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A Spanking Poem

September 16, 2014

Submissive Spanking PoemInspiration struck yesterday and I just had to let those thoughts out. Here is a quick little poem I wrote about the love of spanking.  I hope you like it.

Master Bishop

 

New Arrivals To The BDSM Toy Shop

September 11, 2014

Since W/we are always on the lookout for new and exciting kinky toys for O/ourselves, W/we like to add the best ones to the BDSM Toy Shop, so you can enjoy them as well. It’s all about spreading the kink here at the BDSM Training Academy. Have a look at some of O/our new additions.

BDSM Slave CollarFor those submissives who want a little more pink in there life, O/our best selling submissive training collars now come in a pretty little pink just for you.

Whether your a pretty lil sub girl or a lil sissy sub boy, these new pink collars will definitely help to establish your position in life.

Pink Submissive Training Collar

 

 

 

Rubber FloggerThis beginner rubber flogger is made from quality neoprene rubber, which makes them extremely sturdy, durable and easy to clean.  It is extremely difficult cleaning a leather flogger to ensure that it has been properly disinfected from previous play without destroying the leather.  However, it is extremely easy to clean these rubber floggers after each use. Just use a bucket of water and bleach (10% bleach solution) and/or a disinfectant spray and wipe down each fall to wash the flogger and hang it to dry.  Its that simple, especially after a long hard scene.

Rubber Flogger

 

Heightened Orgasm through electro stimulation vibrator

 

 

Electro Muscle Stimulating Units use painless and light continuous electrical pulses aimed at specific muscles forcing those muscles to contract and relax.  As the muscles are stimulated, the body is forced to pump more blood into these areas.  The more blood pumped into a woman’s erogenous zone the more aroused she becomes, the more aroused she becomes, the more endorphins that are released into the body.  Thus stimulating the vagina to have more intense orgasms.  Now who wouldn’t want that?

Electro Stimulation Massager

 

 

 

Red Leather Crop For BDSM PlayJust starting out with impact play and want to move on from spanking? Paddles, floggers and canes each have their own unique learning curves and can be a little intimidating for someone just starting out.  Crops tend to be easier to handle compared to floggers and canes and have much less of an impact as a paddle.  In this way, crops make a excellent stepping stone for Dom/mes want to take their impact play to the next stage.

Leather Crops For BDSM Play

 

 

 

 

Immobilizing Latex Vacuum Bed

Do you love latex?  Do you love being completely immobilized?  Than you will absolutely love this Latex Vacuum Bed!  Nothing feels more exciting for a latex lover than to be instantly shrink wrapped into submission.  you will be helpless to move, as the latex locks you tightly into place.  All you will be able to do is breath and wait for what your Dom has planned next.  So strike a pose and enjoy!

Immobilizing Latex Vacuum Bed

 

 

 

 

Let U/us know what you think of O/our new items by leaving a comment below.  Also, if there is a specific kind of product that you are looking for let U/us know and W/we will try to find it or see if W/we can convince one of O/our manufacturers to make it.

Regards,

Master Bishop

Why i serve

September 5, 2014

Slave Service Drawing(A journal entry by sub-kathleen)

Recently events have caused me to reflect on this amazing journey i am sharing with my Master. How it began and where we are today and some of the Whys… i recall beginning with the conversation… Telling my husband of 18 years that i had these desires…Then exploring and learning about the many intricacies of the BDSM lifestyle and more specifically for me the M/s power exchange lifestyle.

i recall a training assignment a few years ago where i was asked to make a journal entry and list 50 Reason why i want to be a slave to my Master. It took me awhile to really think about this and i’m fairly certain some of my reasons could have been duplicated. Trust me by the time i reached 40 i was struggling… This assignment was, however very eliminating and valuable. And the journal has developed from being a training tool to being a place a platform to explore and perhaps understand some of the Whys in my life…

You know what i am referring to. The Why we do what we do or feel what we feel or want what we want… these are very important questions. Today, i would like to share another Why.  (more…)

You see as i travel through this amazing life with my Master and i grow in my submission and my service it has become less about why i want to be a slave…. and more about why i SERVE as His slave

Relax, i’m not going to list fifty reasons but i am going to share a very personal journal/letter i recently wrote for my Master.

First i want to say this…. i Serve freely and with great love, obedience, honor and trust and as much grace as i can present. . my service and devotion was not something that just happened. This was something that grew as a result of the commitment, and work and honesty i had not only with myself but with Master. my service grew because of the honor, respect, integrity and love of my Master.

Yes, our lifestyle may not be traditional but we experience life in the same traditional ways everyone does. As a slave i may express my love and gratitude differently than others, but i what i feel, that deep emotional connection and passion i feel needs expression , and for me, well my heart is full when i can share those expressions on my knees, naked, body and soul. Completely open and exposed to the one person whom i know will shelter, nurture, care, respect, love and desire me… Master.

I hope that while you explore and partake in the non-traditional, please take time to ask Why, why i want to serve, why i serve a particular way, why i serve a particular person…

Here is my most recent Why, perhaps, you would like to share one of yours.

Why i serve You. (A letter to Master)

i serve You Master, because even though i came as a package deal with a 10 year old son, an angry divorce and a financial nightmare, You wanted me. At a time when i was broken, battered, used and desperate for some direction and stability in a life that had somehow spun out of control. You still wanted me. i serve You because you taught me to Hope. And all You asked from me was an open heart.

i serve you Master, because You never hesitated to make Your feelings and intention known. You saw the future, You had a plan and i was going to belong to you. W/we would marry and raise our boys together. You promised to take care of U/us and to keep me safe and happy. i serve You because you gave me my Dream (a Family). All you asked was that i share it with You.

i serve You Master, because when the opportunity came for me to advance in my career and to contribute to the financial growth and stability in our lives you didn’t feel threatened or jealous. You encouraged me. Knowing i needed to see for myself what i was capable of achieving. i serve You Master, because while climbing the corporate ladder You were there to guide and support me and with a hot meal on those late nights. You gave me the freedom and courage to realize my potential. i serve You because You gave me back my self-worth. All You asked was that i give as much energy and focus to our relationship and family and to never allow the career to come first.

i serve You because when the test was positive after we had agreed we did not want to increase the family number’s You open Your arms and set me in your lap and rocked me as i cried. i serve You because You grabbed my shaking, crying, wet, snotty nose face and kissed me so hard and deep i almost forgot why i was crying. And then W/we laughed. i serve You because You stayed and filled my heart , giving me comfort and peace. All You asked for was my heart and commitment to You and O/our future.

i serve You because when we received the news that our little Girl’s heart stopped in my belly You cried with me Sir. You helped deliver her and then W/we held her and loved her and cried some more. Then, You put Your grief aside, called in the family reinforcements and You gave me time to mourn. Then You gathered Your strength to take care of the arrangement. i serve You because You gave me Your unselfish heart and strength and shared Your pain with me. All you asked was that i not shut You out.

i serve You because when mom passed and dad needed care you said “yes” Of course we will take care of him. You knew that meant leaving the job and financial security You had worked so hard to achieve and start new. New job, New home, New state, New life. i serve You because you put aside Your privacy, Your financial and professional achievements and security to give me the gift of staying home and enjoying these precious days ….caring for my dad without any burdens or guilt. All You asked was that i believe enough in O/our relationship, love and commitment to each other, and to Trust that together all was possible.

i serve You Master because when i shared all my deep dark secrets, desires, and fantasies with You, there was no disgust, shock or shame. There was no judgment or condemnation. I serve You because You embraced my passions and desires and promised to take me to those wonderful exciting passionate, erotic places i have been longing for.

i serve You because You ignited a flame of desire, love, hope and trust that burns eternally so deep within me in a place that can only be called my soul. i serve You Master because You gave me Your heart and passion, Your guidance, comfort and strength.

i serve You because you gave me Your promise.… All You asked for was my Trust.

Master, for as long as You will have me i will serve You because.. i belong to You, i Trust you, i Love, Honor and Respect You. i am complete and whole Because of You.  i serve You Master because…You wanted me.

 

 

 

Dom/me Question: I Hurt Him, How Do I Not Do That Again?

August 31, 2014

Flogging A SlaveDom/me Question:

My boyfriend and I just recently started dating though we’ve been best friends for almost four years. He loves being dominated and is a masochist. He knows a lot about BDSM and loves the sub aspect of it. I’m very new to being dom and would love to know a few things. Talking to him about the things he likes has been helping but it’s things like: Riding Crops, Whips, Paddle, etc. that I would really like help with. I hurt him last time we ventured (not in the good way) I would like to not do it again. If you have any tips for me I would greatly appreciate them.

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Master Bishop’s Opinion

The beginnings of any new BDSM relationship can be tricky, especially when you’re both new to this type of interaction. While reading about tips and watching videos can be helpful, often, it’s what happens in your bedroom that will give you the most training, so to speak.

When you’re in the role of being the Dominant, you have a responsibility for the safety and well-being of your submissive. Though you may have gone into this situation with the idea that the other person wants to be hurt, they may not have had this experience yet, so their idea of what this means may not be fully formed.

This is where you can come in and help train them.

Having all of the toys in the world is a start, but learning how to use them is the next part of the process. What I suggest you do is take the toys your boyfriend wants you to use and try them out on your own body. Take the paddle or the whip and try hitting your upper thigh to see how things feel. Find out what harder feels like, and what a soft blow might feel like.

Of course, your boyfriend will have another reaction to these sensations, as no one’s pain tolerance and threshold are the same. But when you start out by seeing what things feel like on yourself, you can begin to understand how the hits will feel on him too.

In the beginning, it’s best to start out with just your hand. If you really want to incorporate an implement than a crop is a relatively good and easy starting point. You will find it fairly easy to control, which will make it easier for you to be accurate with your strikes. Since a crop is very light weight it won’t have the intense impact of a paddle and with a wider impact tip it will not be as stingy as a cane.

Find places on his body where this will be best tolerated, i.e. his buttocks usually has the most cushion for impact. Start there and slowly warming up the skin and the nerves to the sensation. You don’t have to hit hard at first, as you want your boyfriend to tell you when it’s too much or when he wants to try to take more pain.

One thing I always incorporate with someone new that I’m training is have them tell Me how hard they want to hit.  Ask your sub on a scale from 1 to 10 (1 being the lightest and 10 being the hardest) what is the hardest you want to be spanked, cropped, flogged, whipped, etc.  You should ask for each type of impact toy as each have different levels of intensity and varying sensations. A sub may be able to handle a level 8 in spanking but only a level 4 with a cane.  

Once they have given you a level they believe they can handle, you will spank them with your hand or the implement and have them gauge the level of intensity they believe that impact was.  Lets say the most intense spanking your sub wants to receive is a 5.  Now you will proceed to spank them once with this level 5 in mind. After they receive this spank, ask your sub what level of intensity they thought that spank was on.  This is the important part, because here is where you are going to match your ideas of intensity together.

While I may believe the spank I just gave them was a five, how they feel the spank to be is what matters.  They may think that that spank I just gave them was a 3 at which point I need to try again with another spank that is just a little harder.  If they believe the spank was a 6, then I need to try again with a spank that is a little lighter.  Keep trying until the sub agrees that the intensity matches the level they are comfortable with.  You will find that most times it is fairly quick to match up the intensity levels between yourself and a sub.

With that said, this does not mean that you only spank, whip, flog or cane at that level.  This is just showing the absolute hardest impact that your sub is capable of receiving at this time.  When it comes to dishing out an impact session you will cycle through many different intensity levels, speeds, and styles.  Again start slow and light, slowly work your way to more intense (like a 3 or 4) for just a few seconds, come back down for a minute, work your way back up to a 4 and stay there for a minute.  Stop all together and run your fingernails over their red bottom which should start becoming more sensitive to touch.  Start slow again and after each impact hold the impact toy onto the place of impact, then try hitting and removing the impact toy immediately away.  Those just those two different strokes can produce very different sensations. After each impact try caressing the area with your hand…etc.  The point is that they are many ways in which you can switch up your striking to create different sensations for your sub. 

Don’t just try to hit your sub as hard are you can for as long as you can. In fact at first, you may not be able to hit his pain threshold, nor should you. In the beginning, you both need to learn what he can tolerate, and you need to be ready to stop IMMEDIATELY if he asks you to stop or uses a safe word.

Speaking of that, you need a safe word that will allow your partner to know they are in control of the pain they feel. This is especially important when you’re first starting out. They need to know they can stop things at any time and that you can be trusted to help them as they learn what works for them.

When the safe word is used, you need to stop. You can’t push past this point or else you will hurt them. At the same time, your boyfriend needs to be willing to take care of himself so that he isn’t hurt as well.

Remember, it’s not a contest to see how much pain you can inflict, but rather this is an exchange of power. He has given you permission to start to inflict pain, and you need to give him permission to tell you when it’s too much.

If you are still unsure about whether or not you might hurt your sub, try applying these techniques:

1) Accuracy is key to ensuring you don’t hurt your submissive when you play.  Many injuries occur because a Dominant ends up hitting the wrong area.  Instead of waiting to practice on your sub, get out a pillow and mark the pillowcase with an ‘x’ Now practice getting used to the how the tool moves in your hand and make sure you can consistently land the implement exactly where you want too.

2) With each smack of your implement have your submissive scream the level of intensity they believe that impact to have been. This way you can make sure that you are staying within their comfort and intensity level. Also this allows you to see more clearly how your submissive is holding up under each impact.  What they might have thought was a 3 in the beginning could become a 7 or 8 as the session progresses.  Even though you are swinging with the same force this change in intensity can be an indicator that the submissive is becoming overwhelmed and you should look at stopping the session.

3) Check in while play.  Some kinksters believe that checking in during a session can destroy the mood.  I believe as a Dominant that it is My responsibility to look after My submissive.  So while playing I make sure that My submissive is happy and wanting to continue with the scene.

4) Always sit down with your submissive and debrief what has just happened during your session.  Get some honest feedback, see what they liked, what they didn’t like and find out if there was anything else you could have done to make the session more intense or more enjoyable for them.

5) Always start with just one toy. Once you have both learned how it works, what he can take, and what he can not, you can choose to increase the intensity (if that is desirable) or once you have mastered that impact tool you can choose to learn a new implement’s abilities.

It’s a hard lesson when you find out you have hurt your partner more than was intended or expected. But you are reaching out now to learn how you can do better. You have a difficult role as the Dominant, and great care needs to be taken at first and, actually, at all times. Much of this relationship is trust, and when you don’t do what you say you’re going to do, you may find your boyfriend is less than willing to stay in the relationship.

Start slowly, build up to more strikes, and then move to other parts of the body when your boyfriend is ready. You can’t become a super-intense Dominant in one session or even ten sessions together. Like anything, good things take time.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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When Master Struggled, i Learned

August 20, 2014

i am a slave devoted to the loving care, happiness and desires of my Master. But recently it was beginning to feel as if i had no tools, no training, no clue or understanding about how to help that one most important person in my life, my Master.

It is amazing how unbalanced you can feel when the person who takes care of all your needs is struggling. When the one person who is always calm and in control, focused and strong is faced with a situation that is creating tremendous strain and stress on them and they now seem to be unbalanced themselves.

When i look at all that Master has done and continues to do every day so that W/we can live this amazing life.; To make sure that all my needs are met emotional, physically, financially, spiritual, i am flooded with such deep love and respect for Him. I’m humbled by His passion and capacity to love, His strength, integrity, honesty, His guidance, patience and humor. i understand more deeply my feelings of gratitude and honor to belong to Him. How blessed i am to Love Him… Why every day i choose to serve Him. (more…)

So watching Him struggle, seeing Him on edge and unbalanced, feeling His frustration was torture and not the fun kind. Now i may be a masochist but this kind of pain i was not handling very well. All i wanted to do was yell RED!!!.

Every day Master gets up at 5:00am, He gently wakes me with a kiss and then off to prepare for work. Yes work. Ok a bit of drama, but you know the story. Struggling, He finds himself in a position where He must deal with the current situation until He can safely make a change without compromising O/our stability. It’s been frustrating and stressful to say the least.

Over the past few months it seems things have just become more difficult, and stress filled for Master. In my heart i wish He could just quit this job. Walk away and not look back. I’m pretty certain this is exactly what He wants to do as well but He can’t… actually He won’t. He won’t because He would never walk away from His responsibilities or obligations. He won’t because He has promised to take care of me. He won’t because as a Master with integrity and Honor He is expected to take care of everything.

Master’s stress is off the charts and He struggles daily to control it and to protect me from undue worry. Still, i could feel it in His touch and see it in his eyes when He would drift off inside Himself. i wanted to serve, wanted desperately to help relieve Master’s stress. i Wanted…. no Needed to do whatever i could to show Master that i was grateful for all He has done for U/us and O/our family and that i was strong and able and willing to do whatever i could to help.

i became almost consumed with thinking about what more i could do to help. How can i make this better for Sir? How can i be a better slave and take better care of Master? ???????

So i tried the usual. More service.

i learned how to use the lawn tractor, Taking on more chores at home, adding to my domestic service. i actually am enjoy mowing the lawn and i think Master likes the way i look in my shorts, tank top and work boots sitting on top of the lawn mower. Then i made a few budgetary changes, financial service… help relieve some financial stress. Increased personal services, massage, sexual offers… you get the picture.

So while all of my efforts were extremely appreciated, they did not seem to be working. Master was still coming home, stressed, frustrated, tired, angry, and struggling so hard to keep control. In fact i think my extra efforts were actually adding to His stress. Sir is a very generous and appreciative Master and He likes to reward me for my extra efforts and services with special play or training and while fun and distracting they require planning and time and energy and can add to a Master’s stress. Just thinking about all the preparation and planning that goes into a training or play session and i get tired.

Next i tried distraction. Both productive and fun.

Saturday, Master had to stay close to home and on call in case he was needed at the office (yeah… great start to the stress free weekend i had hoped for). So i suggested perhaps Saturday would be an excellent day for U/us to tackle a top to bottom, spit shine cleaning of the Sun room. It was a big project, removing and cleaning windows and the window tracts and walls and ceiling. Oh did I mention Master’s Sun room has 2 full walls of windows and 2 walls and a ceiling that are completely white aluminum wall panels. There is also the Pool table, to be cleaned and polished, and the carpet to be cleaned and shampooed as well. Like i said it was a big project.

So i put on my shortest shorts, tight tank top and purple rubber gloves (sexy) and began gathering cleaning supplies. Master turned on the radio to a favorite station and the cleaning began. Well there was cleaning, and singing and dancing and touching and pinching and grabbing and teasing of all sorts and oh yes more cleaning and more laughing. Then there was a lunch break… and more, dancing, and cleaning and grabbing.

The weekend turned out to be a great success but i knew Monday would come….

Monday morning after kissing Sir and wishing Him the good day i knew He just would not have, i began my daily chores. I felt some relief that the weekend brought Sir some much needed laughter and distraction and He was able to decompress and unwind a bit and let go a bit. But i was certain i couldn’t do this every weekend. Master has amazing energy levels but i’m certain this is not the area He would prefer to expend them in….

As my mind continued to review and rewind and re-examine, i began to notice that my own focus had become unbalanced and obstructed. i was becoming forgetful. Missing simple instructions and lacking in attention and direction. i was consumed with concern for Master’s physical and mental health…. What can i do?

Perhaps i should consider returning to work? Perhaps this would make it easier for Master?  He could take a step back and refocus His efforts on trying to obtain another job. One He would be happier at.

So many questions…

Then somewhere in the middle of this kaleidoscope of thoughts and feelings and self-examination i realized that perhaps i need to change the questions. Instead of; what can i do, what can i change, how can i fix this?

Perhaps what i should be asking is, Am i providing Master with what He wants and desires?

Do i serve Him with an open and honest heart?

Do i submit freely without reservation or hesitation?

Am i open and available and willing to provide any and all service Master may ask of me, within our agreed limits of course? Has Master asked anything of me that i have not provided?

Am i being the loving, obedient, devoted, slave i promised Master i would be? Isn’t this where your focus needs to be?

Okay, i am determined to keep focused on my responsibilities, rituals, protocols. Focus on my service and obedience to Master. Master deserves nothing less.  Just focus on being His slave…

The weekend is almost here and i must schedule time to talk with Sir about our weekend obligations and potential social calendar. i begin to get anxious, once again concerned that i will be bringing another decision, another burden to His already full plate. I close my eyes, take deep breaths and focus on Master. Then i hear Him, in my head. The instructions are clear. i am to review, confirm and RSVP and acknowledge or decline all social events on Master’s behalf… (Social service)… This is my responsibility. This is what Master requires. This is what Master needs from me.

The schedule meeting time has arrived and i am sitting at Master’s feet and W/we are discussing O/our week and the upcoming weekend. Master is trying to focus but i can see He is struggling i can see His mind is drifting. i think it is about work. “Sir we can review the schedule later if You prefer?” i respectfully suggest.

“No, This is the time I set” He replied. Continuing i reminded Sir that i had a tentative social gathering with a few submissive friends on Saturday afternoon and i need to confirm or decline my attendance. Sir always encourages me to get out and spend time with friends both in and out of the lifestyle.

Master became very still and pensive for what seemed like many, many long minutes. i sat quietly waiting for Him to decide if i had His permission to attend. i was growing concerned and nervous with each passing moment. Not sure if He had heard me or not. But i waited…

Then Master gently looked down at me and said, “i know how hard you have been trying to relieve My stress. i appreciate all the… let’s say creative and interesting and fun ways you have found to distract and please me. Thank you for that. I also know how much you have been struggling to find the service you could give me that would bring me peace and balance. Your determination and devotion to serve amazes me. I also know how much you look forward to these get-togethers, and you deserve to unwind, but this time you are going to decline.

Yes, for all your efforts i am going to disappoint you..   you are going to decline. you are going to decline because this weekend all i need is to have you right here, at my feet, sitting, kneeling, and serving. In My arms, body wrapped around Me, under Me, over Me. Holding tight to the Love and Passion W/we share. Reminding me of how lucky i am to own you. This weekend all i need is for you to Stay right here!!!!! Stay and be my slave….”

My tears began flow as my lip trembled trying to control the emotions. i was consumed with love and complete devotion. i could barely speak all i could think to say was “yes Master” “Thank You Sir”…

i understood right then, i didn’t need to find more tasks or chores. Or create projects or distractions or to try and offer solutions that were not mine to offer.

Sometimes the best thing i can do is to just be His slave. Do exactly what it is He has asked of me. Don’t look to change or fix everything. Know that, this is not my responsibility.

i learned, sometimes the best thing i can do is just Walk with Him as he moves through His struggles. Sit with Him during quiet times. Maintain my own balance, focus, and submissive attitude, mindset, heart and behavior. Acknowledge, understand, accept, and embrace my role and responsibilities as His slave and to just…. Stay!!!!

sub kathleen

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