Orgasm Control Training: They Can’t Resist

September 19, 2009

Like dangling a carrot in front of a rabbit (or at least that works
in cartoons), using orgasm control training in your slave training
relationship can be highly effective. By teaching your slave when
they can and can not orgasm, you will be able to control their mind
as well as their body for your personal pleasure.

The problem most people have with orgasm control training is that
they often think that it’s easier than it looks. All you have to
do is tell the slave not to orgasm or to orgasm and they will do as
you say – if only it were that easy. The problem with orgasm
control training usually lies in understanding how to control the
orgasm for your slave in order to show them how they can take part
in the process as well.

As a Dom/me, you need to realize that a slave needs to be persuaded
to not have an orgasm or distracted from their body’s natural
orgasmic response. But if you can not learn these basics, you will
not have an effective orgasm control training program. You need to
be fully in control of this situation so that your slave doesn’t
attempt to have an orgasm regardless of what you are trying to do.
This will causes the rest of your slave training to crumble -as
soon as your slave sees any weakness on your part.

The first thing you need to do is learn what makes your slave
orgasm in the first place. This seems like a simple task, but with
many female slaves especially, there are things that work for some,
but not for others. The beginning of orgasm control training will
need to be a sort of exploration into what makes your slave ready
to orgasm. It will work well if you bring them to the point of
orgasm and then back away to begin the orgasm deprivation phase of
the training.

Then, you can move into guiding your slave into having orgasms from
things that they had never had orgasms doing before. For example,
you might want to stimulate your slave in a known orgasm-making,
but then stimulate them anally or elsewhere to start connecting
these other points to causing orgasm as well. Once you create the
sensations that they could orgasm from other kinds of stimulation,
you will be able to control orgasms in many more ways then you even
thought possible.

You can also prevent them from orgasms ‘normally’ by giving a
punishment at the same time or verbal humiliation. This will begin
to change their associations and change how they respond to
stimulation.

Another tool in orgasm control training is masturbation for your
slave. You might have them masturbate just to the point of almost
coming to orgasm and then stop. This will help to control their
desire to make themselves orgasm and hand over that control to you
- where it should be. You might also have a slave on an orgasm
restriction period or work with them to have them orgasm on command
without any direct stimulation (this takes a while to achieve, but
it can happen).

Orgasm control training has many different variations and levels
that will help you assert your control over a slave. You can
choose from orgasm deprivation, for example as well as orgasm
control by changing the sensations that your slave associates with
‘normal’ orgasms. You can also change what they orgasm from by
incorporating punishments when they orgasm. The possibilities are
endless.

Once you can control the orgasms of your slave, you will be in
complete control of their sexual satisfaction. And for many
slaves, this is enough to get them to obey every time.

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Pushing Your Slave Away is a Good Thing

September 4, 2009

Sometimes you might feel like you give your slave too much of yourself – without getting anything in return. You might begin to feel like you’re the one doing all the work, and you begin to resent this. As a Dominant, you have the right and the responsibility to take care of yourself as you take care of your slave. If this means heading off for a hot bath alone, then that’s what you should do. But too often, Dominants are afraid to push their slaves away, thinking the slave might begin to resent them and stop following the commands they are given. This is far from the case. Pushing your slave away is a good thing. Here’s what you need to know.

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Saying No Will Give Them Discipline
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Just as you don’t say ‘yes’ to a child each time they ask for a cookie, so should you not acquiesce to every demand or request of your slave. When you do this, you might be giving up your power and your control even though you simply want to make them happy. It’s good to make a slave wait for certain things when it is appropriate. You should give them the feeling of tension that comes along with not knowing if their Mistress is going to give them everything they want. This is especially important in terms of teaching your slave what they receive when they do something correctly. They need to only be rewarded when they have been good, not when they have been bad. Saying ‘no’ provides you with another method of training for discipline. A slave who can wait for what they want is a far more attentive slave, after all.

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Putting Your Needs First
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The business of being a Dominant is hard work. When you don’t take care of yourself, it will show in your training. You might become lazy, bored, or even careless. Instead of your slave bearing the brunt of your self-neglect, you need to stop to take care of yourself on a regular basis. This might mean pushing your slave away a few nights a week so that you can do things that please you – movie nights, novels, etc. Do things on these times away that restore you and make you feel more alive. Even just a few moments each day that are entirely your own can help you retain your control as a Dominant and your focus as someone who is trying to train a slave.

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When Separation Becomes Distance
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Of course, pushing a slave away might also be a sign that your relationship is in trouble. When you begin to feel as though you don’t want to be with your slave anymore, it’s time to question your relationship and then talk with your slave to see how they feel. Have things changed? Do you need more from your slave? If you begin to feel you and your slave growing apart and you don’t feel the need to do anything about it, chances are good you aren’t just in need of ‘you’ time; you’re in need of a new slave. Sit down to talk with your slave to see whether they are experiencing the same feelings you are – if not, try to find ways to smooth over the rough parts of your relationship. Or find a way to end the contract.

Pushing your slave away from time to time is good for the both of you. With this freedom, you can both rejuvenate yourselves and bring energy back into your playtime. Chances are good the little time away is all you need to make your training as effective as ever.

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Prepping Your Batty

September 4, 2009

Strap-ons are going to be a part of your life, most likely, as a male slave to a dominating Mistress. That said, if you’ve only dreamt of being pummeled in the ass before meeting your Mistress, you need to do some work before the time comes to play. Though you might think taking it ‘like a man’ is the best way to show your Mistress you are worthy, perhaps a little homework ahead of time will help you both fulfill each other’s fantasies. You can prepare your behind for that strap-on, no matter how big it might be. Here’s what you need to do.

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Relax, Relax, Relax
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You’ve probably already guessed that relaxing your ass is going to be the best way to prepare yourself for the strap-on, but that sounds more nerve wracking to some than the actual act. After all, your body’s first response is to tighten up whenever something is in your rectum. Your body knows that things are supposed to leave your ass, not enter it. Fighting nature is going to be a little tricky. You can begin to prepare your ass by simply closing your eyes and practicing a little relaxation. You don’t have to meditate, but what you do want to do is practice relaxing each of the muscles in your entire body, which will also help you learn to relax your sphincter muscles as well.

Another way to relax your behind is to tighten up your sphincter muscles and then relax them. Doing this over and over during the day will teach you to become aware of these muscles and thus when it comes time to relax them; it’s going to be much easier. Another trick is to tighten up your sphincter muscles right before insertion of a strap-on or dildo, your body automatically relaxes in response to the tightening that came before.

It goes without saying, but perhaps it should be mentioned anyway – BREATHE. When you do not breathe enough, your body will tighten up and it will clench all of its muscles. This does not add up to a good strap-on experience. Breathe as much as you can during your scene, helping to keep your body as loose and limber as possible.

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Trying Your Ass on Your Own
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Of course, the best way to learn how you will respond to a strap-on is to practice with other ass-friendly toys. You can purchase many a shape and size of butt plug to help you begin to understand what a strap-on will feel like. Try out the smaller toys first with A LOT of lube and then move up to larger toys when you become comfortable. Slowly and surely, your ass will be ready for any size toy, and your confidence will be up as well.

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Trust and Pleasure
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The main reason for the training of your ass is to show your Mistress that you not only trust her, but what you want to give her pleasure. This is not to say that you will experience any pleasure from the experience, but your Mistress probably enjoys the strap-on and its power even more than you could. Recognizing that your relationship with your Mistress has to begin with your trust of her that she does not want to hurt you will help you with your first strap-on encounter.

If you should experience a bit of discomfort during the scene, remember to focus on the pleasure of your Mistress as this will help you to breathe through any tough parts. This will make you a better slave when you recognize your place and your duty to the Mistress you have chosen to serve.

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