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BDSM Zipper String Method

October 17, 2014

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Creating a new toy for your playroom can be an exciting way to change things up and to save money on your BDSM shopping list. The zipper string is a fun addition and it can certainly make the slave jump when they realize that putting on the clothespins is just the beginning of their new pain adventure. This is a low cost toy that will add hours of fun to your next training session, and you might end up making more than one in order to create the most intense effect during a scene.

Supplies You’d Need

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All you need to create a zipper string are some clothespins and some string. You can find these items at any craft store, and even at your local grocery store in some cases. If you want to create a more intense effect, you can use clamps instead of clothespins, though these will be much more painful and they might not give the best results on a slave who is new to this sort of play. It might be painful and even damaging, so sticking with regular clothespins is best. If you want to give a slave a bit more breathing room with the clothespins, it might be helpful to glue some sort of soft fabric into the pin edges, as this will make the putting on and taking off processes a little smoother. In time and in training, you can remove those softer areas.

Making the Zipper String

To make the zipper string, all you need to do is to thread the string through the middle of the clothespins. Once the string is through one pin, knot it so that the string makes the pin stay in one place. It might take more than one knot to be certain that they will not move, depending on the string that you choose. You might also want to use super glue to make the bonds even tighter. Then take the next length of string and attach the next clothespin. And continue from there. You can use as many clothespins as you like, though it can help to start with about four to seven as these will give you a good ripping effect. In time, you can make longer zipper strings, helping to extend the experience and the pins can then be placed on more parts of the slave’s body.

Zipper String On The Go

Don’t feel like making a zipper string before a scene? No problem, you really don’t have too. In fact, many times its easier to just add the string while you are placing the clothespins onto your submissive.

Simply figure out where you want to add the pin onto your submissive. Open the pin and slide your string into the center, then wrap the string around one of the pins before closing the pin on the string and your submissive’s flesh. The pin will squeeze the string keeping it in place and when you pull the string to zip all the clothespins off, the loop of the string will tighten around the clothespin to ensure the string does not slip out of the pins.

How to Use the Zipper String

Anyone can easily use a zipper string in a BDSM scene. A slave might be asked to present themselves to the Master or Mistress and the clothespins are then applied to the skin. These should be lined up in as straight a line as possible, often from the bottom of the ribs to the breasts or along the back or inner thighs. Once the pins are in place, the slave might be allowed to feel the sensations, and they may not remove them until the Master or Mistress is ready to do so.

To remove the zipper string, the Master or Mistress can pull the end of the string quickly or slowly, depending on the sensations they want to encourage in their slave. Both are very painful, though some slaves report that the slower pulling is harder, while the faster pulls are more intense as the feeling surprises them. A Master or Mistress might also choose to whip or flog the clothespins until they come off the slave’s body, which is another level of pain.

The zipper string can be made up and even presented to the slave to put on their own body, and then they ask their Master or Mistress to remove the pins when the time is right.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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Kink No Longer A Mental Disorder

October 6, 2014

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If you have an interest in BDSM, I’m sure at one point or another you have heard the mentioning of the “Diagnostic And Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders” (DSM).  This is essentially the bible of the mental health professional in the United States, essentially it is used to classify mental disorders.  In this manual there are a list of mental disorders known as “paraphilias”

A paraphilias is considered a mental disorder because an individual is sexually aroused by an object, activity or person that is not able to give back any affection.  Up until 1974, homosexuality was included in the list of paraphilias.

Currently the disorders associated with paraphilias include but are not limited to:

  • Pedophilia – wanting to have sex with and/or sexual arousal from small children
  • Necrophilia – wanting to have sex with and/or sexual arousal from corpses
  • Voyeurism – becoming sexually aroused from spying on others without their knowledge
  • Frotteurism – becoming sexually aroused from rubbing against strangers

Until very recently, many BDSM activities were included under this group of mental disorders, including but not limited too:

  • Sadism – becoming sexually aroused from inflicting pain on another individual
  • Masochism – becoming sexually aroused from receiving pain
  • Fetishism – Non-sexual objects arousing an individual sexually (ie. shoes)

However, professionals and researchers continue to debate what would classify a sexual interest as a mental disorder.  Some issues being debated:

  • Is the interest/activity the only way the individual can become sexually aroused
  • Is it mentally ill if all parties involved are consenting
  • Is there any distress by the individual about their interest/activities

It would seem that good things always come from open communication as the American Psychiatric Association has removed BDSM and kinky sex from being an indicator of a disorder in the new edition of DSM-V. This means that just because you may like BDSM, you are not automatically diagnosed or assumed to have a mental disorder as it was once believed. Instead kinky and/or sexual interests outside of the normal are still considered paraphilias. A paraphilic disorder will be considered if people who have a need for sex and/or are sexually aroused from someone who does not consent and/or has a need to intentionally harm themselves and/or others.

As stated in the DSM-V “A paraphilia is a necessary but not a sufficient condition for having a paraphilic disorder, and a paraphilia by itself does not necessarily justify or require clinical intervention.”

As well as “In contrast, if they declare no distress, exemplified by anxiety, obsessions, guilt or shame, about these paraphilic impulses, and are not hampered by them in pursuing other personal goals, they could be ascertained as having masochistic sexual interest but should not be diagnosed with a sexual masochism disorder.”

While this may be a great start, it truly is only the beginning. Due to BDSM and kink being automatically linked to such horrific and terrible sex crimes such as pedophilia and being considered an automatic diagnosis for a mental disorder for so long, has truly stigmatized anyone who participates in such activities in society. This common belief that has been taught for so long to society will not go away overnight. Even with the DSM-V revisions, I still know of people fighting custody battles and have genuine fears that their desires may be used against them. Most people in society don’t know about the DSM or the revisions. All they know is what they have been taught for many years.

Lets all work together in showing the rest of society that this part of us is not our entirety. It is only part of a very healthy, kind, generous, loving, smart and complex individual just like themselves. Lets put our best foot forward and be a shinning example of what a loving consensual BDSM relationship can look like so they realize that there really is nothing to fear. Help spread the word that BDSM is not abuse, a crime, a mental disorder and/or only found in the mind of a psychopath.

On a side note, I think the one fact that truly needs to be debated, which lies at the core definition of paraphilias and was the reason homosexually was removed from the list. Paraphilias is a condition when someone is aroused by something that can not return that affection. My partner who participates with me in our BDSM activities is capable of returning my affections. They are the one that sexually arouse me. The activities we perform and participate in are fun and exciting but they are meaningless without the love and participation of my partner.

For Example:

I don’t spank My partner because the spanking arouses Me. I spank my partner because of the physiological response it creates. When spanking, there is a large nerve that passes through the ass and carries on to the genitals. By stimulating the buttock with spanking, you can in fact stimulate the genitals. With each strike a signal radiates down the nerve, not to mention the physical vibrations that also carry on to the genital region. There is also a large artery that passes through the buttock and into the genitals. With each spank, more blood is pumped into the butt, this means more blood gets pumped into the genitals as well. More blood causes an increase in arousal. Therefore the body’s own chemistry creates even greater arousal than what might be created from traditional foreplay. Do we all not want to turn our partner on more?

Is using the body’s own physiological conditions a mental disorder? Or is it just another way to show your partner affection and receive that affection in return, which is the exact opposite of a paraphilias.

Let me know what you think below. Do you feel there is still a stigma around people involved in kink and BDSM? How has BDSM affected your life in dealing with the rest of society?

I’d love to hear you all.

Regards,

Paul Bishop

 

Resources:

https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs/dsm-v-revision-project/dsm-v-program-page.html

http://www.psychiatry.org/practice/dsm

http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilia

http://www.sodahead.com/living/changes-in-dsm-5—a-new-definition-for-bdsm/question-3441287/?link=ibaf&q=bdsm+DSM-V

 

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Coming Soon To The Academy

September 29, 2014

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SMayM

I have been in talks with Sassy May (a local model) about creating some VERY VERY special photos just for all of you at the BDSM Training Academy.

She is very eager to be submissive and follow instruction, so if you have any ideas on how Sassy May should appear in future pictures just leave a comment below and W/we’ll add it to the list. She may look innocent but she truly is an obedient little submissive just waiting to please. Lets put her desires to the test.

Please check out her model page and show her some love so she knows how badly W/we all want her to be made to do O/our bidding in future shoots.

https://www.facebook.com/SassyMay.Model

Regards,

Master Bishop

Sub Question: How Can I Be The Best Mother To My Children And Slave To My Master

September 23, 2014

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I am a submissive married to my master and we have a 2 year old. I want to know if you have training tips or some kind of site that I can learn from that would help me.

I can never really feel like I can give to my daddy because I put my child first. It’s kinda hard to explain really. But I just want to know some tips to our lifestyle that would help me even out my need to be the best mother and slave to my master… Ty

-Kitten

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Master Bishop’s Opinion

First of all, I think it’s very telling of your value as a slave that you should ask this question. You want to please your Master, and yet, you know that your child will always come first. With that said, even in a Master/Slave relationship your child should always come first.  Your Master should know this and understand the importance of this.  If they do not, I would greatly question their position as a Dominant.

That does not mean that perhaps your Master might want more service from time to time or feel a little forgotten about if all your attention is focused solely on your children.  This is a situation that can be balanced, but that you also need to let go of some of your preconceived notions about what the D/s relationship is supposed to look like.

All relationships between a Master and slave are unique, and this is a good thing. Not everyone wants the same things out of the relationship, and not everyone has a goal of 24/7 slavery.

What I would ask first is whether your Master has said you are not being the attentive slave he wants you to be. If you’ve gotten feedback from him about your lack of focus, then it’s time for the two of you to sit down and try to brainstorm ways that will work for the both of you. After all, this is your child, from what I see in the question, so you both have some distraction as a result.

Once you find out where you are not living up to your slave role, then you can begin to make changes. Some of the adjustments I’ve found that will work best for your type of situation include:

  • Have childcare during your scenes – The best way to keep your focus in a scene is to take care of the things that might distract you. By having some sort of babysitter during the time you will spend with your Master (maybe in another house or setting), you will be able to give all of your attention to training.
  • Get away from the house during sessions – If it’s helpful, get out of the house for your sessions together, and let the babysitter stay in your house. Again, getting away from what might distract you will help you be more engaged in your training.
  • Let a few people know what your life is actually like – Since there might be times when you will need to take care of your child before being a slave, it can be helpful to have a few people in your life who understand your situation. These might be close friends who will learn about how they can support you, and how they can help you maintain calm about your child’s welfare when you’re not around.
  • Set up clear emergency guidelines – Because emergencies do happen, and you may need to stop a session to deal with a child, you should outline clear guidelines about what will happen in the case of X or Y. If X is a minor issue, maybe someone else (ie the grandparents) can handle the situation, but if Y is a more emergent issue, someone will have a way to get a hold of you.
  • Continue to check in – Since you and your partner are both parents, then you will need to continue to talk about what is working and what is not working. As your child grows up, you will find it’s easier to concentrate on your training, but it’s no bad thing to worry about your child or to put them first – so long as your Master knows this.
  • Wearing a large leather or metal collar can be a hard thing to explain to a small child when trying to show your servitude to your Master. But wearing a small public collar that looks like a necklace, bracelet or ring can be a beautiful symbol of servitude to your Master.  Only allow your Dominant to remove the jewelry from you. 
  • Perhaps calling your Dominant ‘Master’ can be very strange to a child.  Pick another name to call him when in public or when in front of your children.  Daddy, Dad or Papi can seem normal to children but can have a very powerful meaning for a Master/slave.  Also, always be polite and respectful when speaking to your Master. “Yes, Daddy” “No, Daddy” “Of course, Daddy” Show your respect and appreciation for your Dominant through your speech.
  • Have your Master create a list of chores and/or tasks that he would like you to complete each day.  This could include household chores like cleaning the house, doing laundry, picking up the dry cleaning preparing dinner, etc.  Tasks could include cleaning and preparing your body a certain way, how he would like you to dress for his arrival home, how to greet him when he comes home, wearing concealed sex toys, when how and if you will masturbate, etc.  Having a lock on your bedroom door can ensure your children won’t accidentally walk in on you while completing a task for your Master. This is the last thing you ever want to happen and should be your ultimate goal to avoid any such thing.  You can also text him letting him know when you have completed a chore or task.
  • Greet your Master when he arrives home in a special way.  Obviously you can’t kneel by the door and wait for him to arrive, but perhaps having a drink ready and a snack beside his favorite chair ready for him when he comes home.  Leave his slippers placed nicely by his bed and help him change into a pair of comfy clothes so he able to relax after a long day at work. 
  • Have a night time ritual before you go to bed.  When your kids are asleep and you are alone with your Dominant in bed, come down to your knees and enter into request position.  Then politely request if there is anything you can do to serve your Dominant before bed. 
  • The key here is effective time management skills.  Young children take naps, where you can schedule in some tasks, and household chores can always be completed as your children play. There is nothing wrong with wearing a concealed butt plug underneath your pants while cleaning the kitchen for example.  When your children get older you can incorporate more time to your Master. Your kids will be in school during the day and will have after school/night time activities such as dance, and/or sports. Also remember you don’t have to do your submissive activities everyday to be submissive to your Dominant, perhaps you only incorporate them on special days.  Maybe you are busy Monday to Thursday with driving from dance practice for one child to picking up another from soccer practice, so you barely have time to even get dinner on the table before you have to be out the door.  Don’t worry, focus on the nights you have off.  Monday to Thursday is dedicated to your children, but Friday and Saturday is dedicated to your Dominant.  Two nights a week is better than none, hell one night a week is better than none.  If you can only get one night every two weeks, than that is how it has to be.  Remember the ultimate form of service to your Master is raising the both of your children to the best of your ability.  The submissive acts of service you would like to perform more of, are just reminders of his and your roles and continued signs of dedication to each other.

Those are just some ideas but what you need is to be clear about what you will and what you will NOT do in your BDSM relationship. By being clear about your children and how you will interact with them, you can still have a focused interaction with your Master. You’re not the only one who has faced this – and you certainly aren’t the last parent who needs to find ways to balance their children and their relationship (and their Dominant).

It’s a good lesson in boundaries and knowing when you’ve reached your limits.  Just remember that you are both in this together and you both need to work on raising your children and keeping the love in your relationship strong.  Don’t think that just because you are submissive that everything is on you. Your Master should be putting in just as much work into caring for your children and working around your schedule to give you what you require as a partner and as a submissive as you do for him as a Dominant.

I hope that helps.  If you have any ideas on how be in a Dom/sub relationship while raising children please leave a comment below. I know everybody at the Academy loves to hear what all of you have to say and think.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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A Spanking Poem

September 16, 2014

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Submissive Spanking PoemInspiration struck yesterday and I just had to let those thoughts out. Here is a quick little poem I wrote about the love of spanking.  I hope you like it.

Master Bishop

 

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