Though you may try to be the best submissive you can be, there will be times when you fail. There will be times when you let your Master down and they are displeased with you. While you will hopefully not be trying to make your Master mad at you, when you do disappoint them, you can use this time as a learning opportunity, allowing you to become better in your role and more effective in your submissive title.
Know What You Did
At times, you may not understand what you have done wrong, even if you know that your Master is displeased. It makes sense to begin the process of atonement by learning what the problem is/was. Talk to your Master and ask them to tell you what you should have done differently. In addition, you will want to search within yourself to find out what you feel you did wrong. There are other layers to your submissive nature, and you may find that there are emotional blocks that are hindering you in your goal to please your Master.
Learn What to Do
You may also want to ask your Master what they would rather you have done at the time of your failing in your role. When you do this, try to learn as many specifics as possible, since this will ensure you understand exactly what you did, how you needed to act, and what you WILL do the next time you are in that situation.
Ask for Guidance
To show that you are not simply asking your Master for the answers, let them know that you are interested in learning how to make up for mistakes when they happen. Be clear in talking with your Master about how you want to do better and that it would be helpful to you to find out what else they might need from you in order to move past this situation.
Request Forgiveness
Once you have found out what you have done wrong, thought about it, and corrected what needs to be corrected, you can ask your Master for forgiveness. This might be something that you ask for after a few days, as you want to show that you have thought on your mistake and that you understand that you have disappointed him. Realize too that he may not forgive you immediately, and be graceful in accepting this decision as well.
Don’t Repeat the Mistake
The best thing you can do once you have make a mistake is to make sure that you never, ever do it again. While it’s true that you are human and that you are going to make mistakes, when you are in a submissive role, it is best to make sure you are diligent about learning from those mistakes. You need to spend your time finding out how you can overcome your human propensity for errors. Practice the behaviors that are acceptable and practice shifting your mind to successful submission.
If you find you are making more mistakes than usual in your slave role, it may be time to consider whether you are cut out for the role. You want your Master to have the best submissive possible, and this means someone who is dedicated to learning and improving.
Most of the time, mistakes that happen will be corrected and life in the dungeon will move on. Remember, you are responsible for your learning and for your growth as a submissive, and it is your duty to make sure you make up for the mistake as much as you can – by learning and applying the lessons correctly.
Regards,
Master Bishop
The founder of the BDSM Training Academy. Master Bishop has been involved in the Dominant/submissive lifestyle for over 12 years. With a love for education both learning and teaching, Master Bishop has passed on his knowledge and experience to others entering into the BDSM lifestyle for over 8 years. Join Master Bishop on Google+
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