Once the BDSM Honeymoon is Over

January 5, 2010

In the beginning, the slave-Dominant relationship is one of excitement, servitude, and newness. This is fun and it should be, but just as with any relationship that you want to extend for more than a few dates, the honeymoon isn’t going to last. You will find flaws with your slave and your slave will find flaws in you (not that there are any, of course). If you want to extend the honeymoon and all of its excitement, you need to keep a few things in mind as the Dominant.

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Change is Good
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The main reason why BDSM relationships begin to falter, as so many other relationships do, is because you fall into a rut. This is especially the case with newer Dom/mes and slaves as you may not have a wealth of knowledge or skills. As a result, you continue to do the same things again and again. While there is nothing inherently wrong with this, it does make for some boredom – and quickly. Instead, you need to make sure you’re changing things up as the Dominant. Maybe your slave needs to be given other tasks or you need to change the way you train your slave. Simply find a few things to switch up and things can feel new again.

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Challenges for All
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The challenge of slave training is that you’re trying to mold a slave into a certain form you have in mind. In order to do this over the long term, you need to make sure you are challenging each other. The slave needs to be challenged to do more, to work harder, and to see just how much pain they can take. As the Dominant, you need to set new goals for your slave in each session, helping them grow into their role and to feel like they are making progress.

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Change the Scenery
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Just a simple change in the location of your sessions can make a BDSM relationship feel more exciting. Take your slave to a hotel room or to another location with which they are not familiar. This will help the slave feel as though they are not in control, which they are not. As a result, the slave will need to be more obedient and they will need to be even more subservient to find out what you want in this new situation.

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Assess Your Goals
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At the same time, if you’re finding that both you as the Mistress and your slave just aren’t enjoying things anymore, it might be time to reassess your relationship and the goals. Perhaps you just wanted a brief fling with a slave and not a long term situation. That’s fine. But sitting down to find out what you both want is crucial so that you’re not wasting each other’s time or energy. When all else fails, talk out the situation to see what you might need to change.

BDSM training is not simple and it’s not easy at times. But when you keep communication lines open and creativity as a priority, you can avoid that lull or that boredom in your relationship. While you might still encounter some times of dullness, at least now you know how to break free.

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Master Bishop

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Slave or Submissive: What Do You Want?

January 5, 2010

In the world of BDSM, there are a number of different ways to define your relationship. For example, you might be a submissive to a partner, but do you want to be a true slave or a submissive? While all slaves are submissives, not all submissives are slaves. And that’s where it can get a little confusing. Whether you’re in a BDSM relationship now or you long for one in the future, it’s time to think about how you define your role in relation to your Dom/me.

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The Slave and Dominant
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If you were to fantasize about being dominating by someone else, you’re probably going to first think of the stereotypical slave and Dom/me relationship. Within this arrangement, the slave is going to completely submit to their Dominant on all levels – physically, emotionally, and mentally. This slave might be a full time slave or they might simply be committed to training with only one Dom/me. They would complete a course of training in order to serve their Dom/me in some way. No matter where they were at or who they were with, their Dom/me would be the one who calls the shots.

This is an intensive relationship in which the Dom/me focuses their attention on creating a perfect slave, however this might be defined for them. The slave would probably sign a formal contract as well, agreeing to certain terms and activities within the relationship. These two people are often romantically linked as well, sharing sexual contact as well as slave training.

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The Submissive and Dominant
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However, if you’re interested in just being submissive to a Dominant figure from time to time, then you might be more of a submissive than a slave. A submissive agrees to hand over control to someone else for an agreed amount of time. They might be in a relationship with someone else and have BDSM encounters on occasion, but they are probably not undergoing any sort of training schedule. They simply allow someone else to dominate them, with certain rules and restrictions and an agreement beforehand.

This submission might spread to the real world as well, but more often than not, a submissive is someone who only submits within the bedroom or dungeon. A slave is always going to be submissive to their Dom/me, so slaves are automatically submissives as well.

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Both is Better?
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As with any relationship you might have with someone else, you need to make sure this is something that makes you happy. For some, the idea of only giving over some of their control, some of the time is just not enough. So, you might be someone who wants to find a partner who will dominate them all of the time – leading to a slave and submissive lifestyle or arrangement. This tends to yield more results in terms of training a slave to be a certain way or to maintain a certain state of mind more often than not. However, these sorts of slave relationships are more time and energy consuming, so they are not always realistic for the majority of relationships.

Whether you call yourself slave or submissive or both, your dedication to the role you choose will allow you to get the most from it. Sit down with your partner to talk about what you envision and then see what they are able to do and able to give to you in return. You might find that this sort of slave relationship fantasy is not going to work out at the current moment – but it might in a few months or years. Thus, you can start off with submissive trysts and work your way up to more and more control.

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P.S. If you found this e-course helpful, e-mail your friends
right now and let them know about it!

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Happy Kinky Year

January 4, 2010

The end of the year has come and gone. 2010 has just begun. With the New Year many people begin to reflect on the past year. They think about all the good things they have experienced but usually what sticks out are all the naughty things.

Naughty things they would like to experience again. Perhaps even think about some new naughty things they would like to try for the very first time.

Aw yes the new year is a great time to make resolutions about all the kinky new adventures you are going to get yourself into for 2010. Of course you must always be responsible and safe no matter how wildly kinky the idea might be. Common sense is an overlooked commodity when entering into a new journey.

So from Me and the whole BDSM Training Team W/we would like to wish you a Happy New Year and all the best in 2010.

Master Bishop & The BDSM Training Team

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