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Mentalgasm: A Path To Euphoria

April 11, 2014

The beauty of a mental orgasmWhat would you think if I were to tell you that 40% of men either have difficulty reaching orgasm or have never had an orgasm?  You probably wouldn’t believe Me for a second.  A man not capable of having an orgasm that is completely unheard of.  In fact, it is a commonly held belief that all men are fully capable of having an orgasm.  That belief is solely based on the fact that each man is built with the same equipment.

If this is the case for men, then why is it a commonly held belief that some women will never be able to orgasm.  Women are all born with the same working parts. If one woman is capable of having an orgasm then logic would suggest that all women are physically capable of it.  Yet Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD-the inability to orgasm) is as high as 43 percent according to some statistics.

Now some of these issues can be attributed to physical ailments such as a thyroid condition or diabetes.  But the biggest issue that causes a woman (and men) to suffer from an inability to orgasm has been due to anxiety, depression, stress, other mental block or a combination.  It would appear that the biggest stumbling block is not a physical issue but a mental issue.

To me this makes sense, because even for a man to orgasm it is more mental then physical.  I’m sure you have heard a guy repeating the phrase “Margaret Thatcher naked, Margaret Thatcher naked…” or rambling on about baseball statistics all in a desperate attempt to resist ejaculating.  You see even men use mental distraction to prevent them from having an orgasm.  Therefore if a woman is distracted or has a million problems running through her head it can be next to impossible to free up her mind to allow herself to orgasm.

I believe that it is the lack of focus on a woman’s mind that makes having an orgasm so difficult.  The physical stimulation just helps to feed the mind.  It’s the fuel your mind needs to help keep the embers burning within you.  A signal that directs and focuses your attention, rather then allowing your mind to wander.  This could potentially be why many people enjoy being submissive.  Once you hear your Dominant command you, a submissive is forced to block out any and all distractions, while they focus solely on what turns them on.  Physical stimulation is not necessary to achieve an orgasm. In actuality, both men and women are fully capable of having an orgasm solely from their mind.

That is why we need to spend more of our time focused on the mind.  The mind should always be your primary focus, because its the mind that signals the body to orgasm.  I have experienced first hand the benefits of being able to give a woman a mental orgasm with nothing more then the words from My mouth. These kinds of orgasms are truly breathtaking to watch and their buildup is just as intense.  Hear what sub cee had to say about her first mental orgasm.

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sub cee’s experience

From what I have read and from my own personal experience I believe that female orgasms are a manifestation of what is happening in your head. Whether it be relaxation and trust or whether you are imagining you and your partner in the hottest sex scene of your life, you body will follow where your mind will lead it. As women we are raised to think that we aren’t supposed to embrace ourselves sexually. We are taught to keep quiet about our desires and the things that turn us on. We are taught that it is inappropriate for us to have sexual thoughts and even more so to say them out loud. Is it any wonder that a significant percentage of us are having issues? If a woman could learn to embrace and control her arousal through her mind there would be no need for medication or therapy. Our minds are so much more powerful than we give them credit for.

I experienced my first mental orgasm 2 nights ago when speaking with a man whom I very much adore and trust. We have a bit of a unique relationship in my eyes so although I did not expect for him to initiate what happened, I welcomed it. We often talk until we fall asleep and during this particular conversation I was incredibly sexually frustrated and had been for the days leading up to this conversation. Every time I touched myself I grew more and more frustrated. It was such a vicious cycle. He was putting me to bed as he does sometimes which consists of putting me in a state of hypnosis. During this state my sexual frustration grew and grew. I was squirming and throbbing. He seemed to sense this as my hypnosis started to take an unexpected turn. I could feel him enter my mind as he started to implant a scene in my head that made me incredibly hot and wet. I could feel myself pulsing and throbbing more and more yet there was nothing and no one touching me, not even myself. He was caressing my mind with his sweet, beautiful words. I can’t explain what his voice does to me and at this point I could really feel myself starting to tighten. My back was starting to arch. It was if I could feel his breath all over me. He took me higher and higher. My body was begging for release. My mind was on the brink of climax. Nothing existed but his voice and the blood pumping through my veins. With a single word from him, I erupted. No physical stimulation. No touching. I came to nothing but his whispers in my ear and it was one of the hottest experiences I have ever had in my entire life. I came so hard I was shaking. Even when I thought the orgasm was over, it kept going. It kept pouring out of me and I couldn’t stop it even if I wanted it to.

Before this experience, I was very much frustrated with how my body was responding to physical stimulation. I couldn’t seem to get myself to the point where I was relaxed or satisfied. I relied on stimulating myself with touch above anything else. I knew that I enjoyed my orgasms when a partner caused them much more than when were caused by my own doing. I just never fully understood why. I knew that if felt so much better for some reason. I believe, now that I’ve experienced the power of a mental orgasm, that my best orgasms come from being mentally and emotionally connected with someone. I can’t help but crave the hold he had on my mind. It’s such a wonderful feeling to be so relaxed and to trust someone so much even if they aren’t there in person. I light up every time I think about it and can feel myself start to swell. I now know I’d rather have someone reach into my mind to give me pleasure than for me to just physically stimulate myself. In fact since this experience my orgasms hardly have been the same as they were before. I’m so much more aware of what’s happening within myself.

This orgasm gave me a greater release and satisfaction than any of the times I had touched myself. It surpassed the majority of the orgasms I’ve ever had. I felt so completely content and relaxed afterwards. Anyone can penetrate your body, but it takes a really special person to penetrate your mind and leave it in a better state when they leave it than when they enter it. I have to give credit to the man in my life that showed me what my mind is capable of. I don’t think I could have had this experience with anyone else. I would love to do it more and further explore this uncharted territory in women’s sexuality.

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If you are having a difficult time climaxing then it might be due to a lack of stimulation mentally.  Take some time to sit down with your Dominant and discuss the kind of mental stimulation you need to really push your body over the edge.  If however, your problem is more deeply routed within a mental state of anxiety, depress or other mental block then it might be beneficial to seek professional psychological help to dig down into the cause.

I hope this helps to free your mind so your body may experience all the ecstasy it can release.  Mental orgasms are the main reason a submissive is able to learn how to orgasm on command

Regards,

Master Bishop

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The Secret Weapon To Enhancing Your Dominatrix Power

March 28, 2014

When it comes to demonstrating power and enhancing true Domina beauty, it all starts from the feet up.  In fact, what you choose to wear on your feet can make your entire Dominant presence.

There is just something so awe-inspiring about seeing a true Goddess in a pair of 6″ heel thigh high boots slowly work her way towards her kneeling slave .  The height from the platforms elongates your sensually Dominant frame, causing your sub to feel even smaller in your presence. The light bouncing off your boots encompassing your entire body with a divine like aura that will transfix your sub’s eyes. The stiletto heels will send shivers down his spine as he imagines it pressing against his flesh.

Nothing makes a woman feel more beautiful and powerful all at the same time then a pair of sensual leather high heel platforms boots.  Every woman knows what it feels like to slide a pair on and instantly feel more beautiful and comfortable within yourself.  Shoes make the outfit and they can also make you feel more confidence as a Dominatrix.  They can help you Unleash the Strong Feminine Goddess within, give you the support you need to find that Powerfully authoritative voice and look absolutely gorgeous to those wanting to worship you.

Your submissive will spend most of their service looking at your feet. 

 

So why do most Dominant women spend the majority of their prep time on everything other then their footwear.

Their shoes are usually an after thought, just throwing on what they have to complete an outfit.  However, you must understand that the truly experienced Dommes will start by selecting the proper foot attire and create their appearance around their sexy footwear.  Hair, makeup and outfit are important to your Dominatrix presence, but none of those will ever enhance the pure power and sensual presence like a proper pair of Goddess boots.

If you want to strengthen your control and power over your submissive, then you need to give him something to focus on while instructing him.  Think of a snake charmer and how the movement of their flute hypnotizes the snake.  The shoes/boots you choose can have the same effect on your submissive as you walk back and forth in front of their bowed head.

The sight of the sleek and powerful lines, the smell of the leather as it fills his nose and the feel of your heel as it presses into his flesh.  The right pair of Power shoes can send a submissive into an instant state of subspace.  You can have him begging to do whatever you want and you haven’t even begun to exert your control.

So work smarter, not harder to take control of your submissives.

Use Your Dominatrix boots as a tool to force him to his knees and grasp his obedience.  Instead of struggling to get your submissive into a submissive head space and then fight with his obedience. Maximize the efficiency of the tools you have at your disposal, this will ensure you spend more time reaping the rewards that come with it.

If you want to feel the pure power of your sensual feminine energy enforcing your control over your submissive then add the most essential weapons in your arsenal; sexy Domina heels. Your sub will become putty in your hands!

This is why W/we had a group of submissives kneel down and select the most

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Here is to strengthening your control and enhancing your Goddess presence

Human Furniture for Enhanced Control

March 17, 2014

Human Furniture With Slave Training

If you look around the room at the furniture you have in your home right now, you might think it’s sort of dull or boring. But what if you were ale to create human furniture? Imagine being able to sit on your slave whenever you like, causing them to hold you in a safe position for hours at a time. How entertaining and provocative would that be? The human furniture idea used to be something that was limited to the fantasy world, but it doesn’t have to be anymore. With these tips, you can use your slave or slaves to create a new furniture arrangement with them in the proper positions for your comfort.

Assume the Position

First things first, you need to see what your slave can do. The table position is the easier way to begin and it will allow you to see just how much training your furniture needs. Have your slave get on all fours on the ground and then position themselves as the table. Once they have been able to show that they can act as a table, then you might want to use them as a footstool or a chair. The slave should be told exactly how to get into the position and then be trained to hold it for longer and longer periods of time until they are confident they can act in the way you want them to act.

Ideas for Human Furniture

Chairs and tables are simple ideas, but you can also have a slave that is a coat hanger or that is a couch. Just move your slave’s body around in different positions, causing them to perform in different ways in the room where they are located. You might even drape cloth over them to show that they are nothing more than furniture that is used again and again. You can create table settings with multiple slaves or you can have entire dinners on the back of your slave, never once acknowledging them or their presence. The opportunities are endless for a slave to prove their devotion to you.

A Furniture Party

You can even have a slave party if you have more than one slave or if you share slaves with other Masters or Mistresses. You might have a few tables and a few chairs, and all of the dominants can test out the furniture to see what is the strongest and most enjoyable. You can even taunt the slaves by touching them in their most sensitive areas in order to see if they can maintain their positions. You might also want to cover up all of the slaves with blankets or sheets to keep them from seeing what other slaves are doing, plus to have a contest to see what the best piece of furniture might be.

Human furniture is a provocative way of showing off your slave and how well they can behave under stress. Though you might not know what to do with them at first, once you begin to have slave furniture in your life, you’ll wonder what you ever did without it. Try different furniture pieces on different days to see which you like best and which you might want to enjoy on a nightly basis.

PS – Don’t Forget to Keep Your Furniture Steady…

with some bondage. Once your slave is in the proper position, bind them in that position so that they can not move an inch. Now that’s a way to create a statement in your living room, without anyone having to say a word. Learn more about enhancing the control over Your slave

To Y/your Continued Training,

Master Bishop

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The Journey to a Semi-Formal Dinner Event:

March 7, 2014

I’m not sure how the fantasy came to be. Perhaps it was something i read in one of my erotic novels or a scene in an old Victorian Romance Drama put to film.  But for me the mere thought and vision of serving a thoughtfully prepare meal to a person i am in-service to, or to be servant to guests my owner has invited to dinner stirs a longing and desire deep within me.  Feelings so strong and so intimate, much like the way  i feel when i am being skillfully and slowing guided into the crescendo of orgasm.

Yes, i see serving as an elegant ballroom dance with everyone moving in time to a specific melody. An opportunity for open expressions of gratitude, obedience and love and when performed properly, and with a confidant grace at the end, you may bow your head in humble appreciation for the opportunity to offer what your heart desires to share.

i am fortunate to be able to serve Master  dinner every evening and W/we entertain large gatherings of family and friends on occasion but my fantasy, well that was hungry,  no, desperate for something a bit more intimate with more of a Master/servant , Dominate/submissive **flavor**. My fantasy included inviting other lifestyle friends to partake in an evening of fine dining, excellent service and focused attentions.  Yes a plan was forming in my submissive head and before i could stop it, it rolled over me like the heat from Master‘s hand spreading across my… oh sorry lost in my fantasy again…

So while lying in Master’s arms one evening, feeling warm and safe and loved in the afterglow of His manipulations i began to share my fantasy and desires to serve Him at a Semi-Formal Diner event.  Of course that brought to mind Master sitting at a table in a Suit and tie and well, my fantasy began taking on more form and direction and the fire inside began to glow red hot again… the thought only broken by Master’s reply, “I think this is a wonderful idea and a good project for that over active mind of yours.” “Why don’t you put something together, a plan, it sounds like an excellent evening. “

“Yes Sir”

i began with research. There are many sites you can search for Fine dining service, or Formal serving guides, there are at least a hundred books all designed to educate you in the art of serving.  The information was bountiful to say the least. There were chapters dedicated to menu planning, the guest list, invitations, table linens and setting, serving guides and techniques, after Dinner service and thank you notes.  Most of the information focused on formal dining and most were very similar in basic etiquettes and serving guides, techniques and practice.  One common principle shared and expressed throughout my research was, the key to excellent service is to be attentive……. Well, i thought, certainly we could build from there and work out a plan.. So that is where i started.  Attention to the details.

i will admit that i was a bit overwhelmed and frankly intimidated by some of the information i read. i felt that for a beginner / novice to this type of service event perhaps something a bit less FORMAL would be easier.  Also, i wanted to encourage others to take this opportunity to participate and experience this type of evening, either in service or as an Honored Guest to be served.   So with the help of many resources, and encouragement from Master and lifestyle friends i began putting together a Semi-formal diner event guide.

Now i have absolutely nothing against Formal. In fact i hope one day in the near future to have enough knowledge and training to actually plan, execute and serve a formal diner.

But for this journey my objective was to create an environment and event/scene to fill a fantasy i have replayed a thousand times, and to see if i could perhaps offer others a simple guide they can use to host their own Semi-Formal event and experience  a new level of submission and connection through service.

The first part of this Journey will be the Plan. Part two, you will be invited to join the dinner. i will take you to the event i was honored to co-host with another submissive friend.  Then i will share some of the comments, recommendations and critiques received from our Guests.

i hope you will enjoy my personal journey and find some useful tidbit to help you on your journey.

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While reading articles and books and other’s guides i began picking key elements to creating an event. With this information i began by creating a Semi-Formal Service Etiquette guide. The Key focus:  Attention to details but *KISS*  *keep it simple, silly”* 

i am open to critiques and i am certain that i have probably missed some very important elements but this was created as a simple guide to assist in creating an experience within a less formal setting. Also as you join us for dinner (part 2) you will find that several of the initial rules were modified and or changed on the *Fly * so to speak…

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Service Dinner – Semi-Formal Service Etiquette

by  sub-kathleen

Serving is a gift we give to our Master/Dominant/Top. Elegance and grace should be part of our presentation and practice is the best way to insure that we are serving properly.

Showing proper respect and obedience to our Master/Dominant/Top and being a source of pride to our Master/Dom/Top is our goal. Let’s be the best slave/submissive/bottom that we can be.

Semi-Formal Dining Service Etiquette

slaves/submissives/bottoms

Uniform: Recommended but can be negotiated prior to the dinner party.

  • Red top – Shirt/blouse/sweater/corset
  • Black bottom – Skirt/Pant
  • Shoes – Black – Dress/Heals – recommend comfortable heal height

Table Setting:

  • Napkin – To the Right of the place setting
  • Knife and Fork – On top of the napkin – Right side of place setting
  • Spoon – to the Left of the place setting
  • Bverage Glass on the Right above the napkin
  • Water Glass on the Left side of place setting above the spoon

Serving Your Master/ Dominant/Top:

  • Dinner Food service:    Always serve from the right side
  • Place meal items onto plate making certain to not over fill
  • Place the diner plate with the main food item directly in front of your M/D/T

Dinner Beverage service: Always serve on the Left side

  • Always serve beverages from the left.
  • Place beverage glass to the Top Left of your M/D/T plate being careful not to spill.
  • Keep your M/D/T beverage glass fresh and full at all times.
  • Water Service: Always keep water glass filled unless otherwise instructed by your M/D/T.
  • Always fill glass from Left side.

Desert Food service:

  • Make certain all dinner plates a removed from table.
  • Place fresh napkins, forks and spoons in proper place in front of your M/D/T.
  • Prepare plate and using the Food service rules serve your M/D/T desert plate.

After Dinner Beverage service: Always serve on the Left side

  • Follow same rules as Dinner beverage service.

General Rules:

  • Always keep your M/D/T plate clean and filled with fresh food.
  • Always keep water glass and beverage glass filled unless otherwise instructed.
  • If You are a single Master/Dominate/Top, a single slave/submissive/bottom will be
    assigned to serve You.
  • If you are a single submissive/slave/bottom you will be assigned to a single
    Master/Dominant/Top to serve or you will be assigned a serving task such as water –
    beverage or desert or valet service.
  • All slaves/submissives/bottoms will be responsible for set up, serving and clean up.

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Well now here we are. The guide is done.  i have proof read it so many times that my contacts are screaming for moisture relief… yelling  “blink damn it”  Ok , i guess I’m ready to present it to Master.

It is a week night and Master has finished dinner. W/we are in the kitchen sharing the after dinner clean up and talking about O/our day. This is a favorite time for me.  The kitchen is one of my safe rooms. This is a room where, as long as i am respectful,  i may speak open and freely on any subject and i am not held to protocols. Master is typically washing dishes. He loves to decompress at the sink while i flutter around and speak almost non-stop about my day.  In between breaths… just kidding, Master shares his day with me, then sometimes we discuss the plan for the evening and sometimes i am excused to attend to other tasks or services Master may require… Oops getting off topic again…

i am particularly excited and nervous today because the guide is complete and  i am going to share my Dinner service fantasy, the Etiquette guide i created and my outline for fulfilling this plan/scene with Master.

Finishing up in the kitchen, oh my, my hands are shaking.  Taking deep breaths, i listen as Master finishes His instruction for the evening and then i say, “Sir, i have finished the etiquette guide Sir. He crooks His eye brows and smiles just a bit and says “ How did you manage to hold that in until after dinner?” “Well where is it?” with a sigh of relief i reply, “Sir it is open on my Computer waiting for You.”  Master nods, turns to leave the kitchen and says “I’ll have coffee in the office while I’m reading  thank you.”

As Master reads, i sit on the floor at His feet. My heart is pounding and my head is spinning with one thought.  Please let my work please Him. As He sits back sipping His coffee and reading i’m being tortured by His silence and the blank look on His face.  Then without realizing it i am panting with anticipation. Oh please let Him be pleased. i don’t know how long i sat there, honestly i was so crazy with nervous energy it felt like forever… i know another lesson in patience… ugh!!!! Then He turns in the chair faces me and says ”It is just what I would have expected from you and more” It’s great” “Now tell me the rest of the plan”

i thought i was going to self-combust at that point.. i was overwhelmed and busting with excitement.  He was pleased.  i could barely contain myself but …and then with grace and gratitude, i bowed my head, moved from sit position to kneel at Master feet leaned forward and kissed His feet, “thank Sir”.

After guiding me to sit in His lap i shared more of my plan. Explaining how i could execute such an event and what my hopes for the entire evening would be.  When i finally finished talking Sir’s ear off He encouraged me to pursue this event and discuss it with some of my submissive friends to see if perhaps they had some interest in being a part of this type of event.  Well, that’s all i needed, before i could stop myself the 2nd part of the plan began forming.. Place, time, number of guests, menu, table setting, serving guides… So much to do…

Wait, how does He do that?  How does He ignite such passion and courage and determination in me with just simple instruction, encouragement and that wicked almost challenging smile?

It’s late now, Master is sleeping and i feel completely drained and totally fulfilled. Tonight’s connection with Master, bringing Him into the fantasy, turning it over to Him and trusting Him to treat it with care, was so intimate. Trusting Him to take it seriously, nurture it, encourage it and guide me to experience it. It was as real and passionate and fulfilling as any planned sexually intimate scene.

Now as i lay here my mind is drifting off to the extended fantasy.  The images of a table filled with Masters/Dominates/Tops drifts into my mind. They are all in semi-formal dress attire sitting around a beautifully prepared table. There is laughter, they seem to be enjoying some lighthearted conversation and they are waiting to be served. Then i drift off into the kitchen. i can see the servers, we are in serving uniform and……Ohhh.

To Be continued:

i hope you enjoyed this article.  If you have read others i have written you will see that i write from personal experience only.. This article is intended to offer simple tips and to share my own experiences as i grow and move through this amazing journey.  i hope you will join me for pat 2 –  The Dinner – A semi-formal event.

The True Beauty Of Submission

February 28, 2014

The true beauty of submission

So many people view BDSM and Dom/sub relationships to be these dark evil lifestyle choices, that strips one person of all their power, choice and freedoms.  This in fact could not be further from the truth.

I believe the problem might be that many people view these images through their own eyes.  They assume that a person must be under severe duress to do any kind of submissive act, because they personally would need to be forced under duress to do such a subservient act.  What they are forgetting is that this world includes a variety of different people. Each individual enjoys life different and as long as those interests are legal then they are free to enjoy them.

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” – Anais Nin

A Dom/sub relationship is meant to be a healthy loving supportive relationship between two consenting adults.  While one person may see the submissive as powerless, most if not all submissives see their submissive activities as empowering.  It takes an incredibly strong person to absolutely trust another person so as to become completely vulnerable.  *(Nor should you make yourself that vulnerable or trust so completely to just anybody.)

One person views submission as the elimination of choice, while many submissives believe it is the ultimate choice.  BDSM is not forced slavery, every person that enters into a Dom/sub relationship in this day and age does so of their own free will.  With all the choices a free person has, the fact that they choose to serve another is breathtaking.

Just because it is not a choice that you would choose, does not mean you can criticize another for their choice.  Do W/we all not search for meaning in O/our lives?  To find something that feels natural, makes U/us happy and comes freely?

For many submissives, serving allows them freedom from their own ego, and self.  A state of enlightenment millions of people struggle to achieve.

To Your Continued Journey,

Master Bishop

 

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