BDSM Gifts That Keep Giving

November 25, 2011

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How to Become a Painslut

November 21, 2011

Pain isn’t always a part of a slave’s existence, but in most BDSM relationships, it does play some role. When your Master/Mistress is someone who wants to see just how much pain you can take, you need to be ready to take it all – and to do so with grace and appreciation. After all, it takes a lot of energy for your Dom/me to give you the pain that you will receive from them. You can become a painslut, someone who is eager to accept pain and who is always ready for more, no matter how large the welts and bruises might become.

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The Gift of Pain
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Right now, you need to start looking at pain, not as something that you have to endure, but as a gift from your Master or Mistress. Realize now that you are the one they have chosen to accept and to take the pain they are giving, and that this is a special present of their time and of their attention. Each time your Dom/me wants you to take more pain, realize this is because they believe you can take more and they want to see just how far you are willing to go in order to show them your commitment to your role in their life. If you aren’t willing to take pain in order to please your Master/Mistress, you might want to rethink whether you are the right slave for them. That is, if giving pain is a major part of their Dominant desires.

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Increasing Your Pain Tolerance
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Some people are born with high tolerance for pain, and this might include you. If not, there are ways to continue to build your pain tolerance so that you can take more and more from your Master or Mistress. To begin, you need to focus your breathing when you are experiencing pain. Each time you feel a wave of pain course through you, you need to breathe in deeply, helping to bring your focus to your breath instead of to the pain. You can also focus on relaxing your body (which often happens naturally when you breathe deeply), as this will decrease the chance that you will have muscle tension in addition to your pain.

But the most effective way to increase your pain tolerance is to continue to experience pain. The more you experience it, the more you will be able to take it without flinching and without shrieking. You need to ask for more and more, until you hit the point where it’s too much. And then, at the next training session, try to move past that breaking point.

Just because you are learning to become a painslut, does not mean you can’t say your safeword if things become more painful then you can handle. In fact your Dominant is expecting you to call out your safeword. That way your Dom/me knows the exact point at which you can handle the pain they are giving you. While you want to please your Dom/me by accepting all the pain they give you, you must always feel for signs within yourself as to when too much is too much. Don’t be afraid to call out your safeword.

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Connecting Pain with Pleasure
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A painslut not only enjoys pain, but they also will begin to derive pleasure from it. You can do this by focusing on how good the pain feels after it hits your body. Focus on this sensation as being something that’s positive and something that is making you a better slave. This might not come naturally at first, but when you continue to allow the pain to be something that is positive, you will create a new connection in your brain. You might also want to focus on the orgasms that are given to you after you have endured a long pain session. When you know pleasure is coming after your graceful acceptance of pain, you will not look at pain as just being a terrible experience. This experience will become something that you look forward to, as the more willing you are, the more your Master or Mistress will be willing to reward you for your hard work.

Some slaves will also find ways to practice giving themselves pain on their own and then masturbating during or right after to connect pain with pleasure. Talk with your Dom/me about whether you could be allowed to try this technique as well.

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Safe BDSM Practices

November 14, 2011

Safety is everything in a relationship and it’s even more important when you’re practicing BDSM. In order to make sure that you’re having a safe interaction with your partner, you need to follow some basic rules of sanitation and boundaries so that you’re able to practice BDSM without harming your health or the health of your partner.

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Basic Safety Rules
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When you’re interested in being safe during sex, you need to realize that BDSM can be harder on the body than you might realize. While you might enjoy pain mixed with pleasure, this can also cause harm to the body if you’re not careful.

* Be honest – During the creation of a BDSM contract, you need to make sure that you’re always being honest about what you can handle and what you’re willing to do with your partner. Talk about the limits you want to set and then make sure that everyone follows them.
* Communicate – When you’re in the midst of a scene, it might be tempting to ignore the needs of a partner in the interest of having a ‘good’ scene. But you need to communicate if you are feeling too much pain or something seems to be damaging the health of your partner.
* Listen – On the other side, you need to listen to the partner that is saying that something is not right.

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Trust and the Unknown Partner
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In some BDSM relationships, it might be allowed to have relations with others, but when you’re going into a new scene with an unknown partner, you need to make sure that you trust this person in some fashion. Whether this means your partner comes with you to the scene to make sure that things are handled responsibly or it means that you get together with a person that you will play with and learn more about them before you go into a training session, you need to establish a basic level of trust. And while this seems like common sense, you always need to know the partner with whom you will play. Playing with a stranger can increase your risk of unhealthy results.

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STD Prevention
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During sex, there is always a chance of STDs, even if the partner seems to be clean or they say they are disease free. To make sure that you are protecting yourself and your partner, you should include these tools in your BDSM dungeon:

* Latex gloves – Note too that there are latex-free options for those who are sensitive or who are allergic to latex.
* Condoms – Having condoms that fit and that are lubricated can help to reduce the transmission of bodily fluids.
* Dental dams – You can use dental dams to create layers between your mouth and other areas of the body, without reducing sensations that are pleasurable.

All of these barrier methods will ensure the smallest risk of transmission of STDs. Whenever you are sharing bodily fluids, you need to make sure that the partner has either been tested recently or you need to create barriers that will prevent the sharing of these fluids. Fluids that can transmit disease include blood, semen, and saliva. To be absolutely safe, have a partner wear latex gloves to keep their hands clean, use condoms for penetration, and always use new condoms and gloves when switching to a new scene in which new fluids may be exchanged.

While sex is never 100% safe, there are plenty of ways to make your BDSM relationship as safe as humanly possible. Whenever you are concerned about your health, it’s better to be safe than to be sorry in the end.

Please remember the only way to be 100% safe is through abstinence. With any form of sex or BDSM play, there is a risk. Even within a monogamous relationship, there is a risk. Don’t take your health and safety lightly. Always apply safe sex and safe BDSM practices in your scenes.

For more information about STDs and protecting yourself please go to: The Center For Disease Control And Prevention

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Topping From The Bottom

November 7, 2011

One of the biggest dilemmas in BDSM is when bottoms top when they’re bottoming. Confused yet? This is a situation in which those who are submissive tell their Dominants what a sub wants a Dom/me to do. While it does seem to go against the idea of giving up control to someone else, there are times when this practice is appropriate – and that’s where the arguments begin. If you’ve been curious about this sort of terminology, here are the arguments in both directions.

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Yes, You Should Top from the Bottom
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When you are just getting to know a Dominant, things can be a little confusing for both partners. A Dominant usually has a style that they like to use and know the different sensations past subs have enjoyed, but they have no idea what a new sub likes or how they will react to different sensations.

As a sub you may want to give them some direction, as they might not know your body as well as you might want them to. Of course giving those suggestions in a begging, pleading, respectful and courteous way, might help your cause to convince your new Dominant to take your suggestion.

When a top and a bottom have known each other for a while, topping from the bottom can also help when you are interested more in building up the intensity of your scenes, rather than working out the power dynamics. As a submissive you know the Dominant is in charge, you just want to let them know that you can take more and that you want to take more for Them.

Topping from the bottom might also be necessary when the bottom has physical issues or psychological issues that need to be carefully monitored.

Some people might not consider these examples as topping from the bottom, but just open communication between a Dom and a sub. However others might consider these examples an extreme offense and refuse to play. This is why it is so important to find a partner who’s ideas mesh well with Y/yours. Also discussing proper ways to communicate before a session, can help to eliminate any miscommunication about topping from the bottom.

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No, You Should Not Top from the Bottom
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At the same time, one of the reasons why a bottom becomes a bottom is to give up control to another person. When they top, this makes the top less effective and it blurs the lines between who is in control and who is not. A Dominant who is unable to top the way they like becomes less of a Master or Mistress, and more of a placeholder in the relationship. Since they do not have a clear role, they are simply there to step in when they are needed to satisfy the submissive’s desires – not to control a person. If you want to be in a clear Dominant and submissive relationship, one person needs to be in control, while the other gives up control.

This power dynamic is also not appropriate when you want to train a slave. A slave that doesn’t know their place becomes an ineffective slave. This is not to say that as a slave you can not communicate with your Dominant. It is very important to keep open communication with your Dominant at all times. If things become too intense or too painful, you should say your “SafeWord” to let your Dominant know to stop. If you are feeling confused, frustrated and/or are having negative feelings towards your training, ask to sit down with your Dominant and talk about how you are feeling. This way the both of you can work through things together. Even constructive criticism outside of the dungeon on a Dominant’s techniques or ways to make things more effect for you as a slave are always welcome.

Communication doesn’t just have to be negative. Let your Master or Mistress know what they do that you like and why you like it.

Where the problem with topping from the bottom comes in, is when a submissive gives the Dominant specific instructions on “When, Where And How” a submissive wants to be trained. This usually comes about from a submissive wanting certain things in their training. Instead of letting go of the control and focusing on their training, these submissives only focus on what they want and what they are not getting.

Be honest with yourself, if you are constantly asking for more spankings, floggings, bondage, etc. are you asking for this, so you can let go of your control?

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Dominants Dealing With Subs That Top
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If you have an established and recognized Power Dynamic within your Dom/sub relationship (that does not accept topping from the bottom) and you as the Dominant are finding that your sub is topping from the bottom, there are a few things you can do to correct their behavior:

1) If they are bound, step away from your sub and give them a few minutes of zero play and complete silence. Before you start up again, ask your sub if they know why you decided to punish them like this?

2) If they are not bound, then take them by the collar and leash and lead them to a corner of the room. Instruct them to go into instructional pose or forced pose and while they are there, they are to think about who is in charge of the scene and why they are being punished. After five minutes in forced pose, your sub should be very sorry and begging for forgiveness.

3) If your sub is demanding a certain task or instrument, do the exact opposite. If your sub has been demanding wax play your whole scene and not concentrating on what you are doing or your instructions. Stop what you are doing, go to the freezer and grab some ice cubes for ice play. Again, have your sub explain why you have decided to do this?

4) Give your sub what they want, but only for a brief moment before you switch to the one thing they don’t like. Continuously switch back and forth between the two. They loving flogging, but hate the cane. Not a problem here is one swipe with the flogger, followed by 20 hits with the cane. Make sure you have the sub explain to you why you are doing this to them.

5) If none of the above techniques work, then end the scene. Explain to your sub what the punishment is for and why you decided to punish them this way. Also make sure to inform them that future scenes will be cut short, if the sub refuses to respect the power dynamic, that the both of you originally agreed upon.

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How to Create a Longer Scene with your Slave

November 4, 2011

While there might be times when you want to make your slave do all of the naughty things you want them to do – all within fifteen minutes – there are other times when you might be more interested in having a longer scene. But with a longer scene comes more problems and often more concerns for you as the Master and for your slave. With a little planning and a few adjustments to the way you normally approach a scene, you can have your slave working hard for you for hours, not just minutes.

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Why Longer Sessions? Are They Necessary?
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Think about it for a minute, your slave can probably be ‘good’ for short periods of time. But the real work begins when a slave is pushed past the point of their comfort. Longer sessions are especially important when a slave has been working with you for a while. They need to be challenged more often so that you can see that they are able to maintain their slave focus for as long as possible. Of course, longer sessions are not always realistic for either person to do, but when you bring in longer sessions, you will be able to really check to see if your slave is just ‘making it through’ your normal sessions or if they are actually learning from your orders.

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Extending a Session Today
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The easiest way to extend a session today is to have your slave perform just five more minutes of a particular task than they are normally asked to do. And instead of telling them that this is the case, you want to simply see how they handle this new challenge. Watch them carefully to see whether they are upset by the change or if they respond well under this new pressure.

Of course, five minutes isn’t that long of an extension. What you really need to do is to create a time period in which your slave can be your slave for an entire day or even a weekend. This way, you can see how your slave responds to being under your control all weekend. At the start of the time period, tell the slave that they are to do ONLY what you want them to do for the entire agreed upon time.

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Planning for a Longer Scene
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While it might be simple for you to extend a scene by a few minutes, extending your sessions by a few hours or days is trickier. To create an effective longer scene, you will need to draft out a plan of what happens, often combining scenes within the time period. Of course, in order to make sure the scenes work well, you will need to come up with ways to segue from scene to scene. You don’t want to lose the energy of one scene by awkwardly moving into a new scene.

Draft out a basic outline of what your longer session will look like, what will be done, etc. Then, put down time limits for each scene, realizing that you might need to adjust your scene as it unfolds. You might even want to create a list of things you definitely want your slave to do as well as a list of things that you hope to fit into your session if you have extra time.

No matter the reason for wanting to have longer scenes, the more you challenge your slave in this way, the more effective you will be as a Master and the more effective the slave will be for your needs. You both need to be pushed past your comfort zones, after all.

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