The Beauty of the Submissive Crotch Rope

December 9, 2014

Female Submissive Crotch Rope

Your slave wants to ache for you. She wants to burn with desire for you, again and again. And to do this, you need to show her that she can feel the desire, but only you can allow her to orgasm. With a crotch rope, you can make sure her sensitive bits are as sensitive as possible during a scene or just during the regular day, causing her to remember you every time she moves and remember that she needs to please you in order to gain her release from this torment.

Tying on the Crotch Rope

You will also want to take some time when you are fastening the crotch rope to your slave. This will ensure that she is always feeling the rub of the rope on her clit. If she doesn’t feel slightly uncomfortable, she will not get the full benefit of this training tool. You can begin by tying a rope around her waist and then taking the ends and tying them between her legs and back up to the rope, as tightly as possible. Adding a few knots to the rope so that the knots rest on her clit will also help to make her squirm. It might take a few tries to learn how to make the best crotch rope, but once you have it in place, she will certain respond.

In Your Scenes

In the scenes, you will want to put on the crotch rope as soon as possible, especially during heavy bondage scenes. This will cause her to squirm throughout the entire bondage scene, allowing her to feel more and more turned on. While you are tormenting her in other ways, she will continue to feel herself get closer to the edge of orgasm, but she will not be able to release because you will not have given her permission to do so. Once you have given her permission, then you can continue to make her squirm since she will be ultra sensitive in that area, and the rope will STILL be there – until you want to remove it.

Outside the Bedroom

You might also want to have your slave wear a crotch rope when you will not be around. You can give her the instructions that she is not to take it off unless she has to go to the bathroom, but after that, it needs to be tied back. She is also not allowed to please herself and she needs to walk around and be as active as possible when she is wearing the rope. The more that you are causing her to feel this rope on her sensitive bits, the more that she will want to be released by you – and that can only happen when she sees you.

You can use smaller ropes that are harder to see under clothing, but she will begin to notice that the smaller ropes are actually harder to handle since they dig in more and move less. You can position these smaller ropes too so that they surround her labia and allow her to continue to go to the bathroom without removing the ropes.

The more that you use a crotch rope, the more sensitive your slave will become. She will then begin to know what the experience is like and she will begin to dread the feeling of constantly being on edge. This is a terrific training tool for your slave and it certainly makes the slave want to focus her attention so that she does not orgasm accidentally. And if she does, well, that’s an entirely different training session that begins. Click here for more bondage training and techniques

Regards,

Mistress Sophia

Female Crotch Rope Bondage

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Dom/me Question: How Do You Keep Things Fresh For Your Sub

November 10, 2014

How do you keep things new/fresh and keep your sub guessing? The only thing I can think of is to keep practicing rope bondage. Other than that I have my list of 10-12 fetishes that I do. But when you have done those fetishes multiple times before with a sub, what do you do? It’s especially difficult when you are not romantically involved with the sub. Any information would be appreciated.

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Master Bishop’s Opinion

Over time, if you’re a Dominant for long enough, you will have done everything there is to be done. You will use all the toys in the dungeon, you will play out all the scenes you can think of, and you will have tested all of your sub’s limits. It’s just a fact of life when you’re in the Dominant role.

So, I would like you to think about the way you’re dominating a bit differently.

Think less about being new and innovative and start thinking about how you can train your slave. Right now, I’m getting the sense you’re simply putting your submissive into situations where fetish play is used, but I’m not hearing that the submissive has learned anything during the process.

I would strongly encourage you to think about what you want your sub to do and how you want your sub to be. Create a list of goals you want your submissive to reach, and then sit your submissive down and discuss these ideas with them.  Make sure you both agree about how you would like to train your submissive.  Once you both agree, you can then begin to craft sessions that work on these goals.

I’ll give you some examples. Perhaps your sub doesn’t use certain positions in your training. Teach them a lengthy number of positions and use these during scenes to see if the sub has been practicing and is willing to please you in this way.

Or you could increase the rapidity of the pain you inflict or you can change the tempo of the things you do. All of these things will keep a sub guessing about what might happen next, but if you don’t have a reason for doing what you’re doing, you’re going to have troubles figuring out what to do.

Teaching is the key. You teach the slave about positions, commands, responses, how to hold their head, etc. Together, come up with a list of things the sub will learn, and then you can come up with scenes in which they will be tested on these tasks. As you will notice when you move into this sort of interaction, the slave will spend time learning things and it will challenge them to be focused and engaged.

You can also begin to take away things they are used to, i.e. some of the fetish play you describe. Take it away for a while until they have learned the things you want them to learn. They will start to realize they need to do more in order to serve you. They will realize they are a sub and that their desires need to be earned instead of just expecting to receive it whenever they want.

Other ideas you can use to keep sessions more interesting:

Essentially every lesson or task can be made more difficult and the more difficult something is the more your submissive will have to concentrate.  This will even make tried old sessions seem new again as they realize that they haven’t truly mastered what you have taught them.  

Now, if YOU’RE feeling bored with what you’re doing, you need to start getting out more to other BDSM events and communities. You need to reach out to see what you can learn and what other Dominants have to teach you. Or you need to take a break from what you’re doing, as everyone can get burned out, even doing things they love.

In the end, you can also remind your sub of their goal in the dungeon: to please you. When you remind them you want more from them, they will not focus on the fact that you’ve done this scene a hundred times before.

They will simply focus on the fact that they always have more to do in order to keep their Dominant happy.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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BDSM Zipper String Method

October 17, 2014

Creating a new toy for your playroom can be an exciting way to change things up and to save money on your BDSM shopping list. The zipper string is a fun addition and it can certainly make the slave jump when they realize that putting on the clothespins is just the beginning of their new pain adventure. This is a low cost toy that will add hours of fun to your next training session, and you might end up making more than one in order to create the most intense effect during a scene.

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All you need to create a zipper string are some clothespins and some string. You can find these items at any craft store, and even at your local grocery store in some cases. If you want to create a more intense effect, you can use clamps instead of clothespins, though these will be much more painful and they might not give the best results on a slave who is new to this sort of play. It might be painful and even damaging, so sticking with regular clothespins is best. If you want to give a slave a bit more breathing room with the clothespins, it might be helpful to glue some sort of soft fabric into the pin edges, as this will make the putting on and taking off processes a little smoother. In time and in training, you can remove those softer areas.

Making the Zipper String

To make the zipper string, all you need to do is to thread the string through the middle of the clothespins. Once the string is through one pin, knot it so that the string makes the pin stay in one place. It might take more than one knot to be certain that they will not move, depending on the string that you choose. You might also want to use super glue to make the bonds even tighter. Then take the next length of string and attach the next clothespin. And continue from there. You can use as many clothespins as you like, though it can help to start with about four to seven as these will give you a good ripping effect. In time, you can make longer zipper strings, helping to extend the experience and the pins can then be placed on more parts of the slave’s body.

Zipper String On The Go

Don’t feel like making a zipper string before a scene? No problem, you really don’t have too. In fact, many times its easier to just add the string while you are placing the clothespins onto your submissive.

Simply figure out where you want to add the pin onto your submissive. Open the pin and slide your string into the center, then wrap the string around one of the pins before closing the pin on the string and your submissive’s flesh. The pin will squeeze the string keeping it in place and when you pull the string to zip all the clothespins off, the loop of the string will tighten around the clothespin to ensure the string does not slip out of the pins.

How to Use the Zipper String

Anyone can easily use a zipper string in a BDSM scene. A slave might be asked to present themselves to the Master or Mistress and the clothespins are then applied to the skin. These should be lined up in as straight a line as possible, often from the bottom of the ribs to the breasts or along the back or inner thighs. Once the pins are in place, the slave might be allowed to feel the sensations, and they may not remove them until the Master or Mistress is ready to do so.

To remove the zipper string, the Master or Mistress can pull the end of the string quickly or slowly, depending on the sensations they want to encourage in their slave. Both are very painful, though some slaves report that the slower pulling is harder, while the faster pulls are more intense as the feeling surprises them. A Master or Mistress might also choose to whip or flog the clothespins until they come off the slave’s body, which is another level of pain.

The zipper string can be made up and even presented to the slave to put on their own body, and then they ask their Master or Mistress to remove the pins when the time is right.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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Kink No Longer A Mental Disorder

October 6, 2014

If you have an interest in BDSM, I’m sure at one point or another you have heard the mentioning of the “Diagnostic And Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders” (DSM).  This is essentially the bible of the mental health professional in the United States, essentially it is used to classify mental disorders.  In this manual there are a list of mental disorders known as “paraphilias”

A paraphilias is considered a mental disorder because an individual is sexually aroused by an object, activity or person that is not able to give back any affection.  Up until 1974, homosexuality was included in the list of paraphilias.

Currently the disorders associated with paraphilias include but are not limited to:

Until very recently, many BDSM activities were included under this group of mental disorders, including but not limited too:

However, professionals and researchers continue to debate what would classify a sexual interest as a mental disorder.  Some issues being debated:

It would seem that good things always come from open communication as the American Psychiatric Association has removed BDSM and kinky sex from being an indicator of a disorder in the new edition of DSM-V. This means that just because you may like BDSM, you are not automatically diagnosed or assumed to have a mental disorder as it was once believed. Instead kinky and/or sexual interests outside of the normal are still considered paraphilias. A paraphilic disorder will be considered if people who have a need for sex and/or are sexually aroused from someone who does not consent and/or has a need to intentionally harm themselves and/or others.

As stated in the DSM-V “A paraphilia is a necessary but not a sufficient condition for having a paraphilic disorder, and a paraphilia by itself does not necessarily justify or require clinical intervention.”

As well as “In contrast, if they declare no distress, exemplified by anxiety, obsessions, guilt or shame, about these paraphilic impulses, and are not hampered by them in pursuing other personal goals, they could be ascertained as having masochistic sexual interest but should not be diagnosed with a sexual masochism disorder.”

While this may be a great start, it truly is only the beginning. Due to BDSM and kink being automatically linked to such horrific and terrible sex crimes such as pedophilia and being considered an automatic diagnosis for a mental disorder for so long, has truly stigmatized anyone who participates in such activities in society. This common belief that has been taught for so long to society will not go away overnight. Even with the DSM-V revisions, I still know of people fighting custody battles and have genuine fears that their desires may be used against them. Most people in society don’t know about the DSM or the revisions. All they know is what they have been taught for many years.

Lets all work together in showing the rest of society that this part of us is not our entirety. It is only part of a very healthy, kind, generous, loving, smart and complex individual just like themselves. Lets put our best foot forward and be a shinning example of what a loving consensual BDSM relationship can look like so they realize that there really is nothing to fear. Help spread the word that BDSM is not abuse, a crime, a mental disorder and/or only found in the mind of a psychopath.

On a side note, I think the one fact that truly needs to be debated, which lies at the core definition of paraphilias and was the reason homosexually was removed from the list. Paraphilias is a condition when someone is aroused by something that can not return that affection. My partner who participates with me in our BDSM activities is capable of returning my affections. They are the one that sexually arouse me. The activities we perform and participate in are fun and exciting but they are meaningless without the love and participation of my partner.

For Example:

I don’t spank My partner because the spanking arouses Me. I spank my partner because of the physiological response it creates. When spanking, there is a large nerve that passes through the ass and carries on to the genitals. By stimulating the buttock with spanking, you can in fact stimulate the genitals. With each strike a signal radiates down the nerve, not to mention the physical vibrations that also carry on to the genital region. There is also a large artery that passes through the buttock and into the genitals. With each spank, more blood is pumped into the butt, this means more blood gets pumped into the genitals as well. More blood causes an increase in arousal. Therefore the body’s own chemistry creates even greater arousal than what might be created from traditional foreplay. Do we all not want to turn our partner on more?

Is using the body’s own physiological conditions a mental disorder? Or is it just another way to show your partner affection and receive that affection in return, which is the exact opposite of a paraphilias.

Let me know what you think below. Do you feel there is still a stigma around people involved in kink and BDSM? How has BDSM affected your life in dealing with the rest of society?

I’d love to hear you all.

Regards,

Paul Bishop

 

Resources:

https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs/dsm-v-revision-project/dsm-v-program-page.html

http://www.psychiatry.org/practice/dsm

http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paraphilia

http://www.sodahead.com/living/changes-in-dsm-5—a-new-definition-for-bdsm/question-3441287/?link=ibaf&q=bdsm+DSM-V

 

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A Spanking Poem

September 16, 2014

Submissive Spanking PoemInspiration struck yesterday and I just had to let those thoughts out. Here is a quick little poem I wrote about the love of spanking.  I hope you like it.

Master Bishop

 

Dom/me Question: I Hurt Him, How Do I Not Do That Again?

August 31, 2014

Flogging A SlaveDom/me Question:

My boyfriend and I just recently started dating though we’ve been best friends for almost four years. He loves being dominated and is a masochist. He knows a lot about BDSM and loves the sub aspect of it. I’m very new to being dom and would love to know a few things. Talking to him about the things he likes has been helping but it’s things like: Riding Crops, Whips, Paddle, etc. that I would really like help with. I hurt him last time we ventured (not in the good way) I would like to not do it again. If you have any tips for me I would greatly appreciate them.

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Master Bishop’s Opinion

The beginnings of any new BDSM relationship can be tricky, especially when you’re both new to this type of interaction. While reading about tips and watching videos can be helpful, often, it’s what happens in your bedroom that will give you the most training, so to speak.

When you’re in the role of being the Dominant, you have a responsibility for the safety and well-being of your submissive. Though you may have gone into this situation with the idea that the other person wants to be hurt, they may not have had this experience yet, so their idea of what this means may not be fully formed.

This is where you can come in and help train them.

Having all of the toys in the world is a start, but learning how to use them is the next part of the process. What I suggest you do is take the toys your boyfriend wants you to use and try them out on your own body. Take the paddle or the whip and try hitting your upper thigh to see how things feel. Find out what harder feels like, and what a soft blow might feel like.

Of course, your boyfriend will have another reaction to these sensations, as no one’s pain tolerance and threshold are the same. But when you start out by seeing what things feel like on yourself, you can begin to understand how the hits will feel on him too.

In the beginning, it’s best to start out with just your hand. If you really want to incorporate an implement than a crop is a relatively good and easy starting point. You will find it fairly easy to control, which will make it easier for you to be accurate with your strikes. Since a crop is very light weight it won’t have the intense impact of a paddle and with a wider impact tip it will not be as stingy as a cane.

Find places on his body where this will be best tolerated, i.e. his buttocks usually has the most cushion for impact. Start there and slowly warming up the skin and the nerves to the sensation. You don’t have to hit hard at first, as you want your boyfriend to tell you when it’s too much or when he wants to try to take more pain.

One thing I always incorporate with someone new that I’m training is have them tell Me how hard they want to hit.  Ask your sub on a scale from 1 to 10 (1 being the lightest and 10 being the hardest) what is the hardest you want to be spanked, cropped, flogged, whipped, etc.  You should ask for each type of impact toy as each have different levels of intensity and varying sensations. A sub may be able to handle a level 8 in spanking but only a level 4 with a cane.  

Once they have given you a level they believe they can handle, you will spank them with your hand or the implement and have them gauge the level of intensity they believe that impact was.  Lets say the most intense spanking your sub wants to receive is a 5.  Now you will proceed to spank them once with this level 5 in mind. After they receive this spank, ask your sub what level of intensity they thought that spank was on.  This is the important part, because here is where you are going to match your ideas of intensity together.

While I may believe the spank I just gave them was a five, how they feel the spank to be is what matters.  They may think that that spank I just gave them was a 3 at which point I need to try again with another spank that is just a little harder.  If they believe the spank was a 6, then I need to try again with a spank that is a little lighter.  Keep trying until the sub agrees that the intensity matches the level they are comfortable with.  You will find that most times it is fairly quick to match up the intensity levels between yourself and a sub.

With that said, this does not mean that you only spank, whip, flog or cane at that level.  This is just showing the absolute hardest impact that your sub is capable of receiving at this time.  When it comes to dishing out an impact session you will cycle through many different intensity levels, speeds, and styles.  Again start slow and light, slowly work your way to more intense (like a 3 or 4) for just a few seconds, come back down for a minute, work your way back up to a 4 and stay there for a minute.  Stop all together and run your fingernails over their red bottom which should start becoming more sensitive to touch.  Start slow again and after each impact hold the impact toy onto the place of impact, then try hitting and removing the impact toy immediately away.  Those just those two different strokes can produce very different sensations. After each impact try caressing the area with your hand…etc.  The point is that they are many ways in which you can switch up your striking to create different sensations for your sub. 

Don’t just try to hit your sub as hard are you can for as long as you can. In fact at first, you may not be able to hit his pain threshold, nor should you. In the beginning, you both need to learn what he can tolerate, and you need to be ready to stop IMMEDIATELY if he asks you to stop or uses a safe word.

Speaking of that, you need a safe word that will allow your partner to know they are in control of the pain they feel. This is especially important when you’re first starting out. They need to know they can stop things at any time and that you can be trusted to help them as they learn what works for them.

When the safe word is used, you need to stop. You can’t push past this point or else you will hurt them. At the same time, your boyfriend needs to be willing to take care of himself so that he isn’t hurt as well.

Remember, it’s not a contest to see how much pain you can inflict, but rather this is an exchange of power. He has given you permission to start to inflict pain, and you need to give him permission to tell you when it’s too much.

If you are still unsure about whether or not you might hurt your sub, try applying these techniques:

1) Accuracy is key to ensuring you don’t hurt your submissive when you play.  Many injuries occur because a Dominant ends up hitting the wrong area.  Instead of waiting to practice on your sub, get out a pillow and mark the pillowcase with an ‘x’ Now practice getting used to the how the tool moves in your hand and make sure you can consistently land the implement exactly where you want too.

2) With each smack of your implement have your submissive scream the level of intensity they believe that impact to have been. This way you can make sure that you are staying within their comfort and intensity level. Also this allows you to see more clearly how your submissive is holding up under each impact.  What they might have thought was a 3 in the beginning could become a 7 or 8 as the session progresses.  Even though you are swinging with the same force this change in intensity can be an indicator that the submissive is becoming overwhelmed and you should look at stopping the session.

3) Check in while play.  Some kinksters believe that checking in during a session can destroy the mood.  I believe as a Dominant that it is My responsibility to look after My submissive.  So while playing I make sure that My submissive is happy and wanting to continue with the scene.

4) Always sit down with your submissive and debrief what has just happened during your session.  Get some honest feedback, see what they liked, what they didn’t like and find out if there was anything else you could have done to make the session more intense or more enjoyable for them.

5) Always start with just one toy. Once you have both learned how it works, what he can take, and what he can not, you can choose to increase the intensity (if that is desirable) or once you have mastered that impact tool you can choose to learn a new implement’s abilities.

It’s a hard lesson when you find out you have hurt your partner more than was intended or expected. But you are reaching out now to learn how you can do better. You have a difficult role as the Dominant, and great care needs to be taken at first and, actually, at all times. Much of this relationship is trust, and when you don’t do what you say you’re going to do, you may find your boyfriend is less than willing to stay in the relationship.

Start slowly, build up to more strikes, and then move to other parts of the body when your boyfriend is ready. You can’t become a super-intense Dominant in one session or even ten sessions together. Like anything, good things take time.

Regards,

Master Bishop

The founder of the BDSM Training Academy. Master Bishop has been involved in the Dominant/submissive lifestyle for over 12 years. With a love for education both learning and teaching, Master Bishop has passed on his knowledge and experience to others entering into the BDSM lifestyle for over 8 years. Join Master Bishop on Google+

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When Master Struggled, i Learned

August 20, 2014

i am a slave devoted to the loving care, happiness and desires of my Master. But recently it was beginning to feel as if i had no tools, no training, no clue or understanding about how to help that one most important person in my life, my Master.

It is amazing how unbalanced you can feel when the person who takes care of all your needs is struggling. When the one person who is always calm and in control, focused and strong is faced with a situation that is creating tremendous strain and stress on them and they now seem to be unbalanced themselves.

When i look at all that Master has done and continues to do every day so that W/we can live this amazing life.; To make sure that all my needs are met emotional, physically, financially, spiritual, i am flooded with such deep love and respect for Him. I’m humbled by His passion and capacity to love, His strength, integrity, honesty, His guidance, patience and humor. i understand more deeply my feelings of gratitude and honor to belong to Him. How blessed i am to Love Him… Why every day i choose to serve Him. Read more

So watching Him struggle, seeing Him on edge and unbalanced, feeling His frustration was torture and not the fun kind. Now i may be a masochist but this kind of pain i was not handling very well. All i wanted to do was yell RED!!!.

Every day Master gets up at 5:00am, He gently wakes me with a kiss and then off to prepare for work. Yes work. Ok a bit of drama, but you know the story. Struggling, He finds himself in a position where He must deal with the current situation until He can safely make a change without compromising O/our stability. It’s been frustrating and stressful to say the least.

Over the past few months it seems things have just become more difficult, and stress filled for Master. In my heart i wish He could just quit this job. Walk away and not look back. I’m pretty certain this is exactly what He wants to do as well but He can’t… actually He won’t. He won’t because He would never walk away from His responsibilities or obligations. He won’t because He has promised to take care of me. He won’t because as a Master with integrity and Honor He is expected to take care of everything.

Master’s stress is off the charts and He struggles daily to control it and to protect me from undue worry. Still, i could feel it in His touch and see it in his eyes when He would drift off inside Himself. i wanted to serve, wanted desperately to help relieve Master’s stress. i Wanted…. no Needed to do whatever i could to show Master that i was grateful for all He has done for U/us and O/our family and that i was strong and able and willing to do whatever i could to help.

i became almost consumed with thinking about what more i could do to help. How can i make this better for Sir? How can i be a better slave and take better care of Master? ???????

So i tried the usual. More service.

i learned how to use the lawn tractor, Taking on more chores at home, adding to my domestic service. i actually am enjoy mowing the lawn and i think Master likes the way i look in my shorts, tank top and work boots sitting on top of the lawn mower. Then i made a few budgetary changes, financial service… help relieve some financial stress. Increased personal services, massage, sexual offers… you get the picture.

So while all of my efforts were extremely appreciated, they did not seem to be working. Master was still coming home, stressed, frustrated, tired, angry, and struggling so hard to keep control. In fact i think my extra efforts were actually adding to His stress. Sir is a very generous and appreciative Master and He likes to reward me for my extra efforts and services with special play or training and while fun and distracting they require planning and time and energy and can add to a Master’s stress. Just thinking about all the preparation and planning that goes into a training or play session and i get tired.

Next i tried distraction. Both productive and fun.

Saturday, Master had to stay close to home and on call in case he was needed at the office (yeah… great start to the stress free weekend i had hoped for). So i suggested perhaps Saturday would be an excellent day for U/us to tackle a top to bottom, spit shine cleaning of the Sun room. It was a big project, removing and cleaning windows and the window tracts and walls and ceiling. Oh did I mention Master’s Sun room has 2 full walls of windows and 2 walls and a ceiling that are completely white aluminum wall panels. There is also the Pool table, to be cleaned and polished, and the carpet to be cleaned and shampooed as well. Like i said it was a big project.

So i put on my shortest shorts, tight tank top and purple rubber gloves (sexy) and began gathering cleaning supplies. Master turned on the radio to a favorite station and the cleaning began. Well there was cleaning, and singing and dancing and touching and pinching and grabbing and teasing of all sorts and oh yes more cleaning and more laughing. Then there was a lunch break… and more, dancing, and cleaning and grabbing.

The weekend turned out to be a great success but i knew Monday would come….

Monday morning after kissing Sir and wishing Him the good day i knew He just would not have, i began my daily chores. I felt some relief that the weekend brought Sir some much needed laughter and distraction and He was able to decompress and unwind a bit and let go a bit. But i was certain i couldn’t do this every weekend. Master has amazing energy levels but i’m certain this is not the area He would prefer to expend them in….

As my mind continued to review and rewind and re-examine, i began to notice that my own focus had become unbalanced and obstructed. i was becoming forgetful. Missing simple instructions and lacking in attention and direction. i was consumed with concern for Master’s physical and mental health…. What can i do?

Perhaps i should consider returning to work? Perhaps this would make it easier for Master?  He could take a step back and refocus His efforts on trying to obtain another job. One He would be happier at.

So many questions…

Then somewhere in the middle of this kaleidoscope of thoughts and feelings and self-examination i realized that perhaps i need to change the questions. Instead of; what can i do, what can i change, how can i fix this?

Perhaps what i should be asking is, Am i providing Master with what He wants and desires?

Do i serve Him with an open and honest heart?

Do i submit freely without reservation or hesitation?

Am i open and available and willing to provide any and all service Master may ask of me, within our agreed limits of course? Has Master asked anything of me that i have not provided?

Am i being the loving, obedient, devoted, slave i promised Master i would be? Isn’t this where your focus needs to be?

Okay, i am determined to keep focused on my responsibilities, rituals, protocols. Focus on my service and obedience to Master. Master deserves nothing less.  Just focus on being His slave…

The weekend is almost here and i must schedule time to talk with Sir about our weekend obligations and potential social calendar. i begin to get anxious, once again concerned that i will be bringing another decision, another burden to His already full plate. I close my eyes, take deep breaths and focus on Master. Then i hear Him, in my head. The instructions are clear. i am to review, confirm and RSVP and acknowledge or decline all social events on Master’s behalf… (Social service)… This is my responsibility. This is what Master requires. This is what Master needs from me.

The schedule meeting time has arrived and i am sitting at Master’s feet and W/we are discussing O/our week and the upcoming weekend. Master is trying to focus but i can see He is struggling i can see His mind is drifting. i think it is about work. “Sir we can review the schedule later if You prefer?” i respectfully suggest.

“No, This is the time I set” He replied. Continuing i reminded Sir that i had a tentative social gathering with a few submissive friends on Saturday afternoon and i need to confirm or decline my attendance. Sir always encourages me to get out and spend time with friends both in and out of the lifestyle.

Master became very still and pensive for what seemed like many, many long minutes. i sat quietly waiting for Him to decide if i had His permission to attend. i was growing concerned and nervous with each passing moment. Not sure if He had heard me or not. But i waited…

Then Master gently looked down at me and said, “i know how hard you have been trying to relieve My stress. i appreciate all the… let’s say creative and interesting and fun ways you have found to distract and please me. Thank you for that. I also know how much you have been struggling to find the service you could give me that would bring me peace and balance. Your determination and devotion to serve amazes me. I also know how much you look forward to these get-togethers, and you deserve to unwind, but this time you are going to decline.

Yes, for all your efforts i am going to disappoint you..   you are going to decline. you are going to decline because this weekend all i need is to have you right here, at my feet, sitting, kneeling, and serving. In My arms, body wrapped around Me, under Me, over Me. Holding tight to the Love and Passion W/we share. Reminding me of how lucky i am to own you. This weekend all i need is for you to Stay right here!!!!! Stay and be my slave….”

My tears began flow as my lip trembled trying to control the emotions. i was consumed with love and complete devotion. i could barely speak all i could think to say was “yes Master” “Thank You Sir”…

i understood right then, i didn’t need to find more tasks or chores. Or create projects or distractions or to try and offer solutions that were not mine to offer.

Sometimes the best thing i can do is to just be His slave. Do exactly what it is He has asked of me. Don’t look to change or fix everything. Know that, this is not my responsibility.

i learned, sometimes the best thing i can do is just Walk with Him as he moves through His struggles. Sit with Him during quiet times. Maintain my own balance, focus, and submissive attitude, mindset, heart and behavior. Acknowledge, understand, accept, and embrace my role and responsibilities as His slave and to just…. Stay!!!!

sub kathleen

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The Power Of A Master’s Voice

July 30, 2014

Inspiration to motivate a submissive to want to submitThough many slave training sites will have you believe that a Master’s job is merely to use a whip to get their submissive to do what they want, this is not the entire story. Instead, a Master can use their voice and their tone to completely control and manage the behaviors of a slave, allowing them to spend less energy and less time on training and more time on seeing the results of a completely submissive slave.

Tone is Everything

Your voice changes, depending on the way you feel and depending on the way you interact with others. And while your slave may not understand all of the nuances of your voice, realize that your voice will convey the way you feel and the way you are in control (or not). The deeper your voice, the more controlling you will appear, so it is best to try to use that lower tone when you are in a scene with a slave. In addition, make sure you speak slowly, as this forces the slave to listen to every word you have to say and to respond only when you are done talking (not when they want to respond).

Silence Creates Control

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At the same time, the silence you choose to use in your scenes will also help to control your slave. Make sure there are times when you don’t say anything and you don’t respond to anything they say. They will eventually learn that silence is a good thing, and something they should model as well. You may even want to try training your slave without saying a word, helping them internalize the lessons you have already shown them and helping them focus inward on how they can please you, based on what you’ve already taught them.

Surprise Your Submissive

When you begin to see the changes in your slave as you change your tone, try surprising them with different tones of voice at different times. Perhaps at some times you are harsh and demanding, while at other times, you are soft or silent. Keeping your slave unsure about what they can expect from you causes them to be vigilant in their behaviors and focused on what they need to be doing, based on how they have been trained. If the slave doesn’t know how you will control them, they will need to be ready for anything.

Observe the Slave’s Reactions

Try blindfolding your slave and trying out different tones of voice when you are in a training session with them. This will allow you to see their reactions and it will tell you how your slave might respond to certain tones of voice. Information like this can then be incorporated into your next training session, and allow you to target your training to their slave’s current responses. In time, they might respond differently, so maintain awareness about how they are and what they might do when you respond in a certain way.

Your voice is the only tool for control you really need, once you know how to use it. Though you may not know how to use your voice effectively right now, the more confident you are in your role, the more your voice will follow. Pretend you are the most knowledgeable person in the world when you walk into the dungeon and speak with a strong voice. Your slave already thinks of you as being someone who can control her, so all you need to do is follow through with a commanding voice.

Let your voice command your slave and let your voice do the training for you. Soon, your voice will ring in her ears and mind each time she has to decide how to please you.

Regards, 

Master Bishop

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Is It Coincidence?

July 21, 2014

The beauty of a silent submissive



















I think this was very much on purpose.  To listen one must be silent, both truly important skills for a submissive to master.  What do you think?

Master Bishop

 

Why Speaking Sweetly Can Make Your Sub Cringe

July 9, 2014

Your sub, by now, knows about your mean voice and it probably makes him cringe. He doesn’t know what it might be saying, but he knows he’s in for something terrible. When you start to create a long-term BDSM relationship, it’s easy to fall into patterns that work for you. And when you’re training your slave, being mean is often a great way to make sure that he listens. But you need to switch things up – by talking sweetly.

More Flies with Honey?

When you think about it, you already know that talking sweetly to others will get you what you want. Though you might try to be mean in your everyday life, that just doesn’t work as well outside of the dungeon. Instead, you need to be nice, but not so nice that you’re a pushover. When you are with your slave and you tell him naughty and horrible things in a sweet voice, he will still get the message. Notice how he shivers a bit because you sound like you’re sweet, even harmless, but the content of what you’re saying is going to cause him to be at your feet. He knows that you could turn in an instant, and that keeps him on his toes. Read more

Keeping Your Words the Same

Yes, when you’re changing the way that you talk to your slave, remember that content is more important than ever. You need to keep up the humiliation, the taunting, and the names that you call your slave. When you do this, you will ensure that he listens because he’s not expecting to hear any of that. He might be thinking that you’re finally going to treat him like a true equal, or some other crazy thought. Instead, you need to continue talking to him, training him, and you’ll notice that he’s not as painful during training sessions where he just seems to ache for punishment. Instead, he listens to you because he knows that you’re still focused on making him the best slave possible.

Never Be the Same Person Twice

You can start talking sweetly without any introduction. Keep your voice light and feminine, if possible, and talk about things without yelling once during a training session. Not only will this shift training for your slave, but you will also notice that you’re not going to be as overwhelmed by the sessions either. You’re going to stay cool and collected, allowing your slave to have the best possible training. Your head will be in the game and you will stay detached, to a certain extent, because you’re not raising your voice and getting more heated (and exhausted) than you need to be.

Speaking sweetly may not seem like the meanest toy in your dungeon, but it’s essential when you have a slave that has grown accustomed to the way that you usually do things. By merely talking without any anger or intensity, you will make your slave realize that you are always their Mistress, no matter what you might sound like. They will begin to learn that you are the one that is in charge, even when you’re not upset with them. Sometimes, you need to catch a slave with a honey voice, one that makes them wonder when you might turn on the anger again. The anticipation of being afraid of you will only make them more nervous about what you’re going to do next. And that’s the mindset your slave should have as they are training. They’re yours to control because they are only looking to you for guidance.

Regards,

Mistress Sophia

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