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The Power Of A Master’s Voice

July 30, 2014

Inspiration to motivate a submissive to want to submitThough many slave training sites will have you believe that a Master’s job is merely to use a whip to get their submissive to do what they want, this is not the entire story. Instead, a Master can use their voice and their tone to completely control and manage the behaviors of a slave, allowing them to spend less energy and less time on training and more time on seeing the results of a completely submissive slave.

Tone is Everything

Your voice changes, depending on the way you feel and depending on the way you interact with others. And while your slave may not understand all of the nuances of your voice, realize that your voice will convey the way you feel and the way you are in control (or not). The deeper your voice, the more controlling you will appear, so it is best to try to use that lower tone when you are in a scene with a slave. In addition, make sure you speak slowly, as this forces the slave to listen to every word you have to say and to respond only when you are done talking (not when they want to respond).

Silence Creates Control

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At the same time, the silence you choose to use in your scenes will also help to control your slave. Make sure there are times when you don’t say anything and you don’t respond to anything they say. They will eventually learn that silence is a good thing, and something they should model as well. You may even want to try training your slave without saying a word, helping them internalize the lessons you have already shown them and helping them focus inward on how they can please you, based on what you’ve already taught them.

Surprise Your Submissive

When you begin to see the changes in your slave as you change your tone, try surprising them with different tones of voice at different times. Perhaps at some times you are harsh and demanding, while at other times, you are soft or silent. Keeping your slave unsure about what they can expect from you causes them to be vigilant in their behaviors and focused on what they need to be doing, based on how they have been trained. If the slave doesn’t know how you will control them, they will need to be ready for anything.

Observe the Slave’s Reactions

Try blindfolding your slave and trying out different tones of voice when you are in a training session with them. This will allow you to see their reactions and it will tell you how your slave might respond to certain tones of voice. Information like this can then be incorporated into your next training session, and allow you to target your training to their slave’s current responses. In time, they might respond differently, so maintain awareness about how they are and what they might do when you respond in a certain way.

Your voice is the only tool for control you really need, once you know how to use it. Though you may not know how to use your voice effectively right now, the more confident you are in your role, the more your voice will follow. Pretend you are the most knowledgeable person in the world when you walk into the dungeon and speak with a strong voice. Your slave already thinks of you as being someone who can control her, so all you need to do is follow through with a commanding voice.

Let your voice command your slave and let your voice do the training for you. Soon, your voice will ring in her ears and mind each time she has to decide how to please you.

Regards, 

Master Bishop

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Fifty Shades Of Grey Trailer

July 24, 2014

Here is the first trailer from the upcoming movie “Fifty Shades Of Grey” There has been a lot of controversy surrounding the books in regards to how they don’t represent an accurate or healthy depiction of the BDSM lifestyle. Still many people remain curious to see how the movies will translate to the big screen.

Have a look at the trailer and tell Me what you all think. Are you looking forward to seeing it? Does the trailer pique your interest or has it lowered your expectations? I’d love to hear what you all think. Feel free to share your comments below.

Regards,

Master Bishop

Is It Coincidence?

July 21, 2014

The beauty of a silent submissive



















I think this was very much on purpose.  To listen one must be silent, both truly important skills for a submissive to master.  What do you think?

Master Bishop

 

Sub Question: How Do I Beg/Plead Better

July 15, 2014

A begging slave

Hi I was wondering if you could give me some useful tips on how to plead/beg better, I am OK But I feel I could do much better, I know submissiveness comes from the heart and it does with me, but there is always room for improvement, one never stops learning.

Anonymous

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Master Bishop’s Opinion:

When it comes to begging and pleading, there are certainly always opportunities for improvement. One of the things I most often notice about submissives is that they don’t seem sincere. They just say the first thing that pops into their head. Which tends to translate too “Please may I XXXXX”

To serve your Mistress or Master better, you will want to make sure your begging comes from a deeper place, a place of wanting to please and a place of wanting to do all that you can to serve.

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What works well is to make sure you are specific in your begging. When you aren’t specific, it’s hard to feel the heart of what you want – which I imagine is your deep need to be submissive. Think about what you want and about how you feel about your Dominant. This might require you do some homework before you enter a scene, and that you start thinking about your role long before you’re in a dungeon. Make a list of all of the ways in which you serve and how you want to serve your Dominant.  Beside that list, write out why you enjoy serving in that way. How do you feel when you are actually performing those tasks for your Dominant. Much of your begging can stem from these internal drives. Include these internal desires in your begging. Begging is essentially becoming an open book to your Dominant and verbally expressing your deepest desires for their Them and Their Domination.  Review this list again and again to ensure you’re in the mindset of being a submissive, rather than just playing the part of one.

When you truly become connected to your submissive role and desires, you will show your Dominant that you are sincere. Part of this connection can also come from talking to your Dominant about what they want from you. By understanding their needs, you can fulfill your role. This is something I often do outside of the scene, as you don’t want to interrupt a high-energy scene with a lot of discussion. Set aside time with your Dominant, with the goal of understanding how they want to see you beg and plead more effectively and authentically.

It can also be helpful to have a discussion about the scene after it is over. When you are asking for corrections and guidance, you are more involved and therefore more effective.

Within the scene itself, it makes sense to be clear about when begging and pleading are appropriate. When your Dominant asks you what you want, state what you want clearly and then become subservient. Use the title that your Dominant has asked you to use, and also be clear about using the name for yourself that has been chosen – i.e. ‘this slave.’

Talking in the third person can also help to differentiate between your role and the role of your Dominant. This creates even more distance between the power roles, and will allow the begging to be even more effective. Talking about ‘this slave’ or ‘your slave’ will allow you to show you not only understand your role, but you also can understand how your Dominant sees you.

Over time, it might become apparent what works best for your relationship, as all relationships are different. While I want to tell you that one thing will work in all situations, this is simply not true. Instead, you need to be ready and willing to work with your Dominant to find out what will be most effective in your unique situation.

Begging and pleading is also more engaging when you repeat what you want over and over again. Repetition allows time for the Dominant to hear your longing, to know your true desire to please. Though there is a point at which repetition can come across as false, the more you repeat your pleading, the more you will break through to the true nature of your words.

You will break down and come to the place where it’s clear you are giving over your will to your Dominant.

Practice does make perfect in this case. With dedication, clarity, and inner reflection, your begging and pleading will become genuine. You will truly be the slave your Dominant wants you to be.

If you have a begging/pleading tip that you would like to share, please share it below.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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Why Speaking Sweetly Can Make Your Sub Cringe

July 9, 2014

Your sub, by now, knows about your mean voice and it probably makes him cringe. He doesn’t know what it might be saying, but he knows he’s in for something terrible. When you start to create a long-term BDSM relationship, it’s easy to fall into patterns that work for you. And when you’re training your slave, being mean is often a great way to make sure that he listens. But you need to switch things up – by talking sweetly.

More Flies with Honey?

When you think about it, you already know that talking sweetly to others will get you what you want. Though you might try to be mean in your everyday life, that just doesn’t work as well outside of the dungeon. Instead, you need to be nice, but not so nice that you’re a pushover. When you are with your slave and you tell him naughty and horrible things in a sweet voice, he will still get the message. Notice how he shivers a bit because you sound like you’re sweet, even harmless, but the content of what you’re saying is going to cause him to be at your feet. He knows that you could turn in an instant, and that keeps him on his toes. (more…)

Keeping Your Words the Same

Yes, when you’re changing the way that you talk to your slave, remember that content is more important than ever. You need to keep up the humiliation, the taunting, and the names that you call your slave. When you do this, you will ensure that he listens because he’s not expecting to hear any of that. He might be thinking that you’re finally going to treat him like a true equal, or some other crazy thought. Instead, you need to continue talking to him, training him, and you’ll notice that he’s not as painful during training sessions where he just seems to ache for punishment. Instead, he listens to you because he knows that you’re still focused on making him the best slave possible.

Never Be the Same Person Twice

You can start talking sweetly without any introduction. Keep your voice light and feminine, if possible, and talk about things without yelling once during a training session. Not only will this shift training for your slave, but you will also notice that you’re not going to be as overwhelmed by the sessions either. You’re going to stay cool and collected, allowing your slave to have the best possible training. Your head will be in the game and you will stay detached, to a certain extent, because you’re not raising your voice and getting more heated (and exhausted) than you need to be.

Speaking sweetly may not seem like the meanest toy in your dungeon, but it’s essential when you have a slave that has grown accustomed to the way that you usually do things. By merely talking without any anger or intensity, you will make your slave realize that you are always their Mistress, no matter what you might sound like. They will begin to learn that you are the one that is in charge, even when you’re not upset with them. Sometimes, you need to catch a slave with a honey voice, one that makes them wonder when you might turn on the anger again. The anticipation of being afraid of you will only make them more nervous about what you’re going to do next. And that’s the mindset your slave should have as they are training. They’re yours to control because they are only looking to you for guidance.

Regards,

Mistress Sophia

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