Happy Holidays

December 25, 2010

W/we at the BDSM Training Academy would just like to wish everybody a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and all the best for the New Year. W/we hope you continue to live a safe, sane and consensual lifestyle, while you further your journey into discovering yourself.

Sincerely,

Master Bishop, Mistress Sophia, Mistress Brianne and The BDSM Training Academy Team

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A Message Of Love

December 21, 2010

I am finding this letter hard to write, but I believe that it is an important message that everybody should hear. Within the last three months, a few friends of my family have committed suicide. While I did not know the people that committed suicide personally, I did know the families that have been effected by this awful tragedy.

I have seen and felt the heartache and pain that these families are going through. Nothing will relieve the pain and emptiness they feel from the loss of a child/sibling/or partner. Nothing.

I have been told each person that committed suicide was in enormous emotional pain. There seemed no end to the pain and life was just getting harder for them. For anybody who is feeling this way, or having suicidal thoughts, please know that there are lots of people who love you. They love you so much, that the idea of not having you in their life would tear them apart.

I know the families that are suffering now would have done anything to help their loved ones. They didn’t know that their loved one was in such pain, because they kept their feelings hidden. These families didn’t know they could help because they were kept in the dark and that just makes the pain even worse for them.

Please if you are feeling this way call your parents, siblings, partner, friends, call everybody. Let them know how you are feeling and the thoughts you are having. Let them help you, you would not believe how much better you will feel after just being around loved ones for five minutes.

You may feel like you can’t call your family or friends, but you can and they want you too. They want to help you. If you feel like you have nobody to talk to then please call 1-800-273-8255. Its a line where people just want to listen and help you. This line is available 24/7 and its totally free. Anybody in North America can call and you can even call from other parts of the world if you have skype.

If you know somebody who you feel might be feeling this much pain in their life, please give them a call and let them know how much you love them and that you are there to help them. They need to hear from you. I know we all get busy in our own lives and sometimes its hard to break away, but just a five minute call to tell someone you care can make a huge difference.

Now is the time, more then ever, that we reach out to our friends and family and tell them how much we care.

Sincerely,

Master Bishop, Mistress Sophia and the rest of the bdsm training academy team

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Thank You

I just wanted to thank everybody who took the time to write U/us or left a comment on this post. It took a lot of courage for everybody to share their stories and opinions about such a hard subject. For those of you who have struggled with such feelings and feel like nobody cares, please just read the comments below. There are many people who understand and do care.

Sincerely,

Master Bishop

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How to Stay Silent Without a Gag

December 9, 2010

If you’re a good slave, you will do anything in your power to make sure that your Master/Mistress is happy with you. No matter how much you are tested in your training, you need to do as you are told, even if you think that you can not. If you’ve advanced far in your training, your Dom/me may not want to use gags anymore, preferring instead to test how well you can maintain your composure, even during very tough scenes. There are ways you can make sure that you stay quiet during the longest punishments, ensuring your Dom/me remains pleased with you.

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The Focus You Have
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For those slaves who have Dom/mes who are always barking orders at them, you will want to listen to his voice in order to remain quiet. By telling yourself that you need to hear everything they have to say, you will learn to keep focused only on his voice and on nothing else. In doing so, you will be able to ensure that you are quiet as possible. Even if you are blindfolded and you have no idea what he is doing, you will want to focus on what your ears are hearing during the scene. This will allow you to keep as quiet as possible, even if you think you want to scream. And in time, your focus will only get better and better. You might also want to tune out the world around you, so long as you can still listen to your Master/Mistress when they want you to listen. In doing so, you can begin to keep your mind and your mouth occupied in other ways.

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Breathing Out
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Whenever you have a harsh paddle or slap on your body, you might feel you need to scream – but truthfully, you do not. Not only will this call attention to the pain, but it can also make each hit hurt more. So, instead of screaming, you need to breathe out each time you are hit. This is going to help you begin to change the way your body responds to pain, releasing all of the tension from your body which might be making the pain even more intense. Much like in childbirth, by breathing heavy and breathing out with pain, you will begin to take control of how you feel, helping you to maintain your composure during a tough scene.

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Keep Your Mouth Closed
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Some slaves can pretend as though they have a gag still on their mouth, pushing their lips together to keep their silence. You can practice this during any scene, opening your mouth only when your Master/Mistress asks you to speak. This is going to be a little more difficult, but for those who are just being ‘weaned’ off the gags, it can help you to feel as though you can control the noises you make. Push your lips together, keep your tongue on the top of your mouth, and continue to breathe through your nose only. This combination makes keeping quiet quite simple to do.

When you’re a slave who wants to show their Dom/me they can be quiet, even if they think they can’t, then you need to learn one or more of these techniques. While it might not be easy at first to ignore the pain, in time, you will train yourself to be quiet and still. This will please your Master/Mistress and it will show them that you are focused completely on what THEY want, not on what you want.

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When A Sub Doesn’t Tell You When Something Hurts

December 2, 2010

You have a slave who wants to impress you. It’s cute, isn’t it? They grin and bear it through all of your tortuous ideas, but that’s only a good thing up to a certain point. You see the blood on their skin and you notice that they have injuries that make certain positions difficult. And yet, they don’t say a thing. While you have to admit they are being ‘good’ slaves, they are also being stupid at the same time. What is a Dominant to do? Plenty, it turns out.

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No Pain, No Gain?
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Now, there’s a strong connection between BDSM and pain as those who are involved in this are generally big fans of feeling pain and giving pain. That said, there is a line which should not be crossed – the point at which pain might be inflicting pain that is going to be permanent. For example, if you were to pinch a nerve in a slave for too long (because they didn’t tell you to stop), you might find that this nerve continues to hurt, long after the session is over. Nerve damage can lead to even more painful conditions, which is going to make a slave less than useful to you in a dungeon.

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Stepping In as the Dominant
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Your role as the Dominant in this situation is to set the pain limits right from the start. If you’ve started off your relationship with a slave as a bit of a contest to see how much pain the slave can take, it’s really no wonder that your slave might not want to tell you that they’re in a lot of pain. You need to begin your slave contract with the understanding that while a slave is going to feel pain, they are not going to be suffering pain for longer than is absolutely necessary. The slave also always needs a way to express their pain to you, whether with a word or with a movement.

Encourage your slave to let you know when they can not take the pain anymore or when they feel like something is going wrong. As the Dom/me, you will stop, evaluate the situation and then decide whether you should continue. This way if there is a problem, it will be controlled before things get out of hand.

* Remember to check in with your slave throughout your session and remind them of their safeword. Sometimes with such an intense scene, a slave can lose themselves and even forget their safeword.

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Punishing for Keeping Pain Silent
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A slave who has been instructed in how to communicate pain is one that should be punished for not expressing this pain to you. And the best punishment for this sort of situation is to simply tell the slave to go away. Do not see the slave for a while so they have to sit with their actions and their decisions. Tell them why you are sending them away and then tell them that you will see them again once they can prove to you that they are able to communicate in the way that pleases you.

Your silence will be punishment enough for their silence. Few slaves don’t learn from this sort of punishment. Pleasing you is their top priority, after all. Once they realize they need to be taking care of themselves, then they will make the changes they need to make.

Some slaves think they need to be as tough as possible in order to please their Dominant, but then forget to take care of their own health. This does not have to be the case in your contract. Remind your slave they can not please you, if they do not take care of themselves first. Slaves need to be able to tell their Dom/me they are in pain so they can play another day.

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