BDSM Without Sex

July 19, 2010

For some, the whole point of whipping and other BDSM is to build up to an inevitable sex scene which is more enjoyable because of all of the adrenaline which has been built up through punishments and pain. But for others, just the pain and the submission that goes along with BDSM is all they want. They might not even have a sex partner who enjoys BDSM, but they might go be with other partners who will dominate them or they will dominate someone else for a night. Sometimes you don’t need to have sex in order to have a good time, though it’s certainly allowed between consenting adults.

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Controlling a Slave
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When you remove sex from the equation, the slave has to work on other parts of their training in order to be obedient. They don’t have sex as something which motivates, so they simply have to be willing to listen to a Master or Mistress because they are told to do something. Conversely, a Master or Mistress who controls a slave without the added help of sex will find that they have to be more dominating in their tone and in their behavior. This way, they can control the slave while also training them to behave in the way they need to behave. Getting inside of the slave’s head without the use of sex can be difficult, but it can certainly be done with regular training sessions which are based on pleasing the one who is in control of the situation.

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Using Sex as a Motivator
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You might also be in a relationship where the sex isn’t something that’s introduced at the start. But over time, as you grow to care about each other or to simply wanting to deepen the intimacy, sex might become a part of the relationship. In those situations, the sex might become a way to motivate the slave in order to behave well. That is, if they behave, then they will be able to enjoy sex with their Dominant partner. By dangling this sort of carrot for a while, the slave will see that they need to continue to be a good slave in order to get what they want in the relationship and the Dominant can get what they want as well.

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Why Sex isn’t Necessary
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Sex isn’t actually vital to the slave and Master or Mistress relationship because the control aspect should be strong enough on its own. If sex is something that is used as a motivator, chances are good the training isn’t strong enough on its own. A Master or a Mistress should be able to control the slave, even when they aren’t going to enjoy any sex at the end. The slave should be willing to do what is asked of them because it pleases their owner, not because they are getting a reward. A slave who is only motivated by rewards at the end is a slave who is going to present more problems for their Master or Mistress. This is a slave who has been spoiled when they think they should be rewarded for their hard work.

BDSM without sex is quite common in groups of BDSM lovers. Those who are interested in testing out power roles and dominance might simply want to dominate a person for a night to see how it feels or just to see what they can train a slave to do. And then they can choose to go home, without sex being a part of the agreement. While sex is often very enjoyable with BDSM – it is not crucial.

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