Turning Your Closet into a Dungeon

May 19, 2010

Most BDSM couples just don’t have the space to add in a dungeon or they’re living in an apartment without another level. Though this might seem like you are limited in the way that you can enjoy your darker desires, this isn’t completely true. When you are limited in the space you have, you simply need to be more creative with using the area around you. This should begin with looking to the areas of your home which you already have – and then using them for a number of BDSM purposes. Your closet is the best place to start.

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Cleaning Out the Closet
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The first thing you need to do is to find a closet which is going to have just enough space for a slave. Ideally, this closet should be in the bedroom where you can easily access the space and even sleep in the bed while your slave is stuck in their small dungeon. Take everything that you can out of the closet and see what space you can utilize. Many of the larger items in your closet can probably be moved elsewhere in order to devote this space to the slave’s new abode. Try to make enough room for the slave to sit down or stand up without being too cramped, though a little bit of a tight fit will only add to their feelings of being trapped and isolated.

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Some Additions to the Closet Space
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Some Masters and Mistresses can afford to purchase a cage which can then be put into the closet. But if you can not or the space doesn’t seem to be big enough, you might want to look into attaching some strong hooks and eyelets to the wall. These will allow you to run rope and other binding materials through, keeping your slave in place until you are ready to handle them. You might also want to cover the walls with blankets or something soft so the slave doesn’t get too cold or they don’t rub against a rough wall – unless you want them to. In addition, including some other sex toys in the space will allow you to easily reach for the butt plugs, vibrators, and other accoutrements you might need. Having blindfolds, gags, ropes, and other equipment hanging on the wall also keeps things out of sight from others in the house.

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What to Do with a Slave in the Closet
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The most common activity for a slave in the closet is to simply be bound or locked up in the area in some way. For some Masters and Mistresses, this is a good way to train a disobedient slave while other owners might simply choose to keep their slave in there as often as possible – to remind them of their place. A slave can be bound up, gagged, and left in this dungeon for short periods of time (remember, it’s never a good idea to leave a trussed up person alone since bondage can go wrong and gags can become deadly). This will cause them to feel altered and to feel like they’re being forgotten by everyone else in the world but their owner. A small lock on the door can add to this excitement and isolation as well.

A slave changes when they know there is a small dungeon waiting for them. They begin to rely more heavily on their Master or Mistress as they know what they might face if they are not behaving well. This small dungeon also allows a BDSM couple to see whether a larger dungeon might be a good investment in the future.

>>Always remember never leave a bound person unattended.
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How to Be Nice and Mean at the Same Time

May 16, 2010

A Mistress’ work is never done and it can always be done better. And sometimes, it’s just plain exhausting to put on the mean Mistress face. But perhaps it doesn’t have to be that way. Perhaps you can channel a sweet Mistress, with a subtle tone of meanness. The meanest ones are always the ones that you don’t expect to be mean. After all, when you’re dripping with sweetness as you’re whipping the heck out of a slave, your slave will have no confusion as to who is in control of them in that moment.

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Use Your Manners
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One of the best ways to be sweet and nasty is to always use your best manners when handling a slave. Use words and phrases like ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ since they will seem out of character for your role. A slave might be unnerved by the way that you ask them to do things, only making them more motivated to listen to what you have to say. And there’s nothing more intoxicating than a Mistress who is torturing a penis while talking sweetly to a slave. The paradox is complete and the slave is all the more frightful of what a Mistress might be like if she were to lose her control in the situation. Just that fear of what might happen is going to keep a slave obedient.

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Keep Your Voice Low
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Another great way to control a slave in a nice way is to keep your voice low. This will show the slave that you are in complete control of the situation, while also making sure they have to pay close attention to what you are saying to them. This is also a good way to ensure that you are able to feel in control of every situation, never giving too much energy or beginning to wear yourself out in any way. And you don’t have to change the way you’re speaking to do this, just make sure you are keeping your voice at a normal pitch and tone so as to show the slave that you’re not rattled by anything that’s happening and you’re not about to give away any indication of what you’re going to do to them.

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Never Lose Your Cool
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The goal of being a nice and nasty Mistress is to never lose your control of the situation. This will ensure that you are the one who is always the one in charge of the scene. Any changes in your tone or your demeanor will show the slave that you might have the chance of getting out of control – and that means the slave will not be under your control. So, you need to refrain from getting to a point where you will just be nasty for no reason. If you feel yourself getting to a point where you are truly angry in a scene or you feel that you are going to lose it, give the slave something to do (counting to a 100, for example) and then step back to breathe for a few minutes, out of earshot. This way, you can gather yourself and begin to step back into your Mistress role without upsetting the scene.

Being someone who seems nice on the outside is something you’ve probably already perfected. But if you’re new to being a Mistress, it’s a good idea to learn how to straddle these two worlds in a way that allows you to not only be controlling, but also completely calm and unpredictable. That’s going to make your slave especially submissive.

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Discover the finer points of using and controlling your voice to get your slave to do exactly what you want visit ===> How To Talk Like A Dominatrix

To learn the skills you need as a Dominatrix go to ===> How To Be A Dominatrix

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Trust and BDSM

May 3, 2010

Trust is something that’s discussed frequently in traditional relationships, but this is something that’s even more important when it comes to BDSM. Trust is what BDSM is based on – and without a sense of trust, a relationship can fall apart quickly and in a destructive way. In order to make the most of your BDSM relationship, whether you’re the Dominant or the submissive, you need to make sure that you are working on trust issues before you even step into the dungeon. The play area is not where you figure out whether you trust someone or not with your well being.

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Should You Give Trust Immediately?
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Just as in any other relationship, trust is not something that necessarily happens right away. In many relationships, you might have troubles giving over trust to just anyone. This is a good thing, not a restrictive thing. You need to make sure you know the person before you can allow them to play with you or you can dominate them. Trust may be something that’s easier to give over when the person you are with has already been vetted by friends, but even in that case, you need to make sure you are comfortable with this person. Start out slowly, just getting to know each other outside of the dungeon before you set foot inside. You might want to begin by emailing each other and then meet each other in a public place. Over a few weeks, you will begin to see whether you are a good fit – and from there, you can begin to play with each other.

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Cultivating Trust
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However, trust is not a static concept. You need to continue to cultivate trust as you play together. There are a few things which need to be ground rules when you are playing together:

>>You respect each other’s time – There’s nothing more upsetting than someone who does not respect the other person’s time. Make sure you both can commit to showing up on time consistently.

>>You respect each other’s boundaries – Boundaries are set up in the contract when you are beginning to establish a clear Master/Mistress and slave relationship. These boundaries need to be followed at each and every session.

>>The safe word means stop – You need to make sure that your safe word is being used appropriately and that you are listening to it. All play stops when that word is used.

Trust is something that can be lost when these rules aren’t followed time and time again. Thus, it’s important to begin to follow these rules from the start.

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When Trust is Broken in BDSM
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As in any relationship, trust can also be broken in a BDSM situation. In these cases, you have a few different things that you can do. First of all, you need to discuss the breach and then work on ways to avoid this in the future. Create a time period in which trust will need to be earned again. If in this time trust is not reestablished, then you might want to consider whether the relationship is working. Sometimes a person just isn’t trustworthy or doesn’t want to work on the relationship anymore. And when this becomes apparent, it’s time to move on, for both of your sakes.

No matter what kind of relationship you are in, trust is paramount in order for the relationship to work for both sides. Since bodily harm and mental health are at stake in some BDSM relationships, trust is not just something to discuss, it’s something to hold dear and it’s something to take seriously.

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Countless submissives and even Dominants are both physically and emotionally hurt by actively playing with someone they didn’t trust. BDSM is not about having new experiences with someone you don’t fully trust. I receive tons of emails every month from people who have been injured by an individual that just would not stop or were emotionally crushed when they gave everything and were unexpectedly abandoned.

BDSM is about having experiences and pushing your boundaries with someone who you can trust to have your best interests at heart and respects you enough to stop when you want to. To learn more about living a safe, sane and consensual bdsm lifestyle visit ===> BDSM Training Tutorial

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