How to Make a Slave Contract
February 28, 2009
While some people like to play with BDSM in order to add a little spice to their bedroom activities, others take things more seriously. You might be one of those people who want to set up a strong power relationship between yourself and your slave – but how do you get started? When you’re serious about building a Master-slave relationship, you need to start off with some basic rules and guidelines for how the two of you will interact. In doing so, you are not only creating a list of what’s to be expected, but also a list of what you will both bring to the relationship. Just like a business, your BDSM relationship needs a contract. Here’s how to make one.
What’s Going to Happen in Your Session Time
One of the most enjoyable parts of creating a contract with your slave is sitting down and talking about what will be in your sessions together and what will not. It can help for both of you to create lists of what you want and what you don’t want and then to compare lists to see how much overlap there is. If you’re interested in pushing the boundaries of your slave and they are interested in the same, you will also want to create a list of ‘maybe’ activities you may try in the future. This way, you can always add something new to the mix if it seems that training going along well for both sides. Remember that making this list needs to be a two-sided discussion as you don’t want to make either side do something they don’t want to do.
What’s Going to Happen Between Session Times
But just because you play together doesn’t necessarily mean you stay together or just with each other. Your contract should also include a list of the rules for being with other partners. Often, a Master might have multiple partners, but only reside with one. No matter what your situation for you or for your slave, you will want to include it in the contract. This can also include the number of days the slave can expect to serve you as well as what days, if that’s necessary. In being clear about the rules and the expectations from the start, no one will be confused once you encounter any troubles along the way.
Special Guidelines and Rules
If there are physical considerations to keep in mind, a special guidelines section might also be implemented. This way, both parts of the relationship will be away of things they need to keep in mind as they play. You might also want to include a set of rules about grooming and about hygiene to help maintain a certain level of preparedness for a spontaneous session. Others might enjoy adding a section about holidays and special events to make sure the time is devoted to each other from the start.
It will also help if this section includes guidelines as to what might happen if the relationship should fall apart. What will be provided to the slave, what will happen to shared equipment, etc.
Updating the Contract
Since people are subject to change, your contract should be subject to change as well. Every six months or so, you might want to sit back down with your slave to see what might be changed in the actual contract. If nothing needs to be changed, you can both simply re-sign it and recommit to your relationship together. If problems come up, you can also decide to make changes to the contract as needed.
Make sure the day you sign the contract is a special one, after all, you are committing to take care of each other and to grow in your BDSM practice. This is an important moment for the both of you, so treat it as such.
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Are You Being Too Rough with Your Slave?
February 28, 2009
A Mistress’ work is never done, it seems. With all of the bad things your slave is doing, you might feel as though your job is becoming harder than their job. At the same time, you might feel as though you need to be harder on your slave than ever before, but the look in their eyes doesn’t seem to be as bright as it used to be. While you’ve thought about it before, maybe you’re being too hard on your slave – and that’s what’s making them perform badly for you. Perhaps you need to adjust your Mistress-ness for a moment in order to see the results you want from your slave or slaves.
Signs You Might Be Playing Too Hard
One of the most obvious signs your Mistress work might be a little too rough is that your slave doesn’t seem to be looking forward to your sessions together. Even though they might arrive on time, there’s something about the way they’re slowly getting ready that makes you think they’re not quite ‘there’ to play with you. Another sign of possible slave wear and tear is a recent pattern of lateness. If they suddenly are showing up late to your sessions without any explanation, chances are high they are trying to stay away as long as possible. And if you’re suddenly seeing marks on your slave where there used to be no marks, you might be pushing them a little too far.
Looking at Your Contract
While the easiest way to find out about your flaws is from your slave, this can also be damaging to your power relationship. At the same time, sitting down with your slave and looking over the contract will help you both make sure you’re still on the same page in what you want from the relationship. If the contract is being followed, it seems you might need an outside source to help you determine what might be a little too rough for your slave to handle.
Calling in Reinforcements
If you have a friend who is a Mistress or a Master and your slave trusts you to bring them into your session, they might provide an extra set of eyes to help you see where you might be doing harm. Have this person simply observe the next session with your slave in order to sit down with you afterward to talk about what you might be doing incorrectly. Do not have this person talk to you during the session as their input is for you and for you alone. Your slave does not need to know that you have called in someone to help with your techniques.
Changing Your Ways Without Loosening Control
Once you have some feedback on the training you are doing, you can begin to make changes. One of the best ways to begin to loosen the too-tight grip of control is to change the kind of power you use in the sessions. If you’re primarily a Mistress who enjoys physical pain sessions, you might want to switch things up into a more humiliating style of power exchange. This will keep your slave on their toes while also still creating a power structure. Or you can exchange a more physical session if your slave is accustomed to verbal play. You might also want to implement less time with your slave for a while to show that you are serious about stepping back from your relationship if it’s not working out for the slave. This will also give you time to rest as something playing too rough is just a sign you might need a break too.
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Collar And Leash Play
February 21, 2009
Watch The Sub Crawl
Many BDSM relationships focus on the power exchange between the
Dominant partner and the submissive partner. And what better way
to showcase this power structure than with collar and leash play?
One of the problems you might be having with this kind of play is
that it seems like something that has become cliche and silly.
But the idea of one person possessing someone else (as indicated by
the leash and collar) is something that is certain to add a new
element to a D/s relationship. Combine with that the idea that the
symbolism shows that the Master thinks of the submissive as a ‘dog’
and you’ve got a recipe for erotic success.
But if you go into collar and leash play with the attitude that
it’s all fun and ‘ha ha,’ you’re probably not going to get a lot
out of it. This is a form of BDSM play that really requires that
the Dominant enforce strict rules of how to and when to wear the
leash as well as what behaviors will be expected when it is worn.
The collar should also become something that becomes a reward for
being a ‘good’ slave or one that is finally owned by the Dominant.
In most BDSM relationships, the idea of getting ‘collared’ is a
focal point and a sort of destination for the slave training
itself. Only when the slave has mastered the tasks as prescribed
by the Master or Mistress can they become worthy of wearing a
collar on a permanent basis. This collar can be a permanent part
of the slave, being locked around their neck without the ability to
be taken off unless professionally broken. Or the collar can be
temporary and put on and taken off only in BDSM scenes.
Some relationships even go so far as to have a collaring ceremony
to show the linking of the Dominant and the submissive in their
promises to dominate and to serve each other. Much like the
vanilla weddings, this is a ceremony that is very special to the
relationship and can also signify a deeper level for the commitment
to each other.
For some, collar and leash play never goes beyond the bedroom. It
becomes a way to demonstrate the role of the submissive as well as
leading into doggie play in which the submissive acts like an
animal to the Dominant. The Dominant might lead the submissive
around on the leash and have them eat out of dog bowl. The
submissive might also have to follow commands as though they were
the property of the Dominant.
The collar and leash play can also become a humiliation play when
the submissive needs to wear the collar and the leash outside of
the home. Done in a public setting, it’s immediately obvious that
the submissive is powerless in the relationship and that they are
being controlled by someone else. While this is usually restricted
to be done around folks that are BDSM educated, doing this around
vanilla folks can truly make a submissive feel lower in position.
The great part about collar and leash play is that they can be used
as often or as infrequent as you like, depending on your needs for
it in your D/s roles. Sometimes it can be used as a punishment;
while others view it as a privilege – how you use this kind of play
is a personal decision, but one that many others have already made.
Collaring is the mark of a slave that has been accepted by their
Master or Mistress and one that you may well consider to be the
crowning achievement of your relationship as well.
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collar and leash activities that will have your body feeling alive
with anticipation for the session to come visit:
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A Valentine’s Day Special
February 12, 2009
Since Valentine’s day is coming I felt like helping everybody
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Humiliation and Your Slave Training
February 5, 2009
Humiliation is a favored way to begin to create the idea of control
in a Master and slave relationship, but that doesn’t mean it
doesn’t have its own specific ways to work well – and to not work
well for a relationship. By learning the techniques of humiliation
as well as when to use it, you can use this as an effective slave
training tool.
The trick with humiliation is that many Masters will jump right
into using this as a way to train their slaves – without any regard
to whether or not this will work for their training purposes. In
the initial discussions about slave training, the slave should have
told the Master that this is something they enjoy or it’s something
that can be used to help mold their behaviors as the training
continues. When this is not discussed and simply just used at the
Master’s whim, many problems can occur.
If the slave has had any background of true abuse and humiliation
(instead of this “play” usage), they can often become emotionally
scarred by its use. When you simply start humiliating the slave
and they don’t want this in your relationship, it can cause them to
not trust you to keep them safe as well as to become intimidated by
you. They might revert to the slave behaviors that you want, but
you may also be crumbling them as a person outside of the
relationship.
Humiliation can take many forms in a slave training situation. It
can be public displays of humiliation or it can be done in private.
Public displays of humiliation can be as subtle as having to
address the Master as ‘Master’ in public settings in front of
friends or as dramatic as having the slave masturbate in a
public place. Private forms of humiliation can be as varied as
puppy training or something that involves golden showers.
But humiliation can also be done verbally by chastising the slave
when they do something wrong, creating the sense in the slave that
they have disappointed the Master in their actions. It can also
include harsh words that can cause the slave to feel badly about
themselves or certain parts of themselves. For example, by calling
someone ‘slut’ or ‘whore,’ the slave can feel like they are lower
than the Master, which can help them feel more controlled and
willing to be obedient.
Humiliation is often used as a form of punishment or during
punishment to show the slave just how disappointed the Master might
be in their actions. When used in conjunction with punishments
like whippings and bondage, it can cause the submissive to not only
feel physically controlled, but also emotionally controlled. This
is a highly effective way to reshape the way that slave is acting
or thinking about a certain situation.
What you may not realize is that humiliation isn’t meant to hurt
your slave, but rather to cause them to realize that they are your
slave and someone that you wish to control in every way possible.
When you are incorporating humiliation in your BDSM relationship,
you do need to be careful to not hit any sore spots for the slave
that might irrevocably damage them. This is something that should
be discussed in the initial agreement as to what a scene or
relationship will include.
That said, humiliation is something that many slaves enjoy in a
slave training situation because it adds to the overall control and
power struggle between them and their Master. It allows them to
feel more objectified as a slave and more of a ‘thing’ in the
relationship.
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For more specific humiliation techniques and tips that can take
your training to new heights and unexplored possibilities visit:
Keep your eyes peeled for the next edition!
Regards,
Master Bishop
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