Switching Things Up

March 28, 2009

Hi Mistress Sophia and Master Bishop,

I am new to being a Mistress and while I love Dominating a man,
some day I just don’t feel like being Dominant. Sometimes I want
to give up control and be submissive. Is that ok?

Thank you for all your information, it has been very helpful.

Respectfully,

Mistress Dee, Dallas

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Sometimes, you just want to put your feet up. Sometimes, you don’t
want to be calling all the shots and making sure your sub is doing
everything right all the time. Sometimes, a Dom/me just wants to be
controlled…right? Though many people think you have to be one way
or the other, more Dom/mes than ever are switching things up and
letting their subs take them for a ride once in a while too. Want
to be tied up and spanked by your sub? Here’s how.

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Changing the Idea of Control
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When it comes to submission, you need to realize that it’s not
about giving up control; it’s about being in control. Whenever
you’re in the submission role, you’re able to control your
experience within the guidelines you set up ahead of time. As a
Dominant, you might want to think of subbing as not only a way to
relax, but also a way to learn about the experience of your sub.
When you relinquish your control to them, you can learn what they
want and what they need from you. In addition, if you tell your
slave to dominate you, this can simply be another fun way for you
to play out your BDSM relationship.

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Approaching Your Sub
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If you’ve already setup the guidelines for your BDSM relationship,
things will need to change a bit when you want the roles to shift
from time to time. You will want to sit down with your sub
(outside of the bedroom) and talk about what you need. If you
already have a strong relationship, chances are good that your sub
will simply want to serve you in any way they can. But at the same
time, you need to be prepared for the fact that the sub might not
be comfortable in that role. And you might need to go elsewhere
for that submission you crave.

In the end, you need to be honest about what you need, but you also
need to realize that you’re shifting the dynamic. But by talking
things over, you will most likely be able to come to some sort of
arrangement that satisfies everyone.

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Balancing Act in the Bedroom
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If your sub is up to the task of controlling you, chances are good
that this won’t be a difficult change to make in the bedroom. What
you might want to do is to have a signal or a codeword that tells
the both of you who will be in charge each night. As the Dom/me,
you might leave it to your discretion to create the scene’s roles
for the night – this way, you still maintain your primary role,
while your sub is under your command, as it were.

In terms of keeping things balanced, you might want to try to keep
the roles fairly the same, with you still dominating more than your
partner does, as this will help to keep your primary relationship
rules in tact.

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Is It Normal?
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If someone were to ask you if it were normal to change your mind,
you would immediately say yes, wouldn’t you? When you want to
switch roles in your BDSM relationship, it’s not an abnormal thing.
Many people like to consider themselves switches that fluctuate
between roles as this not only fulfills all of their needs and
turn-ons, but it also allows them to understand the two roles more
fully. Think of being a switch as having extended education for
your BDSM relationship.

You don’t have to have one role if you don’t want to – that’s the
thing you should take away from this article. After all, variety
is the spice of life and when you keep things varied, you can keep
everyone on their toes.

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Too Old for BDSM?

March 19, 2009

When the gray in your hair begins to overtake your natural color, you might begin to look over the things you’re doing in your life to see if changes need to be made. If you’re into BDSM, you might wonder if you need to hang up your whip and your gag and go back to vanilla sex. After all, your body isn’t as limber as it used to be and you might actually cause some permanent damage – or will you? In truth, BDSM sessions may have to change gradually as you begin to age, but this doesn’t mean they have to stop altogether. There are plenty of senior BDSM players out there that are still enjoying their sex life, whips, chains, and all. But you might want to think about making a few slight adjustments.

Changing Up Your Routine

If you’re beginning to feel your sessions the next day, and not in a good way, you might want to start taking a little more time off between very intense sessions as you grow older. This will help your body recuperate and it will allow you the chance to try out other BDSM events like verbal power exchanges and humiliation. Those can happen even if you’re exhausted and your back is hurting you, after all.

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You might also want to vary the positions you use when you are in bed as this will help prevent too much pressure from being put onto any one part of your body. Also, if you notice any aches and pains, check with your doctor first to see what you can do and to get it on record that you have these troubles now. From there, you can monitor when they get worse and when they get better – it might not be BDSM’s fault at all.

Checking In With Each Other

Communication is going to become much more important when you are growing older in your BDSM practice. You will want to make sure you have a system in which you tell each other when things hurt or when you can’t actually move into a position anymore. This way, you can both have the experience you want to have without getting harmed in the process. For example, a Master or Mistress might simply get tired more easily, so that might be a factor in your BDSM play that needs to be addressed. By taking the time to check in with each other, you will ensure nothi9ng goes unsaid and unaddressed.

Always Ways to Adjust

The great thing about BDSM becoming more popular these days it that it means there are more fun BDSM props to use in your practice. You might want to add things like a foam pillow system that will help to prop up a slave when they are in bondage, supporting them so that they can stay in position without pain. If gags are getting to be too much, you might want to choose ring gags that allow for breathing, while still constricting the speech. Or you might just want to consider doing more scenes in a chair or on a comfy couch to help makes things easier on the slave. The Master or Mistress might want to choose implements which are easier for them to use – i.e. cattle prods or long handled paddles. Without needing a lot of force, these items can still pack a wallop.

Just because you can get more discounts at your favorite restaurants on Tuesdays doesn’t mean you need to give up your BDSM practice. You just might want to change things up a bit to ensure your BDSM days are able to get better and better – after all, many things taste better with age.

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Budget Conscious Dungeon Building

March 10, 2009

Just because the economy is sinking doesn’t mean you need to give up your dream of having a dungeon in your house. BDSM shouldn’t have to suffer just because money might be tight, after all. And the good news is that there are many ways for you to either start or add to your personal BDSM lair when you’re under budget constraints. All you need is a little cash, a little imagination, and a little time. Before long, your dungeon will be whipped into shape and a Master/Mistress and slave will forget all about what’s happening in the outside world.

Gearing Up Without a Lot of Green

When it comes to BDSM, you know there is a lot of possible gear for you to buy. But in reality, a lot of this is more than you need and certainly more than you need to pay. Starting with paddles, floggers, and other similar items, you can also use everyday kitchen tools like wooden spoons and spatulas to get the job done. Or if you’re worried about splinters, you might want to think about plastics as well. You can also find simple bamboo pieces for caning sessions at your local craft stores – or wooden dowels that work nicely too. Gags don’t have to be anything too special either. Some vet tape works well and is cheap to buy, but handkerchiefs, old ties, and ripped up t-shirts will fit the bill too.

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store as well as hardware store in a variety of types and strengths.
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Furnishing a Dungeon for Less

Of course, you might have in your mind a lot of chairs, tables, and other fun dungeon pieces, but they can be quite pricey when you buy the pieces from a BDSM supplier. Instead head to garage sales to look for a weight bench – a perfect all purpose place to tie down a slave. You might also want to look for a massage table – also quite comfortable with plenty of ways to adjust it to your specific needs. A nice sturdy chair is something you probably already have around your house. If you want a spanking bench, a footstool works well, but an ottoman is best. In terms of adding hooks and other support items to your basement or other room, these are quite easy to install on your own, though you will want to make sure you don’t support someone’s weight fully on these hooks as you don’t want to risk the safety of a slave.

What Can You Buy Secondhand?

It’s quite tempting to head to online auction sites and other Internet listings to find secondhand dungeon equipment, but you need to make sure these items are safe for you to use. First of all, make sure it can be cleaned. If the item’s materials are porous at all – like softer plastics – you won’t be able to thoroughly clean them and sanitize them. If you want to buy furniture secondhand, just make sure it can be cleaned or that you have the money to cover it with a clean piece of fabric. Things like dildos and butt plugs should never be purchased secondhand – too many germs can reside on these pieces even after they’ve been cleaned. Gags are tricky as you can sanitize some of them, but if you’re looking at leather ones, that’s a bit harder to safely clean.

In the end, BDSM can be filled with cheap thrills, if you know where to look. Building your BDSM dungeon takes a little craftiness, but not a lot of money.

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Preparing Your Body for a Session

March 9, 2009

When you know you’re going to be with your Master or Mistress, it can be difficult to concentrate on anything else. But as their slave, you need to make sure their experience is as enjoyable for them as it is for you. Cleanliness is next to godliness, at least, that’s what you’ve heard. Your body should be in the best shape possible for each session you have so that your Master or Mistress continues to be pleased with what they see and what they own.

Cleaning Up the Right Way

Before your session, it would be a good idea for you to take a basic shower and to wash your hair thoroughly. Take care to use products which are scented with scents your Master or Mistress enjoys, careful not to put too many scented products on as this can be overwhelming. Once you have completed your shower, you will want to make sure your genitals are also ready for any sort of play that might be expected well. Taking a clean finger and putting it into your anal opening will help to ensure you are very clean as will cleaning up your labia and your vulva. Use unscented soaps when you do this as anything with a fragrance may cause irritation in your privates – and that’s not too appealing. Pat yourself dry and move onto the next step.

To Shave or Not To Shave?

While you can also shave when you’re in the shower, chances are good you won’t get as close a shave until after your skin has been washed and warmed. Once you have patted yourself dry, apply a layer of shaving lotion to your legs and to any other area that needs to be shaved. Use long, smooth stokes to glide up and down your skin, shaving against the hair growth. Rinse your razor regularly and then repeat in the opposite direction.

Once you have finished shaving your legs, move onto the genital area. If you have a new razor available, use it. Apply more shaving lotion if necessary and slowly shave with the hair growth at first and then against this hair growth. This will help you to avoid razor burn. After shaving, pat yourself dry and remove any stray hairs that might be present. Use a natural lotion all over your body to seal in the moisture of your bath and your shave.

Those who do not choose to completely shave their pubic region might want to invest in a personal trimmer as this can be used on a daily basis to keep your hairs short and neat with the need for shaving completely.

Special Touches to Thrill Your Master or Mistress

If you want to show your owner that you are thinking about them, you might want to always apply the same perfume they have bought for you or that they especially enjoyed on you. This shows you were listening and that you care about what makes them happy. In addition, a shimmery lotion or a self tanning lotion can make your skin appear flawless as they examine you during a session. Make sure to apply these sorts of lotions long before the session so they have time to sink into your skin instead of into your clothing.

A Regular Routine for a Clean Slave

Though it might seem like a better idea to clean up for your individual sessions, having your body ready at all times is a way to show your Master or Mistress you are thinking about them at all times. Take regular showers and be sure to shave regularly as well. This will also help your cleaning routine be more efficient when you do need to prepare for a session. Schedule at least 15 minutes of personal care each day to ensure you always look your best.

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