BDSM Without Sex

July 19, 2010

For some, the whole point of whipping and other BDSM is to build up to an inevitable sex scene which is more enjoyable because of all of the adrenaline which has been built up through punishments and pain. But for others, just the pain and the submission that goes along with BDSM is all they want. They might not even have a sex partner who enjoys BDSM, but they might go be with other partners who will dominate them or they will dominate someone else for a night. Sometimes you don’t need to have sex in order to have a good time, though it’s certainly allowed between consenting adults.

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Controlling a Slave
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When you remove sex from the equation, the slave has to work on other parts of their training in order to be obedient. They don’t have sex as something which motivates, so they simply have to be willing to listen to a Master or Mistress because they are told to do something. Conversely, a Master or Mistress who controls a slave without the added help of sex will find that they have to be more dominating in their tone and in their behavior. This way, they can control the slave while also training them to behave in the way they need to behave. Getting inside of the slave’s head without the use of sex can be difficult, but it can certainly be done with regular training sessions which are based on pleasing the one who is in control of the situation.

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Using Sex as a Motivator
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You might also be in a relationship where the sex isn’t something that’s introduced at the start. But over time, as you grow to care about each other or to simply wanting to deepen the intimacy, sex might become a part of the relationship. In those situations, the sex might become a way to motivate the slave in order to behave well. That is, if they behave, then they will be able to enjoy sex with their Dominant partner. By dangling this sort of carrot for a while, the slave will see that they need to continue to be a good slave in order to get what they want in the relationship and the Dominant can get what they want as well.

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Why Sex isn’t Necessary
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Sex isn’t actually vital to the slave and Master or Mistress relationship because the control aspect should be strong enough on its own. If sex is something that is used as a motivator, chances are good the training isn’t strong enough on its own. A Master or a Mistress should be able to control the slave, even when they aren’t going to enjoy any sex at the end. The slave should be willing to do what is asked of them because it pleases their owner, not because they are getting a reward. A slave who is only motivated by rewards at the end is a slave who is going to present more problems for their Master or Mistress. This is a slave who has been spoiled when they think they should be rewarded for their hard work.

BDSM without sex is quite common in groups of BDSM lovers. Those who are interested in testing out power roles and dominance might simply want to dominate a person for a night to see how it feels or just to see what they can train a slave to do. And then they can choose to go home, without sex being a part of the agreement. While sex is often very enjoyable with BDSM – it is not crucial.

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Working with an Inexperienced Master

July 5, 2010

Maybe you’ve just gotten back to the BDSM world and you’re trying to find a new Master to serve. You’ve looked around BDSM dating sites and you’ve been talking to a guy who is more than willing to dominate you. It’s exciting. It’s refreshing. And you are ready to submit completely to this man. But when you finally meet up in person, you realize that his online persona is much more aggressive than he is in person. So what do you do? As the slave, it seems wrong to control the situation, but if you’re not getting what you want out of the situation, then what else can you do?

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Deciding Who’s in Control
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Every slave has been in a situation when they’ve felt like their Master hasn’t been doing all they can to control their submissive. It happens. Why? Many Masters are afraid of hurting their slaves, and this is probably because they’ve accidentally hurt someone in the past. Instead of simply hoping the Master will perk up, you need to sit down with each other to have a frank discussion about what you want from the relationship and what they want from the relationship. Chances are good that you both want the same thing, but letting the Master know that you can take a lot of training will allow them to feel more at ease in their role.

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Training Your Master?
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When you decided you wanted to be a slave, you gave up control of what happened in the bedroom. And that’s exactly what you want to do. But when your Master isn’t quite up to the task, it can feel as though you’re the Mistress – and you don’t want that role. So, is it really up to you to train your Master or should you be patient? Some would say that talking to a Master about what you want and then seeing how things go is the best way to avoid having to train your Master, but if that doesn’t work, then you might have to take another approach.

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How to Be Submissive When Your Master Isn’t Dominant
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No matter what your Master does or doesn’t do, take this new Master as a learning opportunity to be as patient and as submissive as possible in your role. Instead of leading your Master to what they need to do, simply wait until they have learned what they need to learn, until they do what you feel they should be doing. Listen to all of the commands and try to be as energetic as possible. Over time, your Master will realize just how much power he COULD exert over you, if only he’d try a little harder.

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Should You Give Him a Chance?
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As a slave, you might have found there are many more slaves on the market than there are available Masters. With this in mind, you might be tempted to wait things out with your hesitant Master as there really isn’t anyone else who wants to play with you. But this doesn’t mean that it’s your job to train anyone else – that’s not what you signed up for. What you will want to do is to try to see if things will work out, but if they don’t seem to improve after a certain period of time, it might be time to look for a Master who can truly control you.

Slaves shouldn’t settle for any old Master. If you want to be trained, you need someone who is up to the task. While every Master starts out without any knowledge, this doesn’t mean that you need to wait for them to learn.

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Can A Dominant Take A Vacation

July 2, 2010

Vacations are something that everyone enjoys from time to time – a week or so to simply do nothing or to explore some new city or country. But when you’re a Dominant, can you even go on vacation when you’re in the middle of training a new slave? It seems like a bad idea to try to interrupt a slave’s training process, though you might want a break on occasion. As with everything in BDSM, what you do is up to you, but if you’re worried that your new slave might suffer before you want to head to the beach for a while (without them), here’s what you need to keep in mind right now.

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Why Time Off is a Bad Idea
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When you’re in the middle of training a new slave, time off is not a good idea. Not only is the slave going to forget what you’ve taught them, but chances are good they will also stop acting like a slave. They are probably going to sit around and figure that they have nothing to worry about until you come home from your trip. The slave might even begin to talk badly of you as their Master or they might begin to think about all of the things that you’ve done wrong with their training. This doesn’t mean that you have done anything wrong, but an idle slave is one who might forget their place and begin to go back to the way they were before they first came to you.

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Why 24/7 Works the Best
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A Dominant who wants to train a high quality slave needs to be looking after their slaves at all hours of the day. This will help the slave to continue to learn and to be taught the finer nuances of their training. You will be able to stop bad behaviors before they become habits and you will be able to train in new ways and with new goals throughout the schedule. You can have a set schedule and your slave will know what to expect from you. They can begin to realize that being a slave doesn’t mean they have a day off. Even though you might be able to take a vacation in the future, the less time away from your slave in the beginning, the better outcome you will have with a new slave.

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The Realities of Life
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But let’s be honest – life doesn’t always work out the way you planned. You might need to take some time away to handle family business or some other emergency – and slave training might not be the most important thing on your mind. So, what you need to do is to create a clear set of guidelines for your slave to follow at all times – even when you aren’t going to be around. You will then want to check in with your slave at irregular intervals to see if they are keeping up with their training, even when you’re not there. You’re not always going to be perfect, but your slave needs to see that you want them to always be perfect for you when you’re training together.

Being a Dominant is a full time job, even if you’re not around your slave. The more you can setup your slave with the best habits and training from the start, the more likely they are to remember their lessons and to be the slave you want them to be. And in time, you will be able to go on a vacation and come back to an even more effective slave.

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