How to Know When You’re Ready for Public Scenes

August 16, 2010

Taking your BDSM out into the world isn’t something that’s for everyone. Some people prefer to keep their proclivities in private, enjoying these relationships in their own homes. But if you’re looking for a little more excitement or you’re just curious to see what the public BDSM scene is like, you might want to step outside of your home or apartment to find out how you fit in, if at all. There are some clear signs that you are ready to take your BDSM relationship out of the house and into the public eye.

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You Have Experience
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When you’re new to the BDSM world, you might be excited to have as many hot experiences as possible. But while you might think you’re ready emotionally, the maturity you need to be a part of the public BDSM world is something that many people just don’t understand. You need to make sure that you are ready to handle the emotions that come from playing with someone you might never see again. You need to be ready to say no and to define the rules by which you will play – and not play. You need to understand how to keep yourself safe at all times. Ideally, you want to have at least one year of training under your leather belt before you head out into a BDSM club or another play party. This will give you some time to really define your role as a Dominant or a slave.

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You Know Your Boundaries
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Boundaries are something that you know you need to have, but you may not have them defined clearly right now. Before you head out into a public BDSM scene, you need to make sure that you are ready to share your boundaries with others and then stand up for yourself when they are being crossed. Though BDSM gatherings are filled with people who understand the idea of lines and rules, a newer person or someone who just gets caught up in the moment might not be as accommodating as you need them to be. As a Dominant or a slave, you need to be able to define your boundaries clearly and you need to be comfortable saying to someone else that you do not want to do what they want you to do. If you aren’t ready to stand up for your needs, then you’re not ready to do a public scene.

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You Recognize the Possible Consequences
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Going out into the public with your BDSM enjoyment is going to be a risk for you as well as for your partner. You need to remember that this is the case and that you might have consequences as a result of your actions. If you are able to think of ways you will handle these outcomes, then you are ready for public scenes. If you do not have ideas in mind as to how you might handle possible problems, you need to stop and think things through a bit. For example, if someone from your workplace sees you, then what will you do? If your ex-partner sees you, how might you handle that? Though this is certainly a game of ‘what if,’ you need to be ready to defend yourself, just as you might with any sensitive issue.

Public play is not necessary as a BDSM practitioner, but it is something that will spice up your relationship and help to refine your skills. Making sure you are ready for this sort of intense play is necessary in order to have a fun and a safe time with other BDSM folks. And once you’re ready, you most certainly will.

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Sissy Play

August 5, 2010

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What Does It All Mean?
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As a male slave, you’re ready to do anything to please your Master or your Mistress. But what you have a secret desire, a secret fantasy as well that hasn’t had a chance to play out? If you’ve dreamed of sissy play, you’re not alone. Many male slaves are interested in becoming a sissy for a session or for a longer period of time, but just aren’t quite sure where to begin in order to make this dream come true.

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So, You Think You’re a Sissy?
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The best first step in taking on sissy play is to talk with your Master or your Mistress – especially if they don’t’ already know that’s what you want from your sessions. Sit down with them outside of the bedroom to talk about your fantasy in detail, helping them clearly see what you envision. Of course, there is always the possibility that they may not want to indulge your fantasy, but putting it out there will give you a better chance of becoming a sissy for a while.

As you are trying to figure out what you want, you need to realize there are a number of different levels of being a sissy. Some men simply generalize this play as being a situation in which they just put on women’s clothes and act like a woman – that can be a part of it. Others like to put on women’s clothing and then act like a maid around the house – also another possibility. Still others like to bring in a bit more of the baby theme to the play, adding in diapers and training pants. It really doesn’t matter what flavor of sissy you end up being, just that you enjoy the new role.

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Sissifying Yourself for Your Master/Mistress
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Becoming a sissy can be a team effort. While you might have very clear ideas as to what you should look like, your Master or Mistress should also have an idea in their mind as well. You can start out the process by buying clothing that will fit you and make you look as sissy as possible. This might include a frilly dress as well as an apron. A maid outfit is always a nice touch and adding that feather duster to help around the house makes for a clean house and a fun session.

You will also want to add some makeup to your face in order to complete the look as well as a feminine wig that will help to hide your normal hair. Other men like to add in accessories like pacifiers and jewelry as well, so have fun with whatever kind of sissy you end up becoming.

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A ‘Forced’ Sissy Session
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While planning ahead tends to make things easier for both the Master or Mistress and the slave, a little forced feminization is also a fun way to change up your BDSM sessions. Your Master or Mistress can ‘make’ you put on the clothing in order to turn you into a woman. For many men, this can be an erotic turn-on as the humiliation factor is high and it can be turned into a demeaning scene. Your Master or Mistress can tell you to clean certain things or to do certain things, all while you are in the sissy outfit. They might tell you to talk like a woman or to do certain things that are considered feminine.

All in all, sissy play is an easy way to change up the roles for a male slave. So, if you’re interested in trying out another gender or a day (or longer), sissy play might be the perfect fit.

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How To Be The Best Slave Girl

August 4, 2010

As the girl for your Master, you have a lot of responsibilities on your plate beyond your everyday life. And at times, you have to admit, things are not as easy or as fun as you thought they might be. You might become frustrated not only with what you have to do, but also with the fact that you’re not the best ‘girl’ you can be. There must be a way to do better for your Master and for His needs. To be the best possible ‘girl’ you can be, you need to start with your mind and your body and your actions will follow easily, pleasing your Master with every action you take.

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Accept Responsibility
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Becoming a good slave begins with taking responsibility for your job as a slave for your Master. You can not begin by making excuses for all the things you said you would do. Since you agreed to be in the relationship you are in, it’s time to figure out how to make things work. You are the one who is responsible for your actions and once you begin to realize that, you will begin to see that the only one who can better your behavior and your actions as a slave is YOU. It is not actually the responsibility of your Master to make sure you do things right – that’s up to you. The Master can train you and push you in the proper direction, but you’re the one that needs to take that first step.

You can begin to accept responsibility by rereading your slave contract and seeing what you have promised to provide for your Master. Read this again and again each day until you can recite it from memory. This will help you remember your place and your role.

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Have a Positive Attitude
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Being a slave is a gift that your Master has given to you, so where is your positive attitude? When you’re constantly grumbling about what you have to do or how you feel, you will only begin to show your bad attitude to your Master – and he’s not going to be happy with this. You need to take some time to readjust your attitude. Think about all of the benefits of the position you are in and what this means to your Master to have you as his ‘girl.’ You might even want to make a list of all the benefits you get to experience as a slave and then read that to yourself each and every day to remind yourself that being positive is simple when you remember just how lucky you really are.

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Request Guidance on Occasion
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A good ‘girl’ is one that is willing to ask for guidance from time to time. You do not want to ask your Master about things you already know, but when you are unclear on something, be sure to ask. You want to do things right and sometimes you might need clarification. By realizing when you need more guidance, you can begin to be the best possible slave for your Master and the best possible slave in your own mind as well. When you simply jump into something, it might be a good thing to take the initiative, but only when you know what you’re doing. If not, your Master may be a bit peeved.

Being the best slave possible takes time and it takes patience – both for you and for your Master. But once you change the way you look at your job and your role, you will begin to find it simple to choose the best actions to take, no matter where your Master is and what they expect of you.

Being a slave girl however, does not mean that you can not say no to a request by your Dominant. If you feel that you are not comfortable with a request, you have the right to say no at any time. Remember this is consensual submission, not non-consensual slavery.

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Humiliating Your Slave Without Words

August 3, 2010

A look is all it takes for some slaves to feel like they are in their place. If you’re a Mistress who wants to be that woman who can simply turn to their slave and remind them of their position, you’re not alone. The idea of humiliating your slave without words is one that turns on many a BDSM practitioner, but how do you achieve this sort of practice? It turns out that you can move to a more silent training posture quite easily. Here are three steps to making sure your slave knows what to do and how you feel about them, without opening your mouth to speak.

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Feel Confident in Your Role
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The idea of being intimidating without speaking is something which can be difficult for a newer Mistress. You are still learning how to make sure your slave is doing what you want them to do. And while punishments can come easily, emotional control is not as simple to learn. Right now, your goal needs to be to fill yourself with confidence. And while this sounds impossible, the idea of faking it until you make it can be just as effective. What you need to do is to start by walking into every scene with your slave prepared. You should know exactly what to expect in every scene and prepare for it ahead of time. This way, your slave knows that you know more than they do, putting them instantly into their position. If you walked into a scene not knowing what to do, how will a slave take you seriously?

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Practice Your Facial Expressions
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It sounds a little corny, but practicing your wicked smile or arched eyebrow in the mirror will help you create expressions that will humiliate and intimidate your slave. Think about ways you could look at your slave in order to put them in their place – and then use them as often as possible during scenes. The slave will then connect the expressions to the actions of the scenes, and then when those expressions are made in public, the slave will instantly be brought back to feelings of being humiliated. You might also want to keep track of the facial expressions you make during scenes which seem to be more effective than others. This way, you can practice these as well or look at them in the mirror to see what they look like to the slave.

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Stay Silent
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While this might seem to be too simple of a direction, staying silent in regards to your slave can be just as effective a humiliation technique as pointing out their mistakes and flaws. By avoiding direct interaction with your slave, you will show not only the slave, but also the rest of the world, that you regard your slave as lower than low. Even in scenes with the two of you, simply not responding directly to the slave can be an effective humiliation tool. Talk about the slave as though they are not there or simply ignore them. This will cause the slave to doubt themselves and to begin to feel as though you regard them as lower than lower.

Humiliation might seem easier with harsh words and demeaning positions, but it’s when you don’t say anything at all that the slave is left on their toes. Those periods of silence may mean little to you, but your slave is going to constantly question why you are being quiet, what they have done, etc. And that’s a form of slave training that no book can teach.

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Project Confidence with Your Sub at All Times

August 2, 2010

As the Master, you have a number of duties on your proverbial plate. And while you may think wielding a whip is enough to get your slave to do what you want her to do, that’s only a part of your role as a dominant. In your chosen position, you have to also project confidence at all times so that the slave knows you’re the one in charge, so that the slave knows that you’re someone who will be obeyed.

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Why Confidence Matters
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If you’ve ever been in a meeting with a person who didn’t know what they were talking about, you know how it feels to a slave when their Master isn’t confident. The slave is just going to question all that you do, even if they don’t say their doubts aloud. Your slave should never think that you’re out of the control position. And when you’re not confident, it can seem as though no one is in control, which not only makes a scene less effective, but it can also make your slave question whether you can train them at all.

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Planning Your Sessions
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Confidence comes when you plan your sessions ahead of time. You should always have a goal in mind and a set of tasks for your slave to complete. This way, you never have to fumble for something to do next and you don’t have to stop at all to assess the scene. You want to move briskly from task to task, making sure that you always have something for the slave to do. If you’re concerned you’ll forget what you need to do, simply make out a small list of tasks and put it somewhere you can see it, but your slave can not.

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Prepare Your Mind
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You need to be ready to be in a scene when it begins. When your brain is elsewhere during a scene, it’s normal for you to not be as confident in the results. Before your slave comes into the room or over to your home, take five minutes to breathe and to let go of any leftover problems which might be on your mind. This way, you can be completely present for the scene and you will be able to take charge from beginning to end.

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Trust Your Instincts
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While true confidence comes with experience and time, trusting yourself is the first step. You need to believe that you are the one who is in charge and that you can control the scene you have planned. If you’ve planned out the scene and you’ve setup all of the tools you need in the dungeon or play room, there’s nothing more for you to do. You need to trust that when something goes wrong, that you will know how to fix it, and you need to trust that when you need to change the energy of a scene that you will know how to change it. You might mess us, but that’s going to happen. Being confident that you can deal with the issue is what makes you a solid Master.

BDSM is not easy and it plays not only on the relationship between two people but also on the internal self esteem of both participants. In order to project confidence as a Master, you need to be willing to plan ahead, forget the rest of the world for a while, and trust your instincts. As with everything, practice makes perfect. So, keep trying and you’ll eventually build a natural confidence that will take you into a scene and take your slave on an adventure.

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