Bondage: What NEVER to Do

February 22, 2010

Bondage can be a lot of fun for the couple that wants to spice
things up or who wants to explore a little BDSM along the way, but
when it comes to playing with bondage, there are some safety
considerations that you need to remember as well. Having fun is
one thing, but making sure that you have fun in the future too is
something you need to keep in mind.

A lot of people think that bondage is just about tying your partner
up and making sure they can’t move. Or, for others, bondage is a
game of getting someone to do something they don’t want to do
because they are tied up. But often, this narrow thinking can lead
to dangerous situations. Bondage can be hot and erotic, but it can
also be deadly – and that’s not being dramatic.

When you don’t know some basic ties and some basic rules of
bondage, you can inflict bodily harm on someone else. For example,
if you tie someone’s wrists together improperly, you can break
someone’s bones quite easily. If you suspend someone from the
ceiling by their wrists or their ankles, you can also break small
bones, permanently harming them. But being safe about bondage
isn’t just about preventing bruises and breaks; it’s also about
preventing emotional trauma – the kind that never really goes away.

Bondage is, at its core, a form of trust play. When two people
trust each other, it can be a beautiful experience in which one
person loses control by giving it up to the other person. But if
one person breaks the trust or loses the trust of the other,
bondage can be a horrifying experience. When lines are crossed
that were promised to not be crosses or the person being bound
doesn’t say anything about something hurting or being
uncomfortable, both people can be emotionally scarred from the
experience. And that doesn’t make a second attempt all that
appealing.

To help make your first (or millionth) bondage experience all the
more safe and sound, here are some basic tips that you should keep
in mind when you are in a bondage situation:

**Never do bondage with someone that you don’t trust – This should be
fairly common sense, but you would be surprised to see how many
people will actually agree to a bondage scene with someone they
barely know. Even worse, they will go somewhere with this person
that they are unfamiliar with or even go to their home without
telling anyone where they are going.

**You shall not tie anyone up until you have learned some basics
and practiced on inanimate objects. When you don’t know what
you’re doing, your partner should not be a test subject.

**Do not do bondage by yourself. Someone must always be present, of
course make sure you trust them as in previous example. Never
leave someone alone, tied up and helpless. EVER. Someone should
always be in the room at all times.

**Never do bondage while either of you are intoxicated or under the
influence of drugs – This is going to hinder both of your abilities
to make solid decisions about your health and well being. For
example, someone that is drunk might not realize they are tying
someone up so tightly, while the person being tied might not feel
the pain of their bones being crushed.

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…And that’s just the beginning there are even more safety issues
you must understand before trying bondage. To learn more visit:
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What you need to realize is that bondage is a game, but it’s a game
that needs to be played with safety in mind. Because you are
working with the issues of trust and bodily safety, you need to
keep in mind that the human body and mind are fragile. There are a
number of ways that you can make sure that your bondage scene is
safe – learn about proper ways to tie and what can harm the body,
don’t do bondage with someone that you don’t know, or when either
of you is intoxicated. But you also need to create a true feeling
of trust so that you both get what you want from the scene.

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Regards,

Mistress Sophia
& Master Bishop

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**Please note that bondage is only meant for adults 18+ years of age
and older who are freely willing and consenting to participate in
the activity. Bondage is never meant to hold someone against their
will EVER!

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Dropping Your Defenses for Your Dominant

February 10, 2010

While being a slave might be all that you’ve dreamed of doing in your life, that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Being a slave to a powerful Dominant can be just as challenging as any other relationship in your life, if not more so. Not only are you giving your body to another person, but you are also giving over your mind and your actions to this person. It’s really no wonder that it is difficult for some slaves to completely turn over their minds and hearts to their Dominant. But dropping your defenses is the best way to become the best slave you can – and to learn the most from your Dom/me in the process.

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Question Your Trust and How to Restore It
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Trust is a tricky think in any relationship. While it seems like a virtue we all have, our minds like to play games with us, often games we can not recognize. In a BDSM relationship, we might be put into difficult physical positions that cause your body to worry that it will be hurt permanently. As a result, you have troubles letting go of these worries which can then lead to issues of trust. You may have a safe word or an understanding between yourself and the Dominant that you can stop at any time, but if you don’t have inherent trust, you might never see just how much you can trust your relationship.

What you need to do is to let the Dom/me take over during the scene. You need to remind yourself again and again that you have agreed to be with Them for a reason and that They always has your best interests at heart. Allow your Dominant to be in control and you will find that trust comes more easily, that you’re not worried or thinking about what might happen during your training. You can just be trained.

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Honesty is the Best Policy
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If you are having troubles trusting your Dom/me, it’s time for a sit down. Perhaps just hearing from your Dominant that They promise not to hurt you in ways you have not agreed to be hurt will allow you to trust more. Talk about possible reasons why your Dom/me may not be trustworthy in your eyes. A good Dominant will want to address these concerns and they will want to work with you to continue to develop your relationship together. Sometimes, when a Dom/me is newer, they might be doing this inadvertently to crumble the trust between you. But these situations can be fixed with honest communication.

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Leave Your Life at the Doorstep
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One of the things you need to do as a slave is to leave your ‘other’ life at the doorstep when it’s time to be with your Dom/me. You need to make sure that your worries, your woes, and any other concerns are left outside of the dungeon where you are giving over your will and your decisions to your Dominant. You might want to have a different name when you’re in the dungeon to help you separate your lives or you might want to completely strip down once you are in the presence of your Dom/me. These can help you to physically as well as emotionally drop any remaining defenses from the day.

No matter how long you have been a slave, you will always need to check to make sure you are dropping your defenses as much as possible. The more you give over to your training and to your Dominant, the more you will gain from the training time you do spend together.

With that said, always respect your own limits. If you have said in the past that you will not do something, then hold your ground. Not performing a certain off limit task, is by no way not trusting your Dominant, it is just you ensuring your own safety and sanity. Your Dominant must respect that and if they do not, then they are not someone that you should put your trust into.

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Regards,

Master Bishop
&
Mistress Sophia

support@bdsmtrainingacademy.com

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The Question of When to Discipline

February 9, 2010

Once you’ve gotten your BDSM routine down pat, chances are good that you may have troubles with discipline…that is, when to discipline. Chances are good that you just want to discipline your sub all the time, but that’s just not a likely scenario – we all have to work, after all. And domination of your sub is much more easily achieved when you are consistent with your discipline. You will be able to keep them in control and you don’t have to do a bunch of work to maintain your BDSM fantasies. If you’re having problems finding reasons to discipline, here are some things to keep in mind.

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Making Mistakes?
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The most obvious time to discipline is when your sub makes a mistake. If you’ve worked out a list of rules that he or she must follow, when they break a rule, that’s grounds for discipline. In fact, you might already have in place what your sub can expect when they do break such rules. But the trick lies in being consistent about maintaining your rules. You, as the Dom/me, will need to make sure you are watching your sub carefully to ensure they are sticking to your guidelines. At first, you’ll notice many errors, but with consistent discipline, your sub will begin to learn these rules and stick to them without even thinking twice.

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Humiliation Tools
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For the sub who has agreed to humiliation as a part of their BDSM fantasies, you can also use discipline in this manner. Whether you’re out at a club or you’re simply in the supermarket, you can use verbal discipline or a light slap on the behind to help keep your sub in line. Granted, you don’t want to make too much of a scene, lest the police become involved. But even using warning to your sub about what might happen to them later can provide them with guidelines to change their behavior quickly.

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Control During Sessions
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You will also want to use discipline in an actual play session when you want your sub to behave a certain way. For example, if you want your sub to stop squirming, you will need to use some sort of discipline technique to make sure he or she does not move. The more often you utilize the discipline tool or technique, the more you will be able to control your sub. Think about ways in which you want your sub to behave during your play times and then make sure to use whatever discipline tools you have at your disposal.

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Discipline or Manipulation?
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The biggest concern new (and even old) Master and Mistresses have is that they fear the subs are trying to do things incorrectly in order to receive discipline. This can be a big problem for the relationship. Not only does it mean that the sub doesn’t care to follow the rules, but it also means more work for the dominant one. To avoid ‘domming from the bottom,’ you will need to make sure the discipline is consistent, appropriate for the error, and that the sub is talked to about problems that continue to happen. If they seem to be unable to follow a certain rule, you might either need to change the rule…or change your sub.

Creating a successful BSDM relationship requires discipline – for everyone involved. The Dom/me needs to make sure they are following the discipline rules they have set up and the sub needs to realize when they aren’t following through as promised. By recognizing opportunities to discipline, you will begin to see a new and more obedient sub emerge before your very eyes. Discipline is in YOUR hands, after all.

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Regards,

Master Bishop

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