How to Know When You’re Ready for Public Scenes

August 16, 2010

Taking your BDSM out into the world isn’t something that’s for everyone. Some people prefer to keep their proclivities in private, enjoying these relationships in their own homes. But if you’re looking for a little more excitement or you’re just curious to see what the public BDSM scene is like, you might want to step outside of your home or apartment to find out how you fit in, if at all. There are some clear signs that you are ready to take your BDSM relationship out of the house and into the public eye.

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You Have Experience
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When you’re new to the BDSM world, you might be excited to have as many hot experiences as possible. But while you might think you’re ready emotionally, the maturity you need to be a part of the public BDSM world is something that many people just don’t understand. You need to make sure that you are ready to handle the emotions that come from playing with someone you might never see again. You need to be ready to say no and to define the rules by which you will play – and not play. You need to understand how to keep yourself safe at all times. Ideally, you want to have at least one year of training under your leather belt before you head out into a BDSM club or another play party. This will give you some time to really define your role as a Dominant or a slave.

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You Know Your Boundaries
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Boundaries are something that you know you need to have, but you may not have them defined clearly right now. Before you head out into a public BDSM scene, you need to make sure that you are ready to share your boundaries with others and then stand up for yourself when they are being crossed. Though BDSM gatherings are filled with people who understand the idea of lines and rules, a newer person or someone who just gets caught up in the moment might not be as accommodating as you need them to be. As a Dominant or a slave, you need to be able to define your boundaries clearly and you need to be comfortable saying to someone else that you do not want to do what they want you to do. If you aren’t ready to stand up for your needs, then you’re not ready to do a public scene.

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You Recognize the Possible Consequences
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Going out into the public with your BDSM enjoyment is going to be a risk for you as well as for your partner. You need to remember that this is the case and that you might have consequences as a result of your actions. If you are able to think of ways you will handle these outcomes, then you are ready for public scenes. If you do not have ideas in mind as to how you might handle possible problems, you need to stop and think things through a bit. For example, if someone from your workplace sees you, then what will you do? If your ex-partner sees you, how might you handle that? Though this is certainly a game of ‘what if,’ you need to be ready to defend yourself, just as you might with any sensitive issue.

Public play is not necessary as a BDSM practitioner, but it is something that will spice up your relationship and help to refine your skills. Making sure you are ready for this sort of intense play is necessary in order to have a fun and a safe time with other BDSM folks. And once you’re ready, you most certainly will.

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One Response to “How to Know When You’re Ready for Public Scenes”

  1. pepe on October 12th, 2010 3:07 pm

    Very true. I went first to a club with my Mistress and was with her most of the time but am now able to go-dress-and be happy about knowing my limits. They are totally respected too. Pepe

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