDSM engage in things like whipping and bondage, both partners do this willfully. Just because you’re in a BDSM relationship does not give you the right to take out your aggression on your partner. That is abuse.
Myth #4 – BDSM is a psychologically deviant condition
While the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Of Mental Disorders 4th edition) – might still refer to BDSM and related sexual practices as psychologically harmful, the choice of what you do behind closed doors is strictly up to you. Just as with putting on costumes for your partner or engaging in a little dirty talk, BDSM is another way to add a new dimension to your sex life. And for some, it has helped to foster better communication between partners, rather than cause the relationship to become less strong.
In the end, your own personal definition of BDSM is going to be your own. And while you might hear otherwise, it can be a completely satisfying and safe way to engage in a dominant – submissive relationship.
Everyone else just hasn’t taken the time to properly research it. To learn more about BDSM and Dominant/submissive relationships
Yes, it’s true there are some nuts out there that have done things to give BDSM a bad name, but they are few and far between. However, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t avoid them at all costs.
To Your Future Growth,
Master Bishop
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What is BDSM?
December 11, 2008
Many people who are looking to bring more kink into their bedroom activities start out with some light spanking, maybe a little bondage with silk scarves or some mild role play. As their interests increase and their desire for something more grows research into BDSM begins.
The first question of course is: What is BDSM?
There are a number of ways that you might define BDSM, and each is ‘correct’ in its own way.
Some define BDSM as Bondage, Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism while others take the letters and create Bondage, Dominance, Submission, and Masochism. And still others might say that BDSM is comprised of Bondage and Dominance, as well as Sadomasochism.
In the end, it really doesn’t matter what the letters stand for, rather what they have come to represent.
The main construct of BDSM is the idea of one person having control over another person. This might be a brief encounter, like during a playtime scene, or in a longer term relationship, as in a personal slave or master-slave relationship.
In this kind of relationship, one person surrenders their needs and their wishes to that of another, causing the relationship to have one person dominating another in some way.
While most people would consider BDSM to be a purely sexual relationship in nature, this is not necessarily the case. Many BDSM players and groups focus only on the idea of control over another, and not just in the sexual sense.
What you may want to consider is that BDSM can be a purely sexual interaction as well. Some people are very much turned on by the idea of someone taking control of their sexual encounters and turning them into a release of their own desires in that exchange.
And for others, this exchange of power in sexual interactions or maybe just in the everyday can also be related to an exchange of pain, as in sadomasochism. Some dominants are turned on by the idea of inflicting pain upon someone else, and thus exuding even more control on their response and subsequent actions. And some submissives are turned on physically by the idea of receiving pain in a variety of forms.
But the main idea that you will want to take from all of these situations is that these are interactions that are consensual between two adults (or more). Everyone has agreed to participate in these activities, understands the risks, and practices safety rules along the way (To Learn more about safety issues read through the bdsm slave training guide.
As you can see, the idea of BDSM is a lot more varied than the traditional ‘whips and leather’ images that most mainstream movies show. And if you’re interested in this lifestyle or just experimenting a little, you need to learn about these variations.
Go to the BDSM Slave Training Guide to learn more.
To your future growth
Master Bishop
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New BDSM Training Blog
December 10, 2008
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Whips, Chains And Floggers, Oh My
December 2, 2008
When you think of BDSM, you probably think of whips, chains,
floggers and all of the other implements of pain and control. And
why not? But when you’re trying to start your own exploration of
BDSM, it will help if you learn what’s available to use, what it’s
used for, and why it’s used. By knowing this, you can stock your
‘toy box’ with only the things that you really want to use.
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The first category of BDSM tools is those that are used to inflict
pain. These include everything that might be used to hit the skin
or cause an intense sensation. Here are some of the most popular
ones and what you might use them for:
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* Crops – often seen as a tool used to urge a horse to move
more quickly, but serve as a great tool for giving quick, sharp
pain to the skin. Light and easy to use.
* Whips – one of the hardest tools to use as you can hurt
someone badly (as well as yourself) if you don’t know what you’re
doing. But it’s one of the most dramatic tools and works well in a
public play space.
* Floggers – with multiple pieces of leather coming from the
base, this provides a widespread sensation of prickling pain. Very
easy to use and can cause intense sensations very quickly.
* Electro-sex equipment – this includes TENS units and other
electrical probes that are put on the skin and then electrified
with a separate unit. They can be placed on women and men for
intense genital stimulation.
* Clamps – these are small clamps that can be attached to the
breasts or other sensitive areas of the body, causing instant pain
and sometimes even more intense sensations when removed.
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Next in the BDSM tool box are those things that will cause a
submissive to feel controlled physically:
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* Rope – by learning basic bondage techniques, you can cause a
submissive to be bound in strict positions that allow for little
movement as well as predicament positions that will make them move
in certain ways to avoid pain
* Handcuffs, ankle cuffs – much easier to use than rope, but
not as versatile.
* Gags – used to prevent the submissive from speaking or making
any sound. Range from simple ball gags to spider gags and blow up
gags and more.
* Hoods – create intense sensory deprivation by blocking the
senses of the person wearing it as well as creating a sense of
objectification in the wearer as they are robbed of their facial
features too
* Blindfolds – take away the sight of the submission and are a
great way to introduce a submissive to the idea of sensory
deprivation.
* Bondage Bedsheets – Makes bondage easier and faster to play
with. It also allows you to incorporate more positions for that
added fun and something new.
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There are plenty of other tools that you might want to add to your
toy box as well:
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* Dildos – for penetration into any and all openings
* Butt plugs
* Vibrators
* Chastity devices
* Enema devices
* Latex hoods and clothing
The list of BDSM toys is as long as the number of fetishes and
preferences are. The key is to realize what the toys do and
whether that fits into your own personal preferences as well as the
preferences of your partner.
You don’t have to spend thousands of dollars just to stock your
dungeon. You can also use things from around your house – just use
your imagination. A simple fly swatter works well for pain
infliction and a condom-covered cucumber is a menacing dildo. Take
a walk around your house right now to see what kinds of tools you
already have.
What does your imagination want to do?
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