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Show You’re Ready for Tougher Training

May 2, 2012

As a slave, you have a lot of responsibilities to your Master/Mistress. You have to show him that you are listening to what he is telling you and that you are going to do what he commands you to do. Even though you might not have thought you were going to be a good slave in the beginning, over time, and with dedication, you have become a more effective slave, someone who is able to follow directions and be graceful in your role. What happens when you have reached all of your current training goals?

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Talk to Your Master/Mistress
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When you feel that you are ready for more intensive training as a slave, you need to let your Master know. While he might have a slight idea, he might also feel more comfortable with you asking for more intense work, than to give it to you when HE feels you are ready. At the same time, a Master/Mistress might want to wait until a slave feels they are ready and then put them through tests to see if this is the case. Or a Master/Mistress might choose to control their slave by only allowing them to reach certain levels of training…until the Master/Mistress wants to move them to new challenges.

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Change Your Contract
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If you want to start adding in more intense exercises that move you past the pre-determined limits you have in your contract, then you will need to sit down together to change the contract entirely. Show what parts you want to add to and which parts you want to keep in place. You may need to explain to your Master/Mistress why you feel you need to have more intensity, so be ready to explain what you have already learned. Once the new contract is in place, then you will need to follow these new rules and you will need to be ready for the new limits to be pushed in each training session.

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Intensify Training Sessions
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When you’re not talking to a Master/Mistress regularly or you don’t have a contract because you only do BDSM scenes once in a while, then the slave might want to show the Master/Mistress they can take more. You can do this by asking the Master for more spankings or whippings, etc. You can also make sure that you’re pushing your body into the pain that you might be receiving, showing that you may be able to take on more pain in each scene. At the same time, you will need to perform all of your duties perfectly so it’s clear that you need to be challenged more. Some slaves think they need to behave badly in order to start seeing more intense scenes, but this can often anger the Master more than it will encourage them to increase the training.

It’s natural for you to want more challenges as you develop in your role as a slave. When you feel that you are ready, talk to your Master/Mistress or request that he try to add more responsibilities to your slave role. You might want to frame this in the context that you want to please him more and do more for him because you want to be the best possible slave you can be. While it might take a little time for the Master/Mistress to transition to a new training program, knowing that he has already mastered one level of your training will encourage him to see what else he can have you do. Before talking to your Master/Mistress be certain you are ready for more intense training as it’s hard to take such a request back. Looking to the BDSM Slave Training to learn more ways to serve your Master/Mistress.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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Creating ‘Good’ Pain

April 25, 2012

Pain is a beautiful thing in BDSM, especially when it’s done right. No matter what your personal preference is for giving or receiving pain, you need to make sure that you’re giving your slave pain in a way that will not only cause them to feel hurt, but that will also cause them to feel ecstasy. And this takes practice, especially when the slave and the Dom/me are not accustomed to each other. You will want to take a multi-step approach to creating pain for a slave so that everyone is happy and healthy in the process.

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The Contract for Pain
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Before you administer any pain and before you even step into the dungeon, you need to start off with a discussion of what sort of pain is possible, what is a limit, and what is simply not as option. You may want to ask your slave if they have a high tolerance for pain and what they know will hurt them too much. This is also a good opportunity for the slave to talk about what scares them about pain and whether they truly trust you as the Dom/me. Make sure all of these details are discussed before a scene and before the flogger or the whip even comes into the bedroom.

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The Warm Up
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The body needs to be warmed up in order to have a good physical response. Just as when you exercise, you need to get the blood flowing in your slave if you want them to have the maximum sensations. You can do this in a number of ways. First, you might want to try spanking or flogging or whatever you plan to do to your slave, in a lighter fashion. At this point, you’re not trying to hurt them, but you are trying to get the nerves more sensitive and you’re trying to get the blood flowing to the top of the skin. This is called leathering up the skin. This should go on for a while, as this will also help to sink the slave into a different mindset, where they will not be worried as much about pain.

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The Intense Sensations
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Once the body seems to be warmed up and the slave seems to be ready to accept the pain that you are going to give them, then it’s time to turn up the intensity. Focus on one area of the body, then move to another, etc. You want to make sure that the slave’s body isn’t getting too much in just one small area, as this can cause the body’s pain response to numb the area and keep the sensations from being pleasurable. Also, watch to see what the slave is doing. When the slave is moving toward your hitting implement, then you know they are enjoying the sensations. If they are moving away, then you know that you might want to move to a new spot on their body, where they are not as sensitive. Yet.

The key with inflicting pain is that you need to figure out where you can and where you cannot hit a person, then start off slowly, and then make things more intense. As you work with your slave for longer periods of time, this process becomes instantaneous, but at first, it never hurts to take things slow. After all, if you harm your slave, then you may not get a chance to try again. When the trust between yourself and your slave is diminished, then you’re going to have troubles doing anything that helps your slave feel as though they are being pleasured or made to feel something good. Discover more ways to enhance and intensify your BDSM scenes.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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Spring Cleaning Your Dungeon Or Play Space

April 19, 2012

Every now and then, you need to change things up. And when you’re satisfied with the training, you need to think about how you can spruce up your environment so that the training can be more effective. Cleaning your play room might be just the thing to turn your training into a more effective process, even if nothing else changes. And its always a good idea to clean up your room and toys, to avoid unnecessary issues that could harm the health of anyone who plays in the area.

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Clear Away the Old
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When you first start cleaning up your dungeon, start by removing any of the old toys that you don’t need or don’t use anymore. If you haven’t been using it, chances are good that you won’t be using it any time soon. You can throw them away and remove them entirely, or you can put them into a special box and store them away for a while. In six months, if you still haven’t used those stored toys, then it might be time to get rid of them completely. And when you do so, think about why you’re not using them so you don’t spend money on those types of toys again.

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Replace the Used Toys
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On the other hand, there may be a number of toys that you have in your dungeon that you use so often that they’re starting to wear out. This is a common practice, especially in a long-term BDSM relationship. When this occurs, you need to find the same kinds of toys, and possibly more durable toys so you can continue to use them for longer. For example, if you find that dildos are getting a good workout in your training sessions, then you need to look into more durable dildos made from silicone, glass or maybe even metal. All of these are easier to clean and last longer. Check out these for highly durable silicone, glass and metal pleasure toys If you’ve been using pleather in your training, then switch up to real leather for more resilience and longevity. If you are finding your floggers are starting to fray and handles wearing down, then replace them with individually designed high quality leather floggers

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Sanitize Your Dungeon
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Once you’ve removed the things you don’t use and you’ve replaced the toys you do use, then you need to sanitize the space so you’re starting off fresh. Cleaning your dungeon/play space should not be left for once a year. This should be a regular occurrence after each play session.

You can use natural cleaners like vinegar and hydrogen peroxide (separately) on the surfaces. These will have the lowest amount of allergic reactions, or you can use more hardy cleaners that are designed specifically for medical sanitation. Clean all of the surfaces, as well as the walls and the floor to ensure that everything is ready to be used, without fear of germs. Also using a steam cleaner will help to remove any grunge, the high temperature of the steam helps to kill pathogens as well. While none of these are perfect cleaning techniques by themselves, a combination of all of them will greatly help to cleanse your space of most pathogens.

At the bare minimum, you should be cleaning out your dungeon to make sure that you’re in a space that is clean and free from dangers as a part of your training contract. In relationships where the room isn’t one that is visited often, you can even make cleaning the space a part of the training sessions. A slave who is able to clean a room to their Master or Mistress’ specifications will learn the art of discipline and keep their training space usable at all times.

As a side note, when you begin to clean your room and you notice there are fabric surfaces that aren’t able to be cleaned with traditional sprays and rags, it might be time to replace these surfaces with a fabric that can be cleaned more regularly and easily. Over time, you can have a sterile space in which you and your partner can both feel comfortable to enjoy all of your BDSM kinks in. For more durable and higher quality tools check out these BDSM toys and bondage gear.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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How to Stay Comfortable in Difficult Bondage Positions

April 10, 2012

As a slave, your goal is to make sure that your Master is happy at all times. Whether you are in or out of the dungeon, you need to be sure you are following the rules and doing as you are told. But this doesn’t mean it’s always going to be easy – or even comfortable. When you’re a slave in a bondage situation, it’s going to become difficult at times. To ensure that you can endure your bondage gracefully, you need to learn some tricks to ensure every bondage scene is one that impresses your Master and allows them to be proud of you as their slave.

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Communicate with Your Master
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Before you begin to have intense bondage scenes, you need to be sure that you are communicating about your body to your Master. For example, your Master should find out if you have a shoulder injury that needs to be watched out for. They should know your level of flexibility, any current injuries you have, and any limitations your joints might have. You need to be clear about what your Master can and can’t do safely with your body. If you do have some old injuries, but you want to try out the bondage positions anyway, that’s up to you. However, the more you communicate, the more comfortable you will be in the end. This isn’t about avoiding bondage, but about protecting the parts of your body that are weak. An injured slave is not an effective slave.

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A Healthy Body Can Go Further
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A healthy strong body is a body that is capable of handling more rigorous restraints. If you want to feel more comfortable in bondage then you need to make sure that you have strong core muscles and a flexible body. The core muscles help to maintain balance especially during extreme conditions. you may not be aware of them, but they are constantly working in the background of your body. Of course, being more flexible will help to allow you to push yourself into more extreme bondage positions.

The only way to achieve these results is by actively maintaining a regular exercise and stretching program. So don’t be shy about getting sweaty, just remember why you putting in all this hard work.

**Always consult with a medical professional before starting any exercise/stretching regiment.

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Breathe In, Breathe Out
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Once you are in a difficult bondage position, take a few moments to assess the position. Are you comfortable? Is something truly hurting? If something is hurting badly or you feel stretched in a position you don’t want to do, you need to speak up or move or communicate with your Master somehow. If you don’t have any problems, then you need to stop for a moment, settle in, and then start to breathe in and out. This will help to calm down your body and relax your muscles. Continue to breathe in and out in a rhythmic pattern to help your body relax more and more. While you might still feel your body in the tight position, the more you can relax your body, the longer you can handle any position of bondage – even in predicament bondage.

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Getting into Subspace
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When you are in tight bondage and your Master is continuing to test you with other sensations, you will find your mind begins to drift away and that you are not as aware of what is happening. This is subspace. There are two trains of thought about this. Some Masters want you to get to that highly suggestive state where you are simply ‘there’ but you are not there. On the other hand, some Masters want you to be fully aware of everything that’s happening to you, so they might not want you in this state. You will have to check with your Master about that. If they are okay with subspace, then you will simply need to think about another place away from the position you are in. When you do this, you will begin to forget what your body is doing and what it feels like.

Being in a tight bondage position is something that will challenge you as a slave, but that doesn’t mean you need to suffer. Exercising and stretching before bondage, so that your body is warmed up, taking some time to breathe and to know your body’s limitations, will allow you to be more graceful, no matter what you are doing. Make sure you understand yourself and your body before taking part in any BDSM slave training or rope bondage techniques. A great lesson for any slave.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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Writing on a Sub’s Body

April 5, 2012

Words are more powerful than we realize, but those who practice BDSM already know this. When a certain word is said or shouted, it can evoke a reaction in the slave that causes them to be more subservient or to feel as though they are less than a person. While words are certainly effective when they are said aloud, writing them on your slave’s body can also remind your slave who is in charge of their body – you. A Master or Mistress who carefully writes out the things they tell their slave will create a lasting impression, even long after the words have been washed away.

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Supplies You Need
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In order to write words on your slave, all you need are some markers, an eyeliner pencil, some lipstick, or any other writing tool. These tools will allow for writing on the skin, and they can then be washed off after a scene. In some cases, you might ask that the slave not wash the words off, and to ensure this to be the case, you might use permanent markers, which will wash off, but not immediately. Think about your slave and what might cause them the most humiliation, as using lipstick or other makeup pieces might cause shame in some male slaves, for example.

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What to Say
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There are plenty of words that you might use on your slave to cause them to feel the words you say to them. You might want to use words like ‘sissy’ or ‘slut’ on their bodies, reminding them of their place in your partnership. You can also write out all of the things that the slave tells you about himself, in terms of how unworthy they are of your affection. Consider your words carefully or have your slave do a writing assignment about the words that make them feel humiliated. Keeping in mind any agreements you have about words that might be off limits, use the words that seem to have the most impact on your slave.

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How to Take Words Out of the Dungeon
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When you’re in the middle of a scene, you can ask the slave to write these words on their body in service to you, or you might want to take the words and write them yourself, saying them over and over as the slave is serving you. Other Dom/mes might prefer to write the words on their slave and then instruct them to leave the words on their skin for as long as possible, remembering their meaning and their place.

It’s also a good idea to have a slave write certain words on their body when you’re not around, causing them to reflect on certain parts of their humiliation training. The more they use these words on their body, the more your voice will sound in their head as the only voice that matters. It can also be powerful to have a slave write these words in a prominent place and then go out in public as an act of service.

No matter how you choose to use words on the body of your slave, remember that words have power. The more that you begin to show your slave that you have control over their body and mind, the more they will serve you and grow into this role. It is not just a matter of punishing a body when using BDSM training, you also need to train the mind of your slave to continue their training, even when you’re not around. And if humiliation is one of your tools of training, the act of physical labels is a good way to continue outside of the dungeon. For more ways to enforce your control of your slave go to BDSM slave training

If you have anything that you like to write on a slave’s body please leave a comment below and let everybody know what your favorite things to write are.

Regards,

Master Bishop

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